My partner is catholic and i am protestant, and we want to get married in a church. Our parents would expect it too. Can anyone see anyway round this, except for getting a registry office and having a non religious ceremony?
2006-08-04 00:48:49 · 9 answers · asked by strawberrymoon 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Marry in a registry office, and have a blessing in the church as Charles and Camilla did.
2006-08-04 00:52:31 · answer #1 · answered by Boris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is much that needs to be examined and talked through here. Having a civil ceremony would not be the best for anyone. The catholic church says that you must become one of them and raise your kids there too. What do you do for church now?
2006-08-04 02:30:32 · answer #2 · answered by Buzz s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
--is Catholic--
Catholic can marry non-Catholics
Essentially you would be marrying into the Catholic Faith. Mixed faith marriages can be tricky especially if one of the spouse is more into their faith than the other. Do not be surprised if the religious differences become more pronounced over time. It might not be important now, but after children enter into the picture and raising them Catholic becomes a reality, it can get rough. Contrary to popular opinion, raising your kids in dual faiths tends to create agnostics/atheists not more religious people. That is why the Church insists that her children be raised only Catholic.
First Catholics are allowed to marry non-Catholics, (first though you need to get the local bishop's permission for a mixed form marriage. It is easy talk to your parish priest. If you are marrying in a Protestant ceremony, you need a dispensation from form...talk to your priest) I highly recommend that you and your boyfriend sit down and read the book of Ruth and the Song of Songs (Canticle of Canticles) right away. That will give you a basic scriptural understanding of how important marriage is and how the faith question is resolved.
Here is the basic list to get the ok to get the dispensation of form,
1. Have to go through Catholic marriage prep.
2. Be willing to practice the Catholic understanding of marital relations (ie no condoms).
3. Be open to having children when God gives them to you.
4. Understand and accept that the marriage lasts until the death of the spouse (no divorcing and remarrying while the spouse lives).
5. Promise to not try to convert your spouse away from Catholicism.
6. Promise to not impede in any way your spouse's obligations to the Catholic Faith and the growth of their spiritual life.
7. Promise to have your children baptized Catholic within a few weeks of their birth.
8. Promise to raise your children in and ONLY IN the Catholic Faith.
9. Promise to not impede in any way your children's obligations to the Catholic Faith and the growth of their spiritual life.
There are other issues but the priest through marriage prep will deal with them.
It is important to note that the Catholic cannot get married without the dispensation from form if the ceremony doesn't take place in a Catholic Church. This would not be considered a sacramental marriage and the Catholic would have placed himself outside of communion with the Church.
Also it is not allowed to have two ceremonies
Canon 1127 §3.
It is forbidden to have another religious celebration of the same marriage to give or renew matrimonial consent before or after the canonical celebration according to the norm of §1 [i.e., the Catholic wedding]. Likewise, there is not to be a religious celebration in which the Catholic who is assisting and a non-Catholic minister together, using their own rites, ask for the consent of the parties.
A NOTE: If your local priest doesn't go through the above numbered steps during the marriage prep, he is not up on his duties and it would be benefitual to locate a better priest. At the time of marriage, not believing in those things brings into question the validity of the marriage especially if one, either openly or in secret intends to do directly the opposite.
To learn more about the catholic faith at a very easy level please see
http://www.scripturecatholic.com...
http://www.catholic.com
If you want something more advanced (but not by much) try
Encyclopedia of Catholic Doctrine by Shaw
Church History by Laux
The Founding of Christendom by Carroll
2006-08-04 11:34:53 · answer #3 · answered by Liet Kynes 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should be able to get married in a Chruch of Engalnd Church
If you get married in a catholic church then you have to agree that you will turn catholic and you will bring your children up as cathlolics if and when you have any.
Alternatively You can have a lovely civil cermeony - I got married in a hotel and the cermeony and the reception were both in the hotel and it was lovely.
2006-08-04 00:54:31 · answer #4 · answered by Steve C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you dont mind, you could marry in a Catholic church. It just wont be a full catholic service. Or find a Chirstian church and have a nondenomination service.
2006-08-04 00:53:59 · answer #5 · answered by michtb3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not really. And you had better both be clear on how you will raise your children before this goes any further.
2006-08-04 00:53:06 · answer #6 · answered by R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk with your priest and your minister. They may be able to do a joint wedding.
2006-08-04 01:01:41 · answer #7 · answered by Ranto 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
registry is the only option I am afraid.
2006-08-04 01:45:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just a Jewish wedding and make everyone upset.
2006-08-04 00:54:14 · answer #9 · answered by rastus7742 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋