I have been with my guy for 6 years on and off...In the early portion of our relationship (within the first year) he cheated on me...we broke up an eventually go back together...During the 6 years of this relationship, I have had a hard time trusting him, although for the last few years it seems like he hasn't strayed...but I am wondering is it possible he just got better at cheating?
I hear people who cheat, can change...and he seems like he has been faithful, but how can I tell for sure?
2006-08-03 23:09:02 · 9 answers · asked by Strawberry 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Trust me. He won't change. People do change on other things but not on this one. It is possible that for that past few years he has not betrayed you. But that will happen sooner or later. It's not like that all men will cheat, but if they once cheated, they can't trusted. Don't torture yourself by trying to find out whether he is cheating on you or not. Just be prepared for that. If you really love him and can't stand breaking up with him, live with the truth that he might cheat on you again and take it easily when it happens and learn to deal with it. If one day you are ready to give him up, congratulations because only after that will you start looking for the real guy. Someone whom you can trust must be out there. You deserve to be loved and not to worry about his cheating or not.
2006-08-03 23:22:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is hard to regain trust in someone who has broken that trust. However, if you gave him another chance, you must put the past behind you if you want to have a successful relationship. He has done nothing that you know of to make you mistrust him since, so give him the benefit of the doubt. maybe he has gotten better at cheating, maybe he learned his lesson the first time. Time will tell. But, you can't throw the past up to him or think about it all the time. Love is always a chance. Take a chance, let go of the doubts and give it time. It seems like since it has been about 4 years since he cheated and if you don't have any suspicions that he is cheating again. More than likely he is not.
On the other hand, just secretly check up on him sometime when he says he is going here or there. Check it out see if he is where he says he is . If you live together it is easier to tell. If he comes home every night and takes interest in you then that is a good sign. If he doesn't live with you, drive by his house in the wee hours and see what's going on. But don't let him know you're checking up on him. If you do and he is cheating he will cover his tracks then.
Play detective.
Sincerely,
private eye - cricket
2006-08-03 23:25:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm afraid there is no way to tell for sure.
The best thing you can do is trust him as best you can. Trust is earned and if he broke it once, I'm sure he understands it takes a while for it to come back.
Talk to him, encourage him to always be honest with you especially if he is in a situation that can be seen as compromising so your fears can be allayed. Just be sure you're not a control freak as that might drive him away.
Most of all, you have to forgive him and let the past be the past or it will continue to stay there and create problems, sometimes out of the smallest things. If he succeeds, congratulations, you've turned a guy around. If he fails, it's not your fault, he's human. Drop him and move on.
2006-08-03 23:21:43 · answer #3 · answered by Studier Alpha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not rather agree..... Building down believe is an overly most important obstacle for me. Because as soon as believe has been shattered, the connection is ended too. So, earlier than I permit this believe being destroyed, I compare cautiously all parameters, all situations, all possibilities. I don't finish relationships simply in seconds. I deliver credit score, I take my time. Not an excessive amount of besides!!! But, I check out... And whilst eventually I finish that there's no wish, that the individual isn't nontoxic, I stroll out the connection with out a guilt in any respect, no tough emotions. Because I understand I have given all of the possibilities viable they usually proved fallacious....
2016-08-28 12:53:24 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, you'll never know for sure. The key is do you think you can move past the suspicion? It can poison a relationship as much as cheating. If you don't think you can ever really trust him, you need to end the relationship to be fair to both of you.
2006-08-03 23:14:56 · answer #5 · answered by Kanga_tush2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my answer is once the cheat they well do it again if not now the after 18 years of being married to them belive once and cheater always one good friend my mine went back 18 year later of being married he cheated on her
2006-08-03 23:18:37 · answer #6 · answered by mommy72403 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes trust him
2006-08-04 03:18:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
havent got an answer..just got a similar question................(posted)
2006-08-03 23:14:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, because he has a penis
2006-08-03 23:13:49 · answer #9 · answered by james j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋