For the guys....when a guy is ready to be married, what is he thinking? What are his worries and fears? What is he excited about? What does he expect from marriage? Serious answers please.
2006-08-04 00:02:23 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The same basic fears as his wife-to-be:
Is this the right person?
What if in two, four, eight years I find a love I realise is both truer and deeper?
Although I've known her for five years, will I discover things about her in the next five, ten, fifteen that will make me regret doing this?
How will her personality change as she matures? For the better, or for the worse?
What does the thought of making love to one woman exclusively, in theory till I die, do to me? Being a guy, will I be strong enough not to stray?
Will I be a good Dad?
Will I be better than my own Dad, or will I repeat his mistakes?
Will I disappoint this woman one day?
Will she really love me after my abs have turned flabby and my hair has turned grey?
Am I doing this too soon?
Am I really good enough for her?
2006-08-04 00:15:09 · answer #1 · answered by Bowzer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes fabio the first answerer is a smart man..he will enjoy many years of wedding bliss lol.
The first time I was getting married i was 23 years old,and was soon a father of 2 within the next couple of years ,I don't regret that. Boy and a girl.
I was thinking of stability,getting my family off my back,at the time I was married in 1983 a man had more respect in the workplace if he was married.
I didn't want to wander through life single and wait too long to be a father and have my children have an "old" father.
I am 46 now,and my children are 21 and 22. I had fun with them when they were young and I was young enough to raise them also and provide for them sufficiently..
I am now 46 and have been divorced for over 10 years.I think that now if I met the right woman I would be thinking of marriage only if I was compatible with the woman in all ways and got along with her family well also.
It is different when you are older than when you are young. If you are young ,I would highly suggest that young people get married and try to make things work out the best they can . In today's world you need 2 people to work through things financially and emotionally.
When you are older ,your partner probably has children from a previous marriage,and it is important to be good to them also because they are a big part of your partner's life.
I am looking forward to meeting my future partner (haven't met her yet ),but when I do I will know it.
I hope this helps you. Good luck
2006-08-04 00:19:17 · answer #2 · answered by Dfirefox 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, he thinks "What the hell am I doing?". Than, if he loves the girl, he will be optimistic. In most of the cases, there is a certain fear of being the "headmaster" of the family, fear which he will get over. He expects understanding and support even if he's not right, so arguments are of no good, guys will never give up (trust me on that). He will be excited about the new "family life" thing (at least in the beginning), so try to do things together, and still leave him some freedom. Marriage is a complicated thing, but hey, if it were so hard, no one would have done it ;)
Good luck!
2006-08-04 00:10:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I were getting married, I would be thinkging of all the wonderful things that my fiance and I had done until then, I would be worried about not making a good father and a wonderful husband, and I would be excited to spend even more time with my mate and I expect a wonderful marriage and that I want her to be the happiest person on the Earth!
2006-08-04 00:13:23 · answer #4 · answered by voice_of_reason 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It was an odd feeling. I was 29 at the time (I'm celebrating my 10th anniversary later on this month) and we eloped. I remember being scared, scared that I was starting a whole new chapter in my life. Scared of the future responsibilities that were just part of being married (future kids). I remember wondering if I'd still have wanderlust . . . I thought about what true love was and if I was in it. I was scared, nervous, excited . . . honestly, I was wondering if I was doing the right thing . . . I of course believe it was the best thing I could've done now that I look back on things but at the time that thought came to me.
2006-08-04 00:13:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it all depends on the culture of your country, in cultures where the guy is still the breadwinner of the household, he will be thinking "will i be able to support my wife and if i have kids, them?" if the culture is more equality of genders then he might be thinking "how long will this marraige last? till death do us part or will my wife or me run off into another relationship because this one is getting boring"
also, different guys have different expectations of marraige. some expect their wife to fully submit to their every wimp while others expect their wife to be an eye opener for them to the world of the fairer sex. it is important to get to know what kind of man you are having to be your husband or regret a painful marraige.
excitements are usually about starting a new family of his own, embracing a new life and so on
so whatever guy you are going to marry hope he fits your criteria or at least most of them on what he should be thinking...good luck!!
2006-08-04 00:21:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wel wen he decides bout marriage..its sure tht he has decided 2 relly spent the rest of his life wid u..nd is ready 2 take up the responsibilities nd do the best 4 the famly....nd it means ur the right nd the 1 nd only person whu is dear 2 him/...
2006-08-04 00:13:46 · answer #7 · answered by Vaisakh S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MARRIAGE TIME
i really lov her?
would i get along with her folks?
i m goin to hav to spend of my rest of life with her
can i do it???
no lookin at any other girl now
every girl is like my sisters
no tryin to hit on them
can i do it????
a new beggining now
can i adjst with her???
his past
her past
i hope there r no to good lookin girl instead her which is not catchin every male attention
2006-08-04 00:16:53 · answer #8 · answered by Angad 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is thinking that i love this woman and want to spend the rest of my life with her, he is ofcourse excited about getting it on, come on who isnt. and as foe the fears he feels he should take it as it comes.
2006-08-04 00:15:51 · answer #9 · answered by rascal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's NOT thinking.
I was worried about it lasting.
I expected love, respect, companionship, faithfulness, fun.
2006-08-04 00:09:50 · answer #10 · answered by David B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋