I feel bad about it. I want to know whats the best way to say sorry other than saying sorry.
2006-08-04 02:25:07 · 31 answers · asked by gentlgodis 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The most important thing is actually to say you are sorry. The second most important thing is to explain why you are sorry. The third most important thing is to figure out why there was a problem in the first place and fix it so it isn't a problem again - otherwise you'll just be doing this over and over.
Being sorry is fine, but fixing the problem is far more important - and MUCH harder.
And to all those people who said sex was a great way to say you're sorry - wrong. Sex is a great way to make up AFTER you've gotten the sorry part out of the way. If you use sex as a way of saying you're sorry, you are giving the wrong message. You will regret it in the long run, since it will turn into a chore you feel you have to perform if you do something "wrong" - you should NEVER let sex be something you HAVE to do, it takes all the fun out of it.
On the other hand, if you have sex after everything is over, as a way of re-affirming your feelings for each other after a fight, that's different - it puts you on equal footing, rather than using sex as a punishment or consequence. It's just two people showing each other that a fight now and then doesn't change how they feel about each other.
Make-up sex can be rockin', but it should never be used as an apology.
Good luck!
2006-08-04 03:35:57 · answer #1 · answered by kendallsan 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I assume you are a woman because a man usually doesn't even know when he has done something wrong or he immediately turns the tables and makes YOU think it was you so he won't have to say he's sorry! ANY WAY here's what a dear OLD LADY friend of 81yrs told me on my wedding day several yrs ago:--- Honey if you have to say your sorry its very simple to do just wait until he walks through the door and then IMMEDIATELY throw off your clothes lay yourself on the floor or something comfortable to YOU and then say with a force able direct tone---- I AM SAYING I AM SORRY THE REST IS UP TO YOU! You will be surprised how fast he will respond and the fight will be over and then you can get back to whatever you were doing before he walked in ! Most marriages just need a little nudge to get back on track on either side of the argument . By the way husbands can use the same approach it sure saves alot of time harboring bad feelings.
2006-08-04 04:50:19 · answer #2 · answered by strtovr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
acknowledge what you are apologizing for not just I'm sorry you got PO'd @ me or I got PO'd @ you. I'm sorry I choose to keep pushing when I could see you were getting upset. Leaves communication more open and usually works to talk more. I'm sorry are very hard words to say but they can change the course of a bad situation. If you do not feel you were "wrong" then I'm sorry that we are @ this point and I want to talk about why. If you are female don't bring all the past crap up for justification for anger--it will lead to more PO'd ness; if you are male don't blow it off like I'm sorry makes up for everything..you'll still have some more to do if you listen instead of telling her what she needs to do next. Good Luck
2006-08-04 05:48:00 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My Atheist boyfriend says it is not usual. From a systematic point of view, it is not. The intercourse side, besides. Marriage is only a authorized bond and is a comic story at the moment. Let them marry, they're simply going to get divorced like such a lot of within the hetero global. No change, particularly.
2016-08-28 12:50:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sincerely admit to being in the wrong and instead of just saying "I'm sorry" say why you're sorry. so that way he knows that you've thought about why you're sorry and that you truly are. "I'm sorry I hurt your feelings. I didn't mean to." "I'm sorry I yelled at you, I was just upset." "I'm sorry that I didn't listen to you." and so on. Just be honest and apologizing isn't easy for anybody so the fact that you're not just throwing your apology out there shows that you're showing your vulnerable side. Make sure you have his attention first and don't apologize when he's distracted or you're driving somewhere or watching tv. Ask if you can talk to him for a minute and tell him you want him to know that you're sorry and say why. It makes a huge difference and if you really are sorry for what you did/said, instead of just saying you're sorry to make him happy, he needs to know that.
2006-08-04 02:32:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Besides saying sorry, you can also buy him a gift with a card in which you write down words from the bottom of your heart. A sweet kiss is a plus.
2006-08-04 02:28:42 · answer #6 · answered by prudence z 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People can do all kinds of gestures, gifts, affections, yet problems have roots! Deal with the roots first!
If there is room for discussion, talk about what they would like done in the next time something like this happens. Be genuine and ask what they would like you to do differently. Is there something in your character that needs to be changed? Is there something the significant other needs to do? Be committed to learning more about yourself and what you can do to consider your significant other better.
Honestly, next you are in the situation that got you in trouble, do something different!
2006-08-04 02:56:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make a delicious cake and write, I Will Eat Humble Pie For You, on it. Slice a piece off and give the rest of the cake to him.
2006-08-04 02:28:53 · answer #8 · answered by Ya-sai 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way IS to say sorry. If you mean it, it will come through. Just say, "Sorry.".... pause... take a deep breath.... and follow up with "I'm really sorry for (________________).... I was a complete (_______). I hope you will forgive me.".... Wait a few seconds... and walk away if they don't seem to be ready to talk at the moment.
2006-08-04 02:28:10 · answer #9 · answered by ♪ ♥ ♪ ♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Other than saying sorry let him know you was wrong and whatever it was you won't do it again. And maybe make him dinner,give a massage,take him out and make up sex is always good lol
2006-08-04 02:28:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋