I have a question. I'm 17 pregnant and I upset my boyfriend all the times because I emotional. I made the mistake of gettin in his account and read an email from his friend. He called her sexy and said she was pretty. I confronted him and he said he didn't mean to he's always talked to her that way. He wrote his friend again and said that I've changed since I've gotten pregnant and he doesn't know what to do. Well I sure as heck have no clue what to do. I want to leave him and let him be with her, but I know that would make things much worse. Plus I know he loves me with all his heart, but I think he would be better without a kid and a lot happier. I'm confused on what to do and how I should handle makin things better between the two of us. Please help me figure this out, I'm too young to do it on my own. Thank you!
2006-08-04 00:17:55 · 11 answers · asked by Hutchess 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sweetie you didn't upset me. Trust me, I've been going through a lot and all. I know it's not as much as you've been going through, but the worst thing you could do is to leave me, I love you. I may be confused by all of this, but there is two things that keep me going every day. The thought of seeing you, and the thought of my baby. I love you and our baby. I can't wait until he's born. I don't want to be with her. If I wanted to be with somebody else, I would of left when you said that you were pregnant. I can't tell you enough how much I love you. When I'm with you, every thing is perfect. I know your going through a lot, so I try to let everything slide by. Just try to remember that I'm going through a lot to. I mean, I just got kicked out of my house, got a new job, have to find a place to live, and I got the love of my life pregnant at a young age. Trust me, You will never have to do this on your own. I love you to much to even think about letting that happen. You don't have to listen to those people who tell you to leave me. You know that I want htis baby. I'm excited to be a dad. And for you people who think that you know me let me tell you soemthing. I've only been with one girl. I only love one girl, and I only want to be with one girl. Brooke I can't wait until the day we get married. You're gonna be the best mom in the world, and I hope to be a great dad. I love you sweetie.
2006-08-04 01:51:38 · answer #1 · answered by Your man who loves you. 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I had my son at the same age! If you are afraid of making it on your own, Don't be! You will find away< marriege is a big commitment and I made the mistake of getting married because I was pregnant. It lasted 3 months, I left him because of abuse and My son is now in his twenties and has not seen his dad since he was 2 years old. You will only be miserable if you stay with someone that is flirting with other girls! and it is obvious that he is attracted to this so called "friend". which usually means that you are not the only one. I think you are better off thinking what is best for you and your baby, and if he loves you time will tell. But don't be kissing his *** to keep him! Their are other's out there that down the road will love you and your child like you deserve! remember emotions and insecurity are part of the whole pregnancy trip! But if he is not supportive, then cut him loose! Baby or not! respect yourself and don't settle for less. If you think he would be better off without a kid, then what kind of father will he make? and is that also fair to the child to end up with a dad like mine? So My advice is take your time your still young! You will find a way to deal with raising your child, there is help out there for you! And find a man that will love and respect you and your child.
2006-08-04 00:37:33 · answer #2 · answered by bckatcha! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, You are emotional. Calm down first of all. If he wants to leave, he will leave. There is nothing you can do to stop that, but don't shove him out the door. Sit down & talk rationally. Ask him where he is emotionally with you and this child. You need to talk now, more than ever! I was so emotional when I was pregnant that I was going to kill myself because my clothes dryer didn't work. I told my bf that it hated me. So trust me when I tell you, this is normal. Talk about this stuff before you make rash decisions. There are ways to do this on your own if you need to. I have now raised both of my kids alone for 2 years. They are 2 & 4. I have no family. I have one person that I count on to watch them so I can go to work everyday. If it is any comfort to him...tell him that this emotional change you are going thru will pass. And you have every right to be emotional. Your mind is probably going a mile a minute with worries. One day at a time darling. Best of luck to you guys.
Also, talking to a counselor sometimes helps. They can mediate from an outsiders point of view so you can both understand how you feel.
2006-08-04 00:27:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You only feel like this because of your hormones they are all over the place right now and your body is going through alot of changes explain this to him.
Also your life is not a waste having a child at 17 i had my first at 17 and second at 19 and certainly don't see my life as a waste. Please ignore people who say things like this to you they are the waste not you it's your life not theres people should not be so judgemental
You can both work though this if you both work at it im still with the father of my chilldren have been for 8 years since i was 15(im 23 now) but you will at times have to work hard at it and it is best for both of you to be involved in the childs life
2006-08-04 00:31:26 · answer #4 · answered by tweetypie88888 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off you can do anything by yourself. Second it's completely normal to be very emotional right now. You are going through a very scary time and you feel very alone. And you really don't need the stress of worrying about your man. He needs to be doing what he can to make this as stress free for you as possible. Maybe you should take a few days and think about what is best for YOU and your child. After you analyze what's in your best interests discuss that with your boyfriend.
2006-08-04 00:28:27 · answer #5 · answered by loveorlust06 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having a child is a monumental undertaking... It really does need two of you working together to keep things from going wrong... It can be done by a person on their own, but is better with moral and physical and emotional support...
Be honest with him, and trust that he does love you... But also give him a chance to spend time with the other person if it helps him... And by the same token he should allow you something similar - to spend time with someone you are good friends with...
Once the child is born, a whole new set of problems will occur, so you need to get yourselves sorted NOW...
2006-08-04 00:24:57 · answer #6 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit focusing on what's best for him. What is best for you and your baby? Things won't be worse if you leave him, there are lots of single moms out there who do fine. Stay in school and get an education. Now days you have to know how to do something if you want a decent career. From now on use birth control. I'll pray for you.
2006-08-04 00:28:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, You guys should have thought about all of this before you got pregnant!!!!!!!!!!!! Sounds like you didnt plan this. To bad. Now you guys must deal woth it. I am not trying to be hard on you but you guys made this baby. You both should raise it if you can. If it is together or apart. This baby is #1 in both of your lifes. All I can say is welcome to parent hood.
2006-08-04 00:28:42 · answer #8 · answered by bigdog_0032 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow 17 and pregnant what a waste of your young life.
2006-08-04 00:22:30 · answer #9 · answered by jalmanny 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Emotions run hihg when you are pregnant. It will pass and you will feel better. Hang in there and explain it to him
2006-08-04 00:22:41 · answer #10 · answered by musiclover 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋