Am I being too picky?

Question

When I'm looking for a guy to date, I tend to only go for the guys that interest me and never even bother looking at the others. Is this being too picky? (to elaborate I like guys who have good personality and looks) Perhaps this is why I can't ever get a guy.

Answer 1

Well you see, the thing is, they can't all be super smart and sexy looking like myself. By the way, this is essentially how every woman in the world thinks, so don't kick yourself too much. I myself tend to only go for people I'm interested in too. Go figure.

Seriously though, most women find themselves in the same boat you're in right now because they only go after the guys that just aren't ready for the commitment the woman is looking for. I realize this is a pretty large generalization coming from a man, but I've heard enough of you complain enough about it, so I aughta know.

So if this happens to be you, then I suggest that you consider dating older men. Think about it. The older a person gets, the more likely they are to want to settle down with someone. I'm so profound sometimes, it kills me. Who knows, maybe your perfect man is a few more years ahead of you than you realize...

Answer 2

You are not too picky, but selective. You know what you want and thats classy!!! I am like that as well. I agree its hard to get a bloke when you rule out most but this is what we want!!! If its something that you don't really want, then it will not last, so whats the point right?

The only problem is that we end up seeing every guy who is up to our standards as a potential boyfriend. This is bad as in life things only happen by chance, it usually doesn't work out when you think that it will because he is the right guy. You have to make sure you sleep/kiss some men, enjoy life and someday when you won't expect it he'll find u. Good luck!

Answer 3

Well maybe you should find a guy with 1-2 interests alike and then go from there. No it's not too picky you should just head in a different direction. Join a group you enjoy you can meet a guy there and go out with them. If it turns out the guy doesn't like you try again. After all you can be in a room with 100 guys and not like one of them or you can be in a room with 1 guy and he's perfect. You've gotta make that choice.

Answer 4

first of all, I think the problem lies with "When I'm looking for a guy to date"... that just means that you are not letting your heart take over but using your brain too much...

there is a very fine line between being "too picky" and not knowing what you really want... a lot of people don't know themselves well enough to really be able to tell what makes them happy, and keep looking for the person with "Everything"... of course at some point that makes you think that you are too picky... because the "perfect guy" (James Bond ?) only exists in the movies...

You should give people a chance, but be very honest and true to yourself... leave the "good personality and looks" checklist at home for a couple of weeks or months, and see what you run into... don't think too much, but just see if you enjoy the moments with someone for whatever reason...

If its any consolation, a lot us (including myself) have gone through this phase of "am I too picky or the people around me just aren't good enough..."

unfortunately, true love only hits you when you stop searching for it... that I can tell you from personal experience :)

Good luck !

Answer 5

When you go shopping and you see a funky skirt that you really want, do you still bother looking at the ones next to it that you know you dont want to buy? Exactly!
Theres nothing wrong with being picky and knowing what you want girl! Thats how I played it and I ended up with the most adorable, sweet guy as a fiance. Keep your head up, standards high and demand to be treated like a princess! We all deserve it!

Answer 6

You can't help who you are interested in.When finding someone to be with it's alright to be picky because it's your life and you have to make yourself happy. Everyone wants someone who is good looking and has a great personality. What you might find is that you are overlooking people who have a great personality and who will become more attractive to you with time. Sometimes when you get to know someone they become more attractive to you. That isn't always the case though because you can't make yourself attracted to someone. But it's important not to count people out before you have given them a chance.

Answer 7

Well who wouldn't want that? Remember that there is always a trade off when it comes to certain things. My woman is drop dead gorgeous and has a great personality! I prefer that to average and quiet. It's all about personal preference. The other person has to want to like you as well, so if you only like one type of person then your chances of hooking up become less. It's ok though stop trying so hard and it will come to you when the time is right and you least expect it. Good luck!

Answer 8

Maybe you are being too picky...lighten up and just go with the flow. Don't lower your standards, but maybe THE ONE (if he even exists) comes in a different package. Just go with the flow and don't worry so much about the physical. Stick with the personality though...Good luck!!

Answer 9

Its not too picky, Its just high standards. You go girl!!! The problem with most girls these days is that they just settle... Why do that tho?? Its good to see other girls out there that have high self esteem and know that they can do better. DONT EVER SETTLE... Mr right will come along. Good luck.

Answer 10

If you think you are too picky, then make a effort to talk to guys that would not normally be your "type". You'd be surprised who you would meet.