For couples who have premarital sex, or are cohabitating, is marriage a mere formality or does marriage still hold some value in today's soceity?
2006-08-04 02:57:16 · 9 answers · asked by monavyas15 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We cohabitated for many years before we got married. The funny thing is that things were completely different that night after the wedding. We started pulling away where before we were pushing ourselves together. It came to a crisis after a year or two. We were lucky that we made it through the crisis because now we have a marriage. It's a value for me and my spouse because we work as partners growing together in life. Plus our little ones have a safe and secure home - we'll see how this affects them in life.
Above is my story - and it's what works for me.
In regards to the whole of society, marriage seems to be becoming an outmoded ritual. Most that get married do so with divorce as a solution (myself included). Families aren't stable anymore and kids seem to be unsecure and unstable as a result. People equate the breakdown of society with the breakdown of family and marriage. But if it's true - no one can really say no matter what study, etc. Each individual has to figure out this for themselves. Making societal rules and laws solely based on 2000 year old texts is a mistake - things, times, and people change.
2006-08-04 04:40:00 · answer #1 · answered by Applecore782 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Who cares about society? Marriage should have value to those involved, otherwise don't get married.
There are plenty of people who have had premarital sex or cohabitate and still get married and are happy.
Marriage is not just about sex. It goes much deeper and further then sex.
2006-08-04 03:04:56 · answer #2 · answered by fatima_mst 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it holds value. I lived with my husband for a bit before we were married. He has always been wonderful to me, but once we got married he was even more wonderful. He said since we made the total commitment to each other that he was more at ease and finally knew that we would be together forever.
2006-08-04 03:03:28 · answer #3 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is what you say it is...your marriage vows express your commitment to your partner...people today consider these words a mere formality and speak with little regard to the value behind the words they speak...choose your partner wisely.
2006-08-04 03:05:53 · answer #4 · answered by Goodspeed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only value the license ever had was in the eyes of the lawyer during divorce proceedings. marriage is a commitment of two people to each other,and the values lies in that commitment not in the license.
2006-08-04 03:47:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's very different. See, if you get married, that means you're promising yourself and the other person that you will really always put them first (even above Mom and Dad), take responsibility for your decisions, your own life, your life together; and stay with them, no matter how difficult things get. It means you really want to become one with them and stay that way. Then sex means something completely different.
2006-08-04 03:10:40 · answer #6 · answered by songkaila 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, there is the tax benefits, health insurance benefits, and religous reasons. In addition, if the couple is going to have children, those children won't understand why their parents aren't married but still together.
2006-08-04 03:05:22 · answer #7 · answered by Leah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Still it holds, but it is like beauty (beholder has to decide).
2006-08-04 03:04:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes....yes it is
2006-08-04 03:11:04 · answer #9 · answered by WEEBLEZ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋