Have just moved in with fiance, made sense for me to move as he's been here for 16 years, I've not stayed anywhere for 1 yet! Want to be happy here for his sake as much as mine, need friends, work and generally to find my way about- any ideas, tips or hints all appreciated, specially from other ppl who've been in this situ
2006-08-04 00:39:42 · 19 answers · asked by emily_jane2379 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Probably the most important thing is for you to find a job. Most people make very good friends with at least one person they work with. On top of that, it will get you out of the house every day and help you feel like you're participating in the world. After that, you need to find groups in your area according to your interests. Take an art class, take a college course in the evening (I made three friends this way), join some kind of team sport. You get the idea. You can go with your fiance or alone, but I would go alone if I were you so you can make your own friends. You need girlfriends whether you're single or married. Since your fiance has been in your new town for 16 years, maybe you could start entertaining once or twice a month. By inviting his friends over and their girlfriends/spouses, you will not only get to know more people, but you might really hit it off with some of them. You're going to have to be as social as you can, even though it might feel uncomfortable. If you don't force yourself to get out there, you might start to get depressed and lonely. Hang in there, and good. luck.
2006-08-04 00:51:04 · answer #1 · answered by No Shortage 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Get Ye to the Local Library - - - ask Librarian about community events. Get involved with a community event. Volunteer. Pick a Main Street in your new neighborhood and You & B/F go to an unfamiliar resteraunt, a new one once a week for a month, at least. Same with shopping - - - again check out those community boards. Classes at the local college? All sorts of stuff to explore. Are you already registered to Vote then Work at a Polling Place this election - - - you'll meet lots of new people. Also get out walking or biking you meet lots of people and you'll stay healthy.
2006-08-04 07:49:32 · answer #2 · answered by JVHawai'i 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Check your local newspapers for clubs, groups, or [if you are a person of faith] churches in your area. A common interest is a good place to start new friendships. Most phone books will also have some info on such things, as well. Often there are "Welcome Wagon" people you can contact, who can tell you more about your new location, so long as you don't mind getting a bit of a sort of commercial in the process: Often they bring free little gifts and coupons for local businesses, but they're usually full of useful and good information. Good Luck in your new location and in your life with your fiance'.
2006-08-04 07:46:35 · answer #3 · answered by Namon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While the majority of members tend to be middle aged or elderly I would suggest joining the local WI. They are very friendly and welcoming to new members and they have good contacts and know EVERYTHING about the local community. At each meeting their is usually an interesting speaker, demonstration or outing. You can go as a guest for a few months before deciding whether to subscribe.
2006-08-04 07:48:28 · answer #4 · answered by felineroche 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Joining local clubs and societies is a really good way to make friends when you move to a new area. Also taking up an evening class can be good. All of these ways mean that you're likely to meet people similar to yourself cos you clearly already have at least one interest in common. Enjoy yourself and good luck.
2006-08-04 07:47:44 · answer #5 · answered by Jooles 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all: to get to know new guys, you should be opener. go out, its not necessery when you are alone and go to clubs or to pubs. in my opinion, you should go to some sport associations, there you will meet many interesting people. as i come to germany(where i come from) i knew nobody, too. so i tried to come in a community, 'cause i was a very open-minded, self-confident person. if you have the look of a person, who WANTS to get involve in a community, to meet new guys, you will meet to know the right persons. thats my advice for you.
when it doenst work, be not sad about it. you will find friends, im sure.
2006-08-04 08:02:31 · answer #6 · answered by dr. sommer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My best thought on the subject is to subtly break into a conversation with people at a clothing store or grocery shopping. visiting with his friends when you see them will open up avenues to meet their friends and broaden your horizons.
Jobs will be much the same way, you can even start conversations off by querying about who is hiring.
2006-08-04 07:47:05 · answer #7 · answered by Steve 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being former military and on the travel....I've found that just getting invovled with neighbors, church, volunteering and working help in the adjustments of making new friends in a new surrounding!
2006-08-04 07:44:40 · answer #8 · answered by aunt_beeaa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
gal, you should realise that the reason that you're moving in the first place is coz of your fiance, so it really doesn't matter what everyone thinks. just be yourself and it'll be up to the people around you whether they wanna get to know you or not. if they don't, their loss.
you don't have to change for anyone.
2006-08-04 07:47:10 · answer #9 · answered by millie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try and put an add on the gumtree. i did it when i moved to london.
Also i found visiting the local cafe and community centre as well as a brief visit to the church gave me just to many friends
good luck
2006-08-04 07:44:10 · answer #10 · answered by ♥The♥ Bearded Cheerleader 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋