Ive really been wanting to ask this guy out that I work with, but I found out that he was married less than a year ago & his wife left him just after one month..Should I approach him or not? 1st I dont want him to be turned off b/c we work together 2nd I dont know if he's still hurting over his ex wife...What ya'll think I should do??
2006-08-04 02:21:56 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Run like the wind!!! Don't set yourself up, girl. Especially if you like and need your job. If you work somewhere, where he is not even on your floor and he works out in the field, and u r in the office or something, then thats kinda bearable. If things dont work out, then u will dread going to work evry day b/c u have to see his face. He may even be a total ******. Why else would someone divorce in a month???/ Maybe he was pulling an Ike Turner, and she was Anna Mae!!!! You dont need that drama. And u definitely dont wanna be somebodys rebound. I;m sure he's still hurting (if it wasn't his fault) so be a semi distant friend, get his story, observe, listen, and see where he's comin from. Then make a decision, if you he is worth your job.
2006-08-04 02:29:21 · answer #1 · answered by Muchacha Mala 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mr. Chivalry says, "Make sure there's no conflict of interest rules that would get you in any trouble before you decide anything. Maybe try to be friends with him first. His wife may come back, and you may never know how that goes. It's an awkward situation. Time is the best thing right now. View him from a distance. He may not show it often, but he may give signs about how he's handling the situation. If it's meant for you to be with him, it will be revealed, slowly but surely. It's your decision, however. Good luck to you."
Mr. Chivalry has spoken.
2006-08-04 03:15:48 · answer #2 · answered by L Jeezy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationships with co-workers can be pretty thin ice on which to walk. That, being said, if there is no prohibition, approach him but go slow and look for deal-breakers. There is a reason his wife left him after a month and you don't want to have to repeat THAT deal.
2006-08-04 02:35:21 · answer #3 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say just be friends with him for a while first and that will 1. give him time to recuperate from the last relationship and 2. give you a chance to get to know him better before jumping the gun. 3. He might end up asking you out first saving you the chance of asking and getting rejected.
2006-08-04 02:29:15 · answer #4 · answered by just wondering 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never a good idea to date a co-worker, in fact many companies have policies strictly forbidding this, it can be disruptive and if things go wrong very hurtful to all parties.
That and you gotta wonder why his wife left him so quickly.
2006-08-04 02:28:12 · answer #5 · answered by Steven K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think for yourself? Seriously, how well do you know him?From the sound of it not well as you don't know what happened to his marriage or how he's feeling about it. If you want to get to know him, start light. Lunch during work maybe. Be a friend first.
2006-08-04 02:27:06 · answer #6 · answered by Wahrsuul 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of i think you should ask how would he feel if a girl was interested in him at this present time. also ask has he moved on
or is he ready to be in an relationship. or you could do stuff that will make him happ.
2006-08-04 02:29:33 · answer #7 · answered by Tocarra B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does work allow colleagues to date? if not then dont get involved. secondly if you really want to date him then find out why did he leave his wife.
2006-08-04 02:25:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him what does he do on weekends or after work............ just chat and bring it up like..... let's go out for dinner sometimes. Let things evolve from there.
It's no big deal.. don't be shy in asking.
2006-08-04 02:30:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him alone girl. There's a reason why his marriage failed. Plus its never good to date someone you work with.
2006-08-04 02:26:19 · answer #10 · answered by gemone523 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋