Basically got chattin to a guy on a website, exchanged mob no's/email address, sent sum kinda sexy messages etc. We arranged a date (due next wk). He told me about sum medical issues he has, how he always gets hurt and how much he is falling 4 me (even tho we havent met yet). I got my own issues and hav decided i dont want 2 meet up with him. He seems too full-on. How can i tell him in a nice way? I jus feel guilty....
2006-08-04 00:27:51 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think it's a terrible shame that people assume he's a rapist just because he's on the internet. That's just intolerance and ignorance showing through.
However, I do believe that based on what the original poster said that this chap maybe a little sad and lonely. If he's convinced himself he's in love with someone he's not yet met then I would suggest that he is probably prone to obsessive behaviour and best let go as quickly as possible.
Don't condemn him, take pity on him and honestly explain that he scares you with his intensity and that you're sorry to let him down but you don't want to see him. Always start nice and only move to ignoring him if he persists unreasonibly.
Best wishes.
Viking xxx
2006-08-04 00:40:52 · answer #1 · answered by Viking 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honesty is always the best approach. Just tell him you're dealing with some personal issues and feel it would be best for you to postpone the meeting. You don't have to tell him what issues you have. He will probably understand and you can ease out of the online relationship by toning down your messages...don't lead him on because that is a hurtful thing to do to someone. Good luck!!
2006-08-04 00:40:30 · answer #2 · answered by kenzel1958 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, I cannot live without you now either.....what am I supposed to do now.?
but seriously... don't tell him your boyfriend has come back on the scene - that just sounds like the classic made up story. Tell him the truth. I like - telling him you are not ready and might be in the future - then you can keep in contact less and less - he will get the point or just take it as it comes. This way the ball is back in your court and your situation has been dealt with. Don't make any plans to see him after this until you are sure you are ready or not all.
2006-08-04 00:38:08 · answer #3 · answered by drewwers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way is to tell a little white lie... I always use this and it works. Just say that you have got back with an ex and you really want to make a go of it. Say that you think he is a really nice guy and wish him luck for the future. Good Luck!!
2006-08-04 00:36:06 · answer #4 · answered by Vic 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't leave it until last minutes.
just tell him now, just say, look, i have, erm, changed my mind about us meeting. i dont feel ready for dating and relationships at the moment. sorry. (you can also write we can still be mates tho)
if you met him on a dating site he should be OK.
if ya met him on a chat room then take a few mates (male and female) with ya. just 2 b on the safe side. if ya tell him and he says thats ok then he should be ok. if he tries to talk u out of u takin yer mates then do not meet him, no matter what.
good luck
john x
2006-08-04 00:41:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why is that this question see you later? there's no longer something incorrect with interracial relationship, in spite of the incontrovertible fact that that's okay to have a type. purely date the guy which you like the main and who respects you the main. in case you're saying that each and all of the black adult men you have dated do no longer manage you perfect then perhaps you have been relationship the incorrect black adult men. and who cares what your loved ones thinks? you ought to date the guy who you like.
2016-10-01 11:23:11 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him straight. That your not wanting to rush into things he needs to slow down thats why he keeps getting hurt. n that you still want to keep in touch. Soon enough he will have moved onto someone else and it wont be your problem but you are giving him the choice and some advice. You cant go wrong.
2006-08-04 00:44:04 · answer #7 · answered by Laura C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him up front how it is. The truth may hurt, but it's really the best thing to do. No need to be rude and hurt feelings are just a part of life.
2006-08-04 00:33:36 · answer #8 · answered by rastus7742 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest and tell him that as the conversations went on that you had second thoughts and maybe your just not compatible. If he can't take the hint, you know he wasn't right to begin with.
Trust your instincts and get it over with now while it's still easy to do.
2006-08-04 00:36:43 · answer #9 · answered by jarhed 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him your not ready to meet him yet, but you might in the future.. This will make it seem like you still might be interest in him, but at the same time, it will get him to back off of you for awhile.
2006-08-04 00:33:23 · answer #10 · answered by ۞ JønaŦhan ۞ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋