Some of my husband's cousins just arrived at my husband's parents' house unannounced at 9PM last night and are expecting to stay there for the weekend. They drive 8 hours to get there. Don't you think it would be courteous to call or send an e-mail before showing up? They came to our house several months ago and we were out of town for the weekend so no one was home. When I found out, I said, "Give us a call before you come next time." It stresses my mother-in-law out when they just show up but she's too nice a person to say anything to them about it.
2006-08-04 00:25:12 · 14 answers · asked by Momof2 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Whenever someone ring on my door and it is not an expected guest, then I don't open, even if it is obvious for the other person that I am at home. I just ignore the bell and then they will have to ring the phone first.
I know it is cruel, but once they stayed outside the door for nothing, they will call beforehand or send an email.
They should be so considerate and respect your privay and that you might have something else planned for that time.
2006-08-04 00:34:44 · answer #1 · answered by Wednesday 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I very much dislike unannounced guests whether it's for an hour, a day or longer. It's very rude to just show up and pop over, not to mention annoying, inconsiderate and thoughtless. Unfortunately, your husbands parents are older and do not want to speak out and make "waves' so to speak, so they are willing to put up with it. It would be nice if perhaps your husband could gently speak with the guests and explain that the preparing at last minute is difficult for them and it would be nice to give an advanced notice of their arrival. Perhaps they had something to do, or somewhere to go or perhaps they just can't afford to have extra people there. He could mention that there are nice motels in the area (though I do think that would probably be resented, but it would get the point across) and your husband or whomever would help them to find one as no notice was given of their arrival.
Being that they are so thoughtless, saying "Give us a call before you come next time" will not deter them. They need it put gently but straight out.
2006-08-04 02:47:20 · answer #2 · answered by Tweek 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most of the time I love unannounced house guests :-) For some reason I'm happier when my life is alway full of surprise and unexpected. However if the guests want a cozy time at my house, they better call ahead otherwise they may will end up have to watch me rubs away at bruise from Muay Thai, sink ull of blood after I clean up cuts I got from rock climbing accident, deal with punk chicks I bring in, deal with odd foods I buy from Thai store, etc... Or even get kicked out the very next day if unexpected plan come up. Also I strictly prohbit smoking around my house or bring any kind of alcholic beverage or stranger guest into my house.
However I alway try my best to make their time as fun as I could. but I alway tell people if they can't figure out the date then they're welcome to drop at front of the door but I can't guarantee anything unless they let me know in advance.
2006-08-04 01:41:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I wouldn't let the stinky fish stay in my house...Your arrive uninvited and unannounced I would give them the yellow pages and a telephone and say MOTEL 6 is about a mile down the road.....call them and get a room....My house isn't the MOTEL 6 or HOLIDAY INn....
This practice of arriving some where uninvited is RUDE!!
2006-08-04 00:47:04 · answer #4 · answered by aunt_beeaa 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course they should call first. I don't feel sorry for your mother-in-law, though. It's her house, her home, her weekend, and if she doesn't have enough guts to tell them "Sorry, we have other plans," and shut the door, she's just encouraging more unannounced visits, and that's exactly what she's going to get.
2006-08-04 00:58:02 · answer #5 · answered by No Shortage 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what they did is rude... the next morning your mother in law could bring out her suitcase(empty but the cousins don't know) and play like she is leaving on a planned trip to help an older relative or friend paint their house for a couple of days..."do you want to come too or shall I leave you the phone numbers of a few local hotels?" or she could invite over about 10 seven year old boys for a and pay them to be so obnoxious that the cousins leave
2006-08-04 01:04:41 · answer #6 · answered by Library Eyes 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If it was a hotel they would have to make a reservation, they don't sound like they are contributing any money for the hospitality. It is presumptuous and rude and taking advantage of another persons kindness.
2006-08-04 00:31:58 · answer #7 · answered by sereneicequeen 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They may do this because they know that they won't be welcomed. I find it extremely rude and, family or not, I won't let them in my house at all. All you have to do is say: "You should have called; we're just now leaving for Aruba."
2006-08-04 00:31:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would let them come in, serve a few snacks only if I had something easy on hand. Then call and get them a motel room somewhere.
2006-08-04 00:39:20 · answer #9 · answered by Classy Granny 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its always a good idea to call first.lol
2006-08-04 00:41:28 · answer #10 · answered by yarisgp 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋