He is controlling and all he does is fight with me. He always blames everyone else for his problems or mistakes. I have moved out and as usuall he promise to change but here we are again He will never change and I'm ready to end it. But i do still love him and we have a son. but the only time I am happy is when he's not around 15 years is a long time. what to do
2006-08-04 00:53:52 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Sounds like my ex. Do you really love him or do you just not know any other way of being? You and you son deserve better than to be controlled and argued with and blamed for everything. Cut him loose and spend some time getting to know the new you. You will probably like her a lot better.
2006-08-04 00:58:38 · answer #1 · answered by therego2 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What is taking you so long to go.You already made up your mind by asking if you should leave.Why ask the question if you already know the answer.If your not happy leave.Why be with someone that doesn't make you happy?The first time that you decided to leave was you key right there.Don't prolong this relationship any longer and go.I know it's hard to leave someone that you love.But I think that your more worried about the 15 years that you wasted .If you have been with him for 15 years and he still hasn't changed then right there that lets you know that he is set in his ways and isn't going to change.Take some time away from each other.If you feel better away and his attitude doesn't change then leave him for good.You two maybe better as friends then lovers.Of course you love him you've been together for 15 years.All I can say is to follow your heart.Do what feels right and what's best for your son.You don't want you son to grow up in a fighting environment.Good luck .Be strong.You have to be the tough one here.
2006-08-04 02:18:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and make out a list for what you want for your life (and your son's life). Do you want to spend another 15 years with someone who brings you down and depresses you each and every day? Do you want your son to grow up in a home filled with tension every day? Of course you love the man you had a child with... no doubt you will always love him. It won't be easy to leave him. But sometimes you have to change your life in order to find the life that was meant for you.
2006-08-04 01:01:08 · answer #3 · answered by mJc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look I was in a 10 year relashionship hoping that one day he will change. Well let me tell you they don't.... they know that we will take them back when ever they please.... I finally got out of that relashionship. i live alone with my son... Im happy. I loved him when I left but 2 years after I realiazed that it was nore a habit of having him around not that I was in love. loving someone and being in love with someone is totally different. Try it. It not healthy for your child to see you guys fight like that... Now the guy I left is living with some other girl and offends her the same way he did me...
2006-08-04 04:51:42 · answer #4 · answered by Medical Assistant 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
15 years is a long time to put up with someone that is controlling!!!! He will NEVER change!!!! Keep that in mind when you think of going back.
2006-08-04 01:02:03 · answer #5 · answered by winona e 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him and sue him for support for you and your kid. 15 years is a common law marriage and you have all the rights of a married person in the eyes of the court. Don't worry about legal fees cause the court will make him pay them.
Good luck with your new life.
2006-08-04 01:11:16 · answer #6 · answered by phoephus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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the only time I am happy is when he's not around
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well that's your answer
2006-08-04 01:15:33 · answer #7 · answered by Shalako 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it won't be easy, but leave
I had the same problem w/ a guy, but luckily we were
only together for four years & we had no children together
I hear he NEVER changed & I'm married to a GREAT guy now .
Stay strong,believe in yourself & move on, you will be
so gald you did
2006-08-04 00:59:27 · answer #8 · answered by start 6-22-06 summer time Mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your not happy your not happy, but if you've made it 15 years, then something must be working for you. Do you think he would take you back if you made him as unhappy as he does you?
2006-08-04 01:01:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll always have a special place in your heart for him. You've been thru a lot together. Follow your gut and move on.
2006-08-04 01:00:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋