I'm in a long distance relationship and occationally I worry about my girlfriend like mad. But it is more than just worry. As geeky as this sounds, in one of the star wars movies Yoda says, fear leads to sadness, sadness leas to anger, ander leads to hate and hate leads to the dark side. Well sometimes I'm really afraid for her, when shes out on the town she might get hurt, or I'm afraid she will find someone else better than me. Anyway i find myself following the path mentioned before and i don't like it. I dont want to hate my GF, i love her more than i can describe. What can i do???
2006-08-04 01:14:45 · 17 answers · asked by bung_7250 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just a few thoughts so far...
Thankyou all for your answers, it help to be reminded of these things, sometimes i think too much and need to be brought back down to earth.
I don't think i was terribly clear - i trust my GF, its other people i dont trust. And we communicate very well. We've taken the whole finishing each others senences to another level, we think the same things at the same time.
Thanks again for the answers - it helps alot!
2006-08-04 01:34:22 · update #1
you love her...therefore you worry. I'm sure my BF, who's in London at the moment worries about me. But i could never find anyone, more loving, generous, funny, intelligent, beautiful or who fits me as well as he does...
Have faith in your love for her and everything wil be okay,
2006-08-04 01:23:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
from my experience with long distant relationships there's a small change that they will work out. but it all depends on the distance and the love that comes from both sides.
i think you should try to have faith in that she loves you as much as you her. if that's the case. don't worry about her finding another person. trust in your relationship. if you think that you might not be able to do that maybe it might not work out. end it before you end up hating her. if not seeing her is the problem then save up money to go see her every holiday or take turns visiting. Good Luck!
2006-08-04 01:37:26 · answer #2 · answered by DoTi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your jmeant to worry its natural. You never said if you have met her or its a net relationship. Trust is important if you dont have that you have nothing. If she finds someone else well it wasnt meant to be tho if she loves you she should not be looking . Relax it cant be easy i know from experience i used to go crazy wantyed to end it an all thats because i never knew if he was ok or not. I learnt to stay calm and releise no news is good news. Speak to her about how you feel.The anger is fear of you being hurt, or fear of being used. You may feel hate but you wont.
2006-08-04 01:21:57 · answer #3 · answered by a mother 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are feeling insecure. Do you communicate often with your girl friend? From what I read, you don't. You have to keep your emotions in check. Talk to your girl about your worries, keep in contact with your girlfriend often, either a phone call or emails. So that you both of you know what each other is doing without being there. It is also a good way to keep your relationship going.
If both of you don;t communicate much, its a start and sign of a failing relationship.
2006-08-04 01:21:47 · answer #4 · answered by Dani 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when u get involved in a relationship , u need to trust ppl. if u cant even trust ur gf, its really bad. there is a thought i wud like to share with u that :
"if u love someone, let it free , if it is urs it will come back to u,if it doesnt it was never urs"
u r really like a person who cant even trust someone so close to him. u shud be srry for urself. instead u shud try to be more confident of u. then just see how ur relation grows by leaps and bounds.
wishing u all the best
2006-08-04 01:24:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that feeling, someone felt that for me too...if you do not escape from that feeling, you will get hurt...Think about the beautiful moments you have when you meet each other or to the moments that are to be...It is much better like this...If you miss her, call her or take some pictures of you and send them to her...
2006-08-04 01:20:17 · answer #6 · answered by ota marmota 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust in her love for you and that there is nothing better for her than you. Trust in the fact that your girlfriend is a reponsible and carefull lady and she'll look after herself when she goes out.
2006-08-04 01:20:13 · answer #7 · answered by yarisgp 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey listen if its mint to be she'll stay with you and if not there always women out there looking for men that actually care about them.....and I'm sure she'll be fine out there by her self and if your all that worried you should ask her to move in with you
2006-08-04 01:22:37 · answer #8 · answered by love2rock_101 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummmm u seem somewhat obsessive. are u on crack or something? where does the paranoia come from. do you have a guilty conscience? do u have ptsd from something and now ur freaked out? i think this is strange. maybe you love her toooo much or maybe just right. i dont know. good luck
2006-08-04 01:19:58 · answer #9 · answered by newyorkjenna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could talk to her about your feelings and tell her to be careful when she goes somewhere. It's best to let a person know how you feel than to let them wonder the earth questioning it.
2006-08-04 01:20:23 · answer #10 · answered by Hutchess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋