Should I have kids?

Question

Is there anybody out there who wishes they hadn't? Why or why not?

Answer 1

Well no I dont regret a single moment when I had my kids..

They are my life and there's nothing more admirable than your kids looking up to you. It's very rewarding when you see them grow up into young men and women and they have the tools that you gave them and taught them everythign they know

Answer 2

Mom of 3 and an angel. All mine are under 5 years old, some days I wish I hadn't but then there are moments in life when I think what would have happen if I hadn't accidentally got pregnant with that one. Life is full of choices, kids just make it a little more interesting.

Answer 3

Do you want kids is more to the point, its not a rule or regulation to have them if you don't want to, I think every mother has said at sometime or another in their life when the chips are down or the kids are playing up, wish I never had bloody kids, but its a saying when the kids are driving them nuts that's all, OK hurtful to kids but if they behaved themselves more then mom wouldn't get angry and stressed with them would she.
I have no kids but that is through circumstance and choice, but I do love children and look after my nieces and nephews on a regular basis so their parents can have a bit of a break and some free time so they hopefully never get to the point of saying the phrase, wish I never had kids.

Answer 4

To put it delicately, no. If you're asking yourself that question, you shouldn't....or at least wait until it is no longer a question, but a sincere, from the soul, DESIRE. The decision to have kids is not as black & white as, "Should I wear the red sweater, or the blue one today?" I don't regret having my children, BUT.....as for my daughter's birth, I wish I had waited. I wasn't young, (24) when I had her, but I was not ready emotionally to give up my freedom, nor was I ready for the responsibility. I couldn't see that at the time (of course) and as a result wasn't the best mother that I should have been. I wasn't abusive, or neglectful mind you, I just hadn't developed that "they're more important than you, and their needs come FIRST in everything", type attitude. Add to all that that I wasn't really in the best of relationship with her father and wasn't financially situated either. Her father and I divorced when she was 2 and now at 12 she lives with him. I see her only in the summers and still haven't emotionally "bonded" with her. Now, move forward 9 years....I gave birth to a son. Unfortunately, things didn't work out with his father either, but I am emotionally mature and financially stable. At 35, I now understand and ENJOY the privilege of being a mother. I am nuturing, loving, & "motherly" whereas with my daughter, I was anything but. I am ashamed of that, but I guess a shrink will have to help me out with that. Please, please, please....don't have children until you KNOW that you WANT them. In the end, they'll be the ones that suffer the most if you have them before you're ready. Good Luck & God Bless

Answer 5

That is a question you need to answer yourself. If you don't want them, don't have them. Nothing is more sad than a un-wanted and therefore un-loved child.

I have a son. Will hopefully have a second child. It is a life-changing experience, lots of work but hugely satisfying. We can create life, but more importantly, we help another individual human being. It is like looking at yourself as a child. We waited for a relatively long time and for various reasons before having a child. We took our time.

Think about all the greatest moments in your life uptil now. If you are ready to have children, know that these "things" will always be sort of special but will pale into insignificance when you have a child that you really want.

Answer 6

Nobody else can ake a decision for you! To ask means that your probably not too sure or ready yourself.

I have a 3 year old little girl, she has fulfilled our lives in every way possible and there is certainly never a dull moment when there is a child around. Our little girl is quite advanced, meaning she is cheeky, micheveous and very cocky but her cute ways and extremely clever way makes up for the cheek ha ha.

I'd say go for it if you can offer both yourself and the child a good quality life and can be able to live comfortably and have enough money in life.

Answer 7

First, make sure you live YOUR life first. I suggest that you wait until you are at least 28 years old before getting married or having kids. By then, you will have a better handle on your life and what you want to do. PLUS, you had a chance to party a little and maybe travel a lot. Don't be in a hurry and remember, raising kids is not cheap, it can be very expensive nowadays. Good luck to ya.

Answer 8

i think it all depends on ur age, i had an aborton wen i was 15 i wld have loved to keep it but i no now i wouldnt have been able to cope. You need to be stable in ur life to have kids, u need to have a partner a house and a career. If you have all of this and feel ready they i think a child would be the best thing to do. There is never a dull day when u have a baby.!

Answer 9

When people say I want it to be the right time, blah blah blah,I haven't got enough money etc, what they need to realise is there may never be a right time. If you see yourself having kids, then have them, but make sure you are able to keep a roof over their head and clothes on their back. I grew up in a poor(ish)family, and we never went on holiday, etc, but I never once regretted being born into my family, you know? I'm going to trying for a baby in January, but I have two dogs that I raised from puppies(I know puppies aren't children, but I had to look after them, feed them, toilet train them, and make sure they felt loved and cared for)so I feel prepared for a baby. I too had an abortion at a young age, but if I could go back, I would never do it again.EVER.In closing, I think you will know when you want children, and I'm sure you will cope fine. :D

Answer 10

If you're prepared and able to accept how much they change your life.............. and you're sure the father feels the same, then go ahead!!

Mine are 5 and 9, and its been very hard work. My partner wasn't prepared for how much his life would change and he shipped out 4 years ago.

I sometimes wish I hadn't had them - but they went away to my parents for a weekend recently and i missed them like mad and didn't know what to do with myself in my silent, tidy house!!

Answer 11

That is a question only you can answer. People can give their answers and their views, but you are the only one who will know if you should or should not have children.
Be brave and figure it out for yourself.
If you choose an answer from this forum which changes your life forever, which children do, then you are dumb.
End this thread and think long and hard for yourself, because it is you that will be affected and not the thousands that use this site.

Hope you find the answer on your own.