My bf used to always asked me to move in with him, and I told him I would not move in with him unless he asked to marry me...we have been dating for 6 years. Finally, we talked about how important it was for me to be married before I move in with him and he said I was rushing him..and I said after 6 years you should know if you are willing to marry me or not and he says I know we will end up together...
After a few months he stopped asking me to move in, and then one day while we were hanging out he said "so you really wanna get married huh" and I said "yes, I love you, I think we are very happy together and I think we are capable of spending the rest of our lives together" and he said " well, you know we can't rush things...we should make sure we are ready. Ready to move in together, be together all the time and etc."
If he kept asking me to move in, but doesn't want to marry me because he is not READY...what does this mean?
2006-08-03 23:00:10 · 7 answers · asked by Strawberry 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He is 27 and I am 25, we used to sleep over each other's place all time for weeks and stuff...I think that was kinda like a trial living together situation....so what does this mean?
2006-08-03 23:01:21 · update #1
I read all ur previos question. from the sound of it it seems to me that he dont wanna marry u. y r u waistin the time hopin one day he will ? if he really loved u he will agree on marrying u after 6 yrs. U need to LEAVE HIM (honestly)
2006-08-06 21:33:41 · answer #1 · answered by ▲▼ßððĝiз▼▲ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It means he's scared of losing his perceived freedom. If you are ok with not being married, don't do anything. If marriage is important to you in the near future, you need to be straight. I have said all along I won't move in with you unless we're married. A 6 year relationship is not rushing things. Either we get married, or I'll have to move on with my life even though I love you.
And then you actually have to follow through with it.
2006-08-03 23:10:24 · answer #2 · answered by Kanga_tush2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is not ready to fully commit. At the stage where you guys are he can end it and still go and have fun with out a divorce. I think he still wants to be single and live that life and he is afraid that once he gets married its going to be gone. He is obviously not ready for that stage. But i think he will come around. I do not think he is into anyone. Its just the fear of being with one person for the rest of his life. He is trying to sort things out himself. Give him more time.
2006-08-03 23:30:13 · answer #3 · answered by omsuperhoops 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't know someone to you live with them on good times and Bad Hard times .
marriage is just putting it on Paper.
you been together Long than Most Marriages
This days are . Now days a marriage is 3 to 5 years . Don't rush him your doing Good But I would want a Ring say some Day we plan too.
2006-08-04 03:16:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when he is not sure about the relation what to tell such a guy ,since 6yrs u r together & u don't know what is wrong with u try to overcome ask him seriously what he want if not live him life is walking ahead not sitting dear ok best of luck
2006-08-03 23:14:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is in with someone else too. keep staying with him more than u r used to. it will help u. and if u cant do it send a detective behind him.
2006-08-03 23:07:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is not as if he is not ready. he just wants to use you and DUMP you like trash. he is not man enough for you. 4get him and get on with your life. for christ sake after 6 YEARS!! and he doesnt know wat he wants!!? 4get him and move on time is not on we ladies.
2006-08-03 23:09:56 · answer #7 · answered by TO BE CONTINUED.... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋