me and my gf has been hooked up like for a month now.and recently she told me that her mom has started suspecting her so i recommended that we better break up and be friends..but then she said she dont wanna break up..the thing is that today she told me that she really feels sad for cheating her mom or doing things behind her back because her mom has been like with her for anything..and my gf has always been nice and loyal..and this is like the 1st time she is into a relationship and her parents have been over protective...Guys i really love her and dont wanna lose her but at the same time i want her to be happy..if being with me doesnt make her feel happy then im ready to break up though i really dont want to...ANY SUGGESTIONS????
2006-08-04 03:06:51 · 18 answers · asked by Vaisakh S 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I went thru a similar thing with my bf when we first started dating....my parents were over protective and wouldn't let me out but at the same time I loved my bf a lot. So, to make a long story short, we continued to date each other, but made sure that our dates would start off as group dates...by this I mean she can say she is going out with a group of friends from school and then, once you are together, maybe you can sneak in some alone time...and this way she hasn't technically lied to her parents and she can't get in trouble. Also, you need to talk to her and find out what she wants to do...I mean if she really wants to date you, then maybe you need to figure out ways to date so she doesn't get in trouble for staying out late or whatever. If you need more advice you can email me...and if it makes you feel any better, my bf and I have been together for 6 years now and my mom is used to the idea of me dating the one guy I intend to marry. ....so good luck.
2006-08-04 03:14:52 · answer #1 · answered by monavyas15 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to be upfront and honest about ur relationship.. i mean if she's old enough to have boyfriends then she can let her mom know that it's this boy that she likes and that she would like for her to meet him (u).. and then she can take it from there..
but she didn't say u make her unhappy.. how can that be if she tells u she doesn't wanna break up??
but if she keep being deceptive to her mom, she'll become more overprotected and she'll eventually dislike u.. mom's have a way of thinking that everything there child does is because someone else made her do it..
now if the mom disagrees then remain friends and as u get older or as time goes by the mom will come around that's if the daughter is old enough to have a bf..
so see how that works out..
good luck..
2006-08-04 03:16:18 · answer #2 · answered by Queen D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First we need to get an age. Depending on how old she is and how old you are, it may just be lust, if her parents are overprotective, then she must not be in a relationship right now. But if you do love each other very much, do what you think would be better off. If would cause too much trouble being with her, why go through all that trouble? But if being with that person is everything to you and you want to take that risk without a doubt, then do you what you got to do. Meet her parents, talk with them, ask permission. Because it's important to know how their parents feel as well.
2006-08-04 03:12:49 · answer #3 · answered by poplockerbreaker 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you two?? If she really want to be with you, then the mature thing for her to do, is talk to her mom about it... she has to do the adult "thing" and let her mother know what's going on between you two. That why she won't have to lie or sneak behind her mother's back and she won't feel guilty for being with you. If she's not mature enough to talk to her mom and let her know what the deal is... then maybe you should back off from her. If she doesn't have enough courage to talk to her mom about your relationship...then she won't have the courage to come to you when there's a problem with your relationship. Good luck!!
2006-08-04 03:14:59 · answer #4 · answered by D.A. B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don;t think it is a big problem, every girl goes through this phase, it can leap both ways like in ur case ur girl has leaped towards feeling guilty and other times it can creat a high that u do things, while no one knows what exactly ur doing.
make her loved and comfortable, don;t break up , just let her take her time and i think she will understand with time that what is the difference between ur love and her parents love
2006-08-04 03:13:34 · answer #5 · answered by cc20 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are both mature enough to make the decision to stay together then you need to tell your parents and let them know that you respect them but you love each other and will stay together no matter what.
2006-08-04 03:12:02 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd suggest you and her be friends, that is better than nothig at all plus that could prevent you two from moving on so that you will be back together when the time is right.
2006-08-04 03:13:33 · answer #7 · answered by juz b in real wit it 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she can actually try and talk to her parents about it. my parents were kinda over protective too but i just told them that i met this guy and my dad asked me how i felt about him and i said that i loved him a lot and then they let me go out with him. everything worked out pretty good. i used to hide my other bfs but then i learned that i cant be that way forever. you both have to talk to the parents.
2006-08-04 03:13:08 · answer #8 · answered by Jmkisses 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have thier parents meet you? did you present your self to thgem? Well if you diden't try to so they'll know who she with & stop suspecting weired stuff tell them who you are & why you are with thier doughter be nice & behave good so they'll took a good feeling about you if all of this done rite maybe you be ok
2006-08-04 03:14:19 · answer #9 · answered by Yagami 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-03 21:10:27 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋