I love my boyfried ..i have been with him 8 months now and we fight once and a while not as bad as it used to be but i love him.. i also have alot of feeling for my ex..he is such an awsome guy..i don't know what to do..i love him and i want to at least talk to him about it..but my b/f would be really pissed if i did..so what do u thik i should do??
2006-08-04 02:02:32 · 15 answers · asked by Arielle-Nicole 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
my suggestion to you is that leave the ex alone because there is reason why he is the ex and you're not with him . If your b/f did that to you how would really feel?If you leave the current b/f for the ex and it doesn't work out. what are you going to do ? Is he really worth it,think about it.
2006-08-04 02:30:18 · answer #1 · answered by princess11 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend needs to be responsible for his own reaction, although you can be considerate (and possibly sneaky) and not tell him you're talking to the ex.
Your ex is an ex for a valid reason. Going back to him wouldn't solve many issues and you'd be back in the same behavior patterns.
You and your b/f need professional counseling about the fighting. There are ways to discuss things without being emotionally immature and yelling back and forth. You have to let the person know you care. You have to stick to THE ISSUE and not the aftermath. You have to keep the conversation to 10 minutes and stop if someone loses control. You have to be more interested in listening instead of arguing your side. If you don't solve your conflict managment shortcomings, you'll bring that into every relationship you ever have.
From www.despair.com: The only thing common to all my dysfunctional relationships is me.
2006-08-04 02:10:59 · answer #2 · answered by Tony T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a guy and I agree with you completely. I value love far more than I do lust. Do things together as friends, then work on a romantic relationship. Do you enjoy the same foods, hobbies, concerts, music and theater? It takes time and effort to find out if you are compatible or not. Personally, I like the wonderment and anticipation of a possible romantic relationship.
2016-03-26 22:48:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, think of why you broke up with your ex. He may be an awesome guy as a friend (or to flirt with), but how will he treat you if you guys start dating again? I guess you could date two guys at once, but at the end everything will go wrong. If you think it's worth dumping your current boyfriend, you should do it. But don't go crying back to him after you break up with the ex again, because he probably won't accept you anymore. You should probably stick with your current boyfriend.. how would you feel if HE was in love with another girl? Be faithful.
2006-08-04 02:09:10 · answer #4 · answered by cuteangel327 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I don't think that you can be in love with two people. When you truely love someone no one else can share that love. It sounds like you want your cake and eat it to. You want the both of them because what one does the other doesn't. They both make you feel good but in different ways. You need to decide who makes you feel like nothing else matters, like nothing can go wrong when your with him, and you know that deep down inside you made the right decision.
2006-08-04 02:10:54 · answer #5 · answered by anw110784 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the same thing happened to me. I was with a guy for 8 years and wanted to see what it was like with another guy. I regret it becuase the guy I broke up with after that long relationship is married and happy. I don't know if I ever will be. I went with my heart and ended up having it broken.
2006-08-04 02:08:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think you should follow what your heart says than what your mind says because heart speaks more than mind. If you realy love your ex guy and you need him back, don't think of what others might say just go ahead and do what your heart requires of you and that's all. So you have to take your time, listen to your heart and not your mind.
2006-08-04 02:14:02 · answer #7 · answered by Goldah N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call ur ex and tell ur crrent that u just want to keep a friendly relationship with the old.
2006-08-04 02:07:32 · answer #8 · answered by prong002 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to make a decision because as your finding out its not very easy to love both
2006-08-04 02:07:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
grin and bare it. unless you are wiling to risk lowing the bf, leave the ex alone.
2006-08-04 02:07:59 · answer #10 · answered by my_name_is_what 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋