I am what people consider a "nice guy", i.e., I don't treat girls badly, I'm not a jerk, I find myself naturally chivalrous and humble, I'm nonconfrontational, I actually know how to think rationally with my mind...how is it that I have trouble finding a girl? Its as if I have "friend only" labeled to my forehead. I am in a Christian band and I take a little pride in knowing that I have at least some morals and gifts. The last 2 times, these two girls with the same name became attracted to me, and then used me and left me for your typical jerk boyfriend motif. What gives? I'm 17, and I just graduated high school.
2006-08-04 02:07:43 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Honey, keep it up (seriously). In time you will learn that many girls do not know what to look for... or they are just looking for the wrong thing. My only suggestion is that besides being a nice person, make sure you do not let others take advantage of you. Oftentimes, people take male niceness to be male insecurity or male wimpiness... So, be sure to always stand up for yourself. One way you can do that it to always stick to your morals. One day, the right girl will recognize these wonderful qualities of yours... and, if you continue to think straight, you will see that this is the kind of woman you want in your life. Good luck!
2006-08-04 02:13:46 · answer #1 · answered by ♪ ♥ ♪ ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so.
I was considered as a "nice guy" but most girls don't consider going out with us nice guy. It's better to have a nice guy who does everything for a girl, than a guy who will manipulate a girl and also maybe even hurt her in any kind of way. I'm also a christian too. You may have to just show them what type of guy that you are and not a person who is out there just wanting to meet somebody and trying to have sex, because I know for a fact that those kind of people will leave them in a quick second. Just let them know that you are a person who is trying to look for a nice girl, who likes "nice guys."
2006-08-04 02:17:23 · answer #2 · answered by Brandon S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're still young. Maybe you play the word "nice" a little too much. Or your looking for the wrong type of girl. Try finding one in your church. There's a lot of nice girls that can be found there. It sounds like you are being too much of "a friend". Although I can appreciate that in a man, it doesn't attract me. Sounds kind of boring.
2006-08-05 04:41:36 · answer #3 · answered by windandwater 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-01 11:25:14 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a nice guy does not always work you have to prove you have some iron in your testies before they give you a second look so try approaching some women with a total different attitude and see how it goes
2006-08-04 02:14:01 · answer #5 · answered by magnum 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1> Read Boundaries by Henry Cloud. No one can use you unless you let them. 2> Girls want a boyfriend, not a friend. You can be nice and everything, but you'd better treat them like a woman you're dating and not just act like one of her girlfriends.
Realize you won't be mature until your in your 30's, you learned by watching your parents as role models, and the people you're dating aren't mature either.
2006-08-04 02:13:26 · answer #6 · answered by Tony T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No not at all. If a girl cannot appreciate a nice guy then they are not worth your time. Don't give up. The right girl will come along.
2006-08-04 02:13:03 · answer #7 · answered by gemone523 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well im 19 and i admit i usually go for the so called"bad boys" but it took me awhile but i finally figured out that that thats not going anywhere and all that ends up happening is i feel down and out,my point being we can be stupid,and not realize things right away but the only thing i can tell you is please stay the way you are and you will find what you're looking for,anything worth having is worth waiting for
2006-08-04 02:23:55 · answer #8 · answered by lalalala 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As you get older you will realize that women always go for the "bad boy" types. Then they try to change them to be a nice guy. Go figure. Don't try to figure it out. It is a woman thing..........
2006-08-04 02:13:26 · answer #9 · answered by tallerfella 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well ,first , no theres not enything wrong with being the nice guy and i wish there were more guys like u , 2nd those to gurls r crazy ,to have dumped u , they r probably use to the stupid bf, the boyfriend that cheats on them and does them wrong hey! theres somthing wrong with them not u.
2006-08-04 02:25:54 · answer #10 · answered by Angel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋