Move or Not Move?

Question

Okay see my boyfriend and I are having a rough patch in our relationship but we are trying to work through it and come out on the other side together. We have an apartment together right now. But see last Thursday we got into this arguement and more or less I was under the impression that he wanted me to move out, so I started moving my stuff (he said he thought we needed a break) well either way we went and signed me off of the lease and everything. But now we talked and everything and we are going to try to work through it, but see I used the rent money to pay my bills to get caught up, and now it won't set me behind to much but if he doesn't get my money he will not be able to keep the apartment, whether we are together or not. My question is two, should I pay him the money and stay with him for now, or go stay with my mom? If I dont' stay with my mom how do I tell her because I'm afraid she might not give me a chance to move in again, seeing as I came in and may go back out? HELP!

I know it's confusing and very long but if you want more info contact me, and please serious answers! I really need help have to make a decision today!

Answer 1

i say stay but go away for a weekend you two seem like you need a little break from eachother like me and my man did now we are perfect again...hoped i helped....best of luck to you girly...

Answer 2

What are you doing with a guy that can't afford an apartment on his own?
Go stay with Mom for now so you can try to work things out without the complication of living together. I also forsee a fight about money coming up, so if this happens give him some money so he can keep the apartment but still stay with your Mom until you can work through things. Don't be in a rush to move back in.

Answer 3

O.Kay, Take a big breath and weight in on your options. The last thing that you want in a situation like this is to make hasty decisions. First, you should sit down with your boyfriend and try to come to some resoluation about whether you and him should live together at this point. Second, it is not your responsibility to pay rent when you are no longer living in the apartment. You clearly stated that you and him both agreed to take you off of the lease. Thus, the rent is his responsibility. Although, I see more going on in this relationship I rather not comment on it.

My advise would be to move in with your mother and try to work on your relationship from a supportive environment. Moving in with your mother maybe a blessing!!

Answer 4

Honestly, and this is coming from a guy, who know how guys think. You might want to consider the fact that because he is in a financial tuff spot right now, he is willing to "work things out" but as soon as the rent is paid he is going to feel the same way he did before. Always protect your own behind, specialy when your young. Men don't even start being worth a damn until they ar 26 and even then they have issues. My advice: 2 things you can do. 1. Move out and give him the money telling him that your glad to know that your relationship has been worth half the rent, he will feel like crap and you will have the advantage. 2. offer to loan him the money if he is willing to sign a loan note and still move out. If you tell your mom that you have thought this through and that you are not going to be pushed around I am willing to bet she will be helpful, as long as you are honest with her. GOODLUCK

Answer 5

I think you should move out. If it's an already iffy situation, you shouldn't chance it happening again. I mean, what happens if he gets really ticked and kicks you out and it's too late to go to your mom's?
If you can move out now, you should. It doesn't mean that you have to break up with him. It will give you a break from one another as far as seeing each other all the time. And who knows, it might make you appreciate each other more.
As far as the money, if you're not on the lease and you're not staying there, I wouldn't give it to him. But if it's for a time when you are staying there, like the month before, you should give it to him.
Best of luck!!

Answer 6

Yeah I lived in an residence above the bar that my mom and father owned from at the same time as i became 4 till i became 6. Then I moved some miles away and my dad worked on a farm. Then we moved back about a million a million/2 years later. And stayed till i became 10. i do not precisely undergo in innovations why we moved back.

Answer 7

many people arent going to agree with me attall but as i can gather this is a long term boyfriend.. surely he wouldn't deserve you to disappear and not help him out with the last months rent!! I say you warn him on what your going to do talk it over with him explain that you will help him for say another month but after that your back at your mums. It depends whether you want to be with this man or not? if you want to be with him and live with him then why are you thinking of going back to your mums.. if you dont wanna be with him your gonna wanna leave now !.. why dont you explaint the situation to your mum maybe she could help you she would also understand why you are hesitant what to do ..hope this helps good luck!

Answer 8

I would move. And not give him money. Moving will give you two a break but that does not mean that you can not still see each other. He may not realize how much he loves you if you stay. And you may realize that you need your space too.

Answer 9

Looks like things are becoming unpredictable in your relationship. Take a break, and give yourself a chance to look at things from the outside.

Answer 10

well in this caes i would stay a couple of day with ur mom so u arent on bad terms with her, and still give him some money to help keep the apartment