do we carry our pain n sorrow wherever we go?

Question

after a long suffering,death of mother,hard working days,huge responsibilities at work,i decided to take a 3 weeks' vacation just seeking for peace of mind.am spending most of my time sitting on the sea,just watching, n listening to nothing than the sound of water.few more days n i will go back to my non-stop running type of life..the pain is still there,missing grew bigger,n the fear of the coming days is endless...do we carry the pain wherever we go?

Answer 1

im so sorry to hear about your mam i send my deepest sympathy in my own experience i think we do carry the pain everywhere my mam and dad left me and my brother wen we were two my grandma and grandad took over the roll of being my mam and dad it also split me and my brother up as my aunt reared him i alway feel as if i did something wrong and bear the burden everyday as time went on my new mam to me died wen i was 13 im now 31 and i never forget her and i have my silent teary moments now just in feb the dad i loved so much(granda) passed away he had alziemers and it was horrible to think he didnt know me before he died and as im writing this yes the pain is real very real its not as painful as it was bk then but its still with me but im glad for the memories and thats what keeps me going i hope you have memories to sadflower as they are very special

Answer 2

Fortunately no. Otherwise I would still be crying and carrying the sorrow of my mother's death even twelve years ago. Time has a wonderful way of healing hurt, so that after a few years to remember the good things (and times) about a person, rather than the bad, sorrowful, painful memories you have now. Please don't worry as this time will pass and you will get back to living a normal life. It might be hard at the moment, but you must have hope and perserverance and you will reach the light at the end of the tunnel. Just believe this and you can't go wrong.

Answer 3

Sounds like you're doing the right thing...I love sitting & listening to nature...nothing is better for the soul. Yes we always carry the pain & sorrow. The trick is to learn to live with it. Not an easy task. Take another look at that ocean & listen closer...you will find your answers. Take time to reflect...there is strength & wisdom within.

And if your life is so hectic to where you think you're gonna go crazy trying to keep up with it, change it! Only you know what your heart & soul need to survive. Simplify your life & you might feel better. good luck. Hope this helps.

Answer 4

We have a habit of doing just that not realising that it doesnt have to affect our daily lives. Sadness and loss are truly immense and the daily trudge doesnt help matters. Maybe you should go to counseling there are many bereavement counsellors who help you come to terms with the loss of loved ones.
I lost my mum when I was 21 years old and the pain is still there but I have learned to cope with it. But what works for me may not work for you. Do a google search for counselling in your area and make an appointment.
Your mum would not want you to be this sad if you try to concentrate on that it may help you.
I am sorry for your loss losing your mother is the biggest loss in life and we only have them for such a short time.
I hope that you will take up counselling to help you through this.

Answer 5

I think it just takes time. But that pain will always be apart of us. It's just life and we need to accept it unfortunatly. When I'm sad I alwasys tell myself that I have a choice, I can be sad, or I can be happy. Most of the time I choose happy. Do what you love, and never stop fighting. Hope will get you through. And when you think you don't have any, remember where you have been, you won't want to quit. There is always hope. When you can't get any lower, the only way is up, right?

Answer 6

Yes we do carry the pain wherever we go because the brain stores our memories which we can sometimes never forget- its always there at the back of your head. However these memories can be less painful if you seek happiness- be in a happy surrounding, doing what you love best.

Answer 7

If someone close to you has died, you may be feeling many different emotions. You may be sad, worried, or scared. You might be shocked, unprepared, or confused. You might be feeling angry, cheated, relieved, guilty, exhausted, or just plain empty. Your emotions might be stronger or deeper than usual or mixed together in ways you've never experienced before.

You might also notice that your loss is affecting what you're thinking about and how you behave. If you're grieving, you might be having trouble concentrating, sleeping, eating, or feeling interested in the things you usually enjoy. You might be trying to act like you feel OK (even if you don't) because you want to be strong for someone else. And you may wonder if you will ever get over losing someone who means so much to you.

All of these emotions can be natural reactions to the death of someone close. They're part of the process of grieving.

Answer 8

Give yourself time to grieve you have had to deal with a lot, you have done the right thing taking some time out and just resting but it will take some time for the impact of all this to lessen, be kind to yourself when you go back and make sure you allow some time out each day to relax.

Answer 9

Sounds like we do! But it does not last forever. believe me when I say that in time it turns into joy. There are people that love you and care for your well being. So instead, try to focus on those positives in your life. After all, life is worth living...Good luck and God Bless!

Answer 10

The pain will go away soon ifelt like you when my gradmother died. I just had to exept that she was gone and in the hands of god. Cry as long as you want. As long as it takes you'll be alright.
I hope you have a good and full life.