This may seem a bit crazy. However I'm really worry about some of most important people in my life. So I would like any advice or help on what I can do.
-My dad. He was in hopsital with inflammation spleen and liver, he almost died. It was caused by drinking. However he didn't stop drink at all. I am really convinced I saw him for last time two days ago. It was so tough on me. Even though he wasn't around for me very much when I was younger.
-My grandpa. I recently found out from my uncle that my grandpa told him his health is start to going down hill slowly. However I'm too afaird to ask anyone else about this because I don't want to stir up any drama and make things worse.
-My mom. She have cancer not long ago and now it's in remission. However I'm really scare that if something happen, she could easily be gone in less 3 or 4 years. She use to keep lot of things hidden from me until I got in really big trouble at sixteen. So now I don't really know how much info she is
2006-08-04 01:02:30 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
actually telling me. Plus she have been complaining of head aches a lot lately.
I don't have any grandma left. I'm not close to anyone else in family becaue I'm deaf and they doesn't really care much for me. I have a sister, half brother,and a stepdad. I'm close to my sis and half brother and I'm the oldest.
Other thing that bother me so much is I'll be moving to Europe soon, so I will be far away from family.
I really don't know what I can do and I keep ask myself lot of questions. I alway act like it's my last time seeing them every time I see them now. I really don't know what to do and hope smoene can help out a bit. Also what is it like to not have any very close family member but for youner sibiling? Will they start to come to me if they need things or what?
2006-08-04 01:05:32 · update #1
wow. tough one. beats me mate, i mean, my dad died when i was four, and i was naive back then. i suppose you need to be strong for your mum and your siblings.
i suck at giving advices, but i'll pray for you and your family. that's the only help i can give.
2006-08-04 01:29:43 · answer #1 · answered by jose 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry you're going through so much in your life right now. It sounds very overwhelming. Before you leave for Europe, visit each one of your relatives who is ill and say whatever you need to say to them to be at peace with yourself when they pass away, even if it's just "I love you." If that's too hard, send them each a letter. Put it in the mailbox before you leave. It doesn't have to be long. Most people say that when someone passes away they wish they had a chance to say "I love you." That might be all you feel you need to say too. As far as your younger siblings, I am 20 years older than my brother and sister, and they are the joys of my life. If they were to come to me for anything, like money, I would have to say no. I wouldn't feel obligated to give them a reason or anything. "No" is enough. You are going to have to cultivate good friendships throughout your life, and they will become a surrogate family for you. We all need support and unconditional love, and for whatever reasons your family can't give that to you. It's very sad, but it's not your fault. You owe it to yourself to make your life the best it can be. I am excited about you moving to Europe. What a wonderful adventure! Please take good care of yourself. I hope I helped a little bit.
2006-08-04 08:14:47 · answer #2 · answered by No Shortage 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm very sorry to hear what happens in your family. Although I'm not the oldest child in the family, I can relate to your fears and worries because of my situation in my family. Since you're the oldest child, it's natural for your younger siblings to go to you. To be honest, it won't be easy for you OR for your younger siblings. However, I would suggest that you stay very close to your siblings because they can offer you the emotional support you need, and vice versa. They may be younger, but you can be surprised by their potential. You never know!!! They will be there for you when you turn to them!!! I know it's very difficult for you NOT to think of what's going on or what's going to happen, but just try to build a very strong bond between you and your siblings. This bond can do a lot for you all. Best wishes.
2006-08-04 08:11:43 · answer #3 · answered by danielle s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to understand that all people come and go and you cannot do anything about it. just htink about it as if it were for their good and that you would be selfish to want them to stay. everyone has their time, you will also have yours. do not worry about your younger siblings, at some time or the other they will realize that they need you, and they will come closer to you. you cannot intentionally get someone closer to you.
2006-08-04 08:10:06 · answer #4 · answered by Smithereenian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋