I dont know what to do anymore?

Question

I have been going through a rough time. I just lost my dad not to long ago and I also lost my grandpa. I l haven’t work for 2 years now. I spent the entire last year helping family. Right now I’m still helping my family but i just can’t seem to find a job. I’m so discourage. I try not to lose hope but its hard, I applied for jobs where I am more than qualified and I don’t even get a call for interview. I have two bachelors (1 in Marketing and 1 bachelor in business and system analysis).

I’m not sure of myself anymore. I’m not even sure if I will be able to get back on the work force anymore. Mom tells me not to loose hope and not give up. She tells me not to destroy what I have built. Lately I wonder if I even built something and if something was built it is probably destroyed for good. I can’t sleep anymore like I use to, I’m fighting not to fall in a depression. I am a mess right now. I prayed like crazy for help but no answers. I prayed for help for my family and that were answer

But the prayers I did for myself are just ignored. :-(

Answer 1

Go into God's rest. He has numbered the hairs on your head, He is aware of your situation. He is the keeper of the blessings He has stored up for you. He says "ask and you will receive", "knock and the door WILL be opened", these are promises, God cannot lie. Relax in His promises, He is in charge. You have very little control of your life, He has a plan and you need to GO INTO HIS REST. Remind Him of His promises and relax. God Loves You.......

Answer 2

Please, give yourself a break and some time and space to breathe. The God I know doesn't ignore prayers, sometimes it takes a while, but I believe He will answer your prayers in the best possible way. Look inside and pray for God to show you the beautiful person you are. You are always stronger than you think you are- we are all capable of being amazing people and conquering any hardship.

I think it is increadable how you are helping your family and putting them first, even though you are also in pain and need comfort.

Visualise yourself on the other side of this, know that God loves you and even though it sometimes hurts, God will not give you more than you can bear, and even though you can't always see it, it is for some purpose. God works all together for good. You can trust in that.

Give yourself some space, find someone you can really count on that isn't going to judge or belittle you, but lift you up and bring the truth of your greatness to light.

Some things I did to build my confidence up while I was unemployed for long periods of time were-
Volunteering in an area that I had a passion for
Long, peaceful walks by myself or a close friend
Join a sporting group or club of some sort
Read motivational, or at least positive and practical books

Don't worry, this is a season of many in your life- you WILL get through this, and when you do, you will be a triumph!!

All the best- I will pray for you :)

Answer 3

First, sorry bout your family; however, do not let this affect in your search for a job. When people hire you, they need your help and not the other way around; thus, sorry to say, leave your dirty laundry outside.
Finding a job is not difficult, assuming you are willing to be honest to yourself and open minded, start looking in the mirror evaluating your strengths and weaknesses. Do not be ashamed to become a blue collar, they have better starting salary than the white. I have seen people who does not want to apply in the lower position(blue collar) because they went to college. Remember, the more field you have done, the more experience you gain and exposure in different area, the easier it is for you to find a job.
In your resume, mention why you are best suited for the job, research about the job you are applying so you can apply your strength to a particular part, show professional attitude, send an email, call after a few days after you sent your resume to check whether the resume has been received, drop a thank you note if necessary. If you get to interview, always remember, the interviewer is the key to get you in. Do not just think that because you are overqualified the interview is going to be a snap. Also remember you are interacting with other people in an interview; I have seen smart, brilliant, but creepy, rude, unpopular, not a team player; these are certainly the kind of people I do not want in my company or in my workplace because ultimately you have to work with other people. Although not the most important, appearance certainly play a role, you need to be properly trimmed(no long hairs), dressed properly, not overly(I have seen people fail just because they dress to an interview like they are going to a nightclub; remember, it is a workplace). I am not talking expensive stuff here, just clean long sleeve shirt, no smell, clean cut. It matters.
Good Luck

Answer 4

I'm so sorry about your dad. What you are doing to help your family is a great. With everything that is going on, maybe you really haven't grieved yet. Maybe you're just getting around to doing that. Lots of things happen when you loose a loved one. Your gonna be okay! Keep praying, reading your Bible, go to church. Keep applying for jobs and try to enjoy the time with your family. Try to have a little fun, if possible. Once you go back to work, those day time hours will be used up by work. Maybe you can plan a redecoration of your room or house. Remember that God always answers prays, just not always the way we want. There may be something around the corner, that you never thought of. God's ways are not our ways, His thoughts are not our thoughts. Just don't give up too soon. Blessings!

Answer 5

I am very sorry for what you have gone thru and while most would say trite things to make you feel better I will tell you what I have learned thru the tough times of my life...Life is full of learning lessons. It may be that you are now to change direction in what your feild of work is..if you cant find a job right now why not volenteer at your local hosppital and at the same time apply for a job there? There are so many depts. that do not require medical training. Depression is real and is truly hard to fight off but if you keep positive and busy it does help. As far as not sleeping well try some of the herbal remedies that are out there as well as no caffeine,no smoking ,no sugar for at least 4 hours before you try to sleep. Also try some soothing instrumental music softly playing while you try to sleep. I found meditation also very helpful. Dont despair for things will change but you have to help it along some.

Answer 6

Listen to your Mother. She sounds like a very wise woman!

Did you ever consider God HAS answered your prayers by sending her to you to give Godly advice? Don't make the mistake of assuming that God won't use average people to do miraculous things!

You have a good education, but your feelings of inadequacy are hindering you. Lean on your Mom for strength (that's what we're here for!) and give ear to her wise council. Do the things she tells you to do; she's either seen it all or done it all by now in her life. Do not stop your prayers to God, since this is probably a test of your faith. Read your Bible daily and meditate on God's truths. If you do these things, your life will look completely different within a year.

May God bless and keep you.

Answer 7

Your Prayers haven't been ignored. God is foing this to make you stronger. He has a plan for you. His plan may seem stupid at times but he knows what he's doing. I'll pray for you. You never know God might just have your perfect job waiting for you be patient and don't give up.

Answer 8

Just be patient your prayers were heard,God will work all things out for your good,give him time to work out all the details,getting everyone to do what he wants them to do ,to bring about an answer to your prayer takes time some times.People help God bring about answers to prayers,sometimes some people are stubborn.

Just wait upon the Lord,He will come thru for you.

Answer 9

You have two chooces: 1. Keep on the track your on. 2. Change tracks. I would pick 2. Some times prayer without some sweat doesn't cut it.

Answer 10

Prayers are always answered. Sometimes it takes a while for us to get the answer and sometimes we don't get the answer we want.
Have you tries sowing seed in this area?
My son needed work onetime. I told Him to sow some seed in that area. So he went and volunteered at church. In about 2 weeks he got a job.