im 18, 2 weeks ago ma phycotic girlfrnd hu i hvnt seen fr a yr droppd of my baby girl....?

Question

i liv on campus, im broke, i hav no family, and got a little 5 month yr old girl called gina hu hasnt let me sleep for 2 weeks
im fallin behin on work n can feel maslf gettin hungrier evry nite!!! doesnt this kid need her mum?
i met this girl at 13 after i lost ma whole family n ma brothers jailed for life....she helpd me through evrything, she was all i had i luved her soo much we wer tgetha for a few years. shes phsycotic, she made me hate maslf told me i was worthless evryday until i belived it and i wanted to die. for sum reason wen i turned 17 she went to the police n told em she was raped...by ME aparently...
she was proven wrong obviously coz it neva happend. i jus dnt understnd y she hates me so much. n out of da bluu she left gina at my door with a little note saying.....your kid your problem.....................................................I CANT LUK AFTA HERR wat shall i doo??????

i aint gonna drop herrr u ppl are madddim jus freaked i cant look after her but ive fallen in love with her shes all i got

wat da fuk is rong with da way i talk? or type LEAVE IT OUT jus answer my question

Answer 1

call social services... they will be able to help you out. u need to think whats best for your daughter... plus, if you havent seen her 4 a while, the baby might not be yours...

but why do i get the feeling that this is all a load of rubbish? and surly that if u are a college or uni, ur flatmates wont be too happy about this either...? and im pretty certain that you can spell better that that too...

Answer 2

Okay so you don't articulate well but you do make your point and you do it rather well.

This is your child and there are a few things you need to do. Get to the welfare office and get signed up. Go to the health department and get on wic. Yes I know its women, infants and children, she qualifies.

Forget family or friends for now unless there is someone you are leaving her with while you work.

This child deserves a good home with plenty of food and toys and an education. If you are not prepared for this find a family that is good and kind and give her up for adoption. You can do private through an attorney (adopting family pays for this) and have it be open so that you can have contact with her.
This would be the best and you say you fell in love with her. Prove it by giving her what she needs more than anything. A stable homelife with benefits. You can't do this for her.

If you insist on keeping her then do the first things I mentioned or there are going to be child welfare folks knocking at your door and taking her away because of what they would term as neglect.

Never mind the morons who have focused on your spelling or choice of phrases they are the sad bunch here, you need help and soon.

Let us know how it works out please!

PS keep that note it may prove necessary if the mom comes back looking for her. It shows she pretty much signed off parental rights.

Answer 3

First of all she is better of with someone that isn't phycotic. What sort of life do you want to give your child? The first thing to do is to learn to speak English properly.

1.Have your contacted social services, one of my colleagues sister wasn't working and so got £700 a week for the baby while she was studying.

2.Who can you get to look after her when your in lectures?

3. You need to contact your solicitors to get advice on what to do if your ex turns up wanting Gina back, considering she abandon her she really isn't fit to be a mother so you need to put it down on paper that you are now the rightful guardian.

4. No matter how much you have "fallen in love with her" does that make you a good parent? If you can't cope and have no family then you need to get help from social services to see what support you can get to help you cope. After all you have had a baby thrown on you without being able to get used to the idea and preparing yourself for the big day as you would if you were planning a pregnancy.

Answer 4

Keep her and whatever you do-don't go to Social Services. You are at your wits ends and they will pick up on that. You already said you love her an this being said-you will do what ever it takes to take care of her. She will quickly become the sparkle of your eye. Take her to a pediatric Dr. for a complete check-up. Maybe she's colic or needs medications. Or maybe she just senses Daddy being nervous,overwhelmed,scared. She's in a strange environment. And maybe you are the most stable thing shes ever had. Get a lawyer and make sure he knows EVERYTHING. Then make sure that when the baby is 2,3,10, or 15-that Mom can't come get her the same way she dropped her off! Also you may want to blindly claim this fatherhood or get DNA proof. I wish for you and the baby all the happiness and luck in the world.

Answer 5

Well, looks like you are now a man - and not only are you a man, you're a father. Congratulations. You are now responsible for a tiny tiny baby, one that relies on you and will look to you for love, comfort, protection and food. You must find a way to care for your child. Work in kitchens where ever you can. You must take care of this little infant that was probably sent to you by the lord. (I'm not religious by the way). She is your family now - you are no longer alone.

On the other hand if you dont believe she is yours then take her and yourself for a paternity test. If you don't want the responsibility of Gina, then sadly you will have to get in touch with the social services people in your area. Sad but fact. Whatever you do don't give her away like she's a piece of meat, when you are older you will regret it.

I hope you can get over your problems. IDEA!!! why not go to the girls parents and tell them? It's their grandchild I bet they would prefer to have her.

Oh I do wish you all the best - I feel sad now

Answer 6

Just answered your question on what to do with your crying baby. A good place to go for help would be a planned parenthood clinic/ check on line for single parent groups or things like that. You ain't alone guy. People could give ideas and you may be able to help someone else. Oh yeah another thought about your crying daughter, The crying won't last forever . If none of this works for you as a last resort contact a social worker. She may be able to get some help for you so you aren't alone or offer some ideas other than giving your child up .

Answer 7

Right what you need to do is contact social services for help, then go to benefit office, if you have the baby you can claim child benefit and child tax credit if you have just had the baby given t you, the ex may be claiming these and as she is not looking after the child you need to make sure you get these, the money will help you. When you speak to someone at your loca council, see if they can provide you with some housing as student accommodation is not the best for a child.

You can also get help with childcare Look into this. Hope it helps

Answer 8

I can't guarantee what social services will do for you cause I don't know your circumstances.

They helped me a lot though when my third child was born and they did not take any of my children.

My husband fell on the stairs while holding our son, broke babies leg. Investigation, doctors said that's the way it happened, no abuse. Of course we knew that.

Because both the babies legs were in a cast (they do that to stabilize the broken one)

we were considered at risk. Because he required extra care.

They got me a babysitter for my other two children. Bless them they do not know how this helped.

Normally I do not have a good opinion of social services, but they really helped.

Call them, tell them you are alone, you need help, you haven't slept, they should help. I would think you are considered at risk.

They can get you formula and clothing. They should get you someone to watch the baby at least while your in school and working. Some of that is income based but don't worry about that now. Just go, call, get help.

I don't think they would take her away from you unless there was something terribly wrong.

And if you get help now, your less likely to loose her.Or worse.

And bless you, don't worry about spelling, just do what you have to to take care of your baby.

Answer 9

You've had a rough 2 weeks and so has the baby, your daughter. Just calm down all is not hopeless. There are places and people out there that will take the baby. You are not a bad father if you do this, don't feel guilty. It is better for your daughter if you try and get some help for you and her. Go to a church, child welfare agency, or even a local fire department. I commend you for trying to live up to your responsibilities these last few weeks, however, your baby needs proper care and consistence parenting. As much as you try, you can not do this. Your little girl is probably suffering just as much as you. Go now, don't hesitate, and find an authority to take your baby. Someone will do it you just have to reach out to them. Hopefully she will eventually be in a position to be adopted. God bless you and your child.

Answer 10

I guess you are in the USA? if you are on campus are there any childcare/nursery groups she could attend while you are in classes? it is hard looking after children on your own be-it if you are mum or dad, i studied with two children on my own and worked, it is hard, but you can do it, you just need a little support and guidance. you cant worry about what your ex thinks of you, if you have parental responsibility now, that's where your focus must be, worry about your little one and you.. talk to student services, they may be able to help.. I hope if you do have to have support through social services it would be positive.. try not to pan-nick, get advice from any local parenting group. good luck with the baby and the study. If you are determined you can be a good dad and a good student. It is possible, but get some support.

Answer 11

all i can suggest is u go to the local council and explain the situation it is obvious u cant study and look after her at same time! it must be real hard especially with no family support! make her ur priority! u can always go back to college wen she is older! She is prob not sleeping to good as she prob feels abandoned by her mother! it will take a while for her to settle and get used to u and a new environment! Try and settle her into a new routine asap! Social services can also offer u support and not take her away from u! they will advise u wot is best to do! good luck and all the best!