2006-08-03 22:16:46 · 18 answers · asked by chocolateofficer2 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I would skip out on family gatherings.
2006-08-03 22:19:58 · answer #1 · answered by eggman 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have two obvious choices.
The first is to convince your beau to be yours forever and leave the racist bigots out of it. You may not have to elope to France or the deepest Amazon, you may stay civil and kind but you'll basically try to avoid them like the plague.
The second is the more nobler but naturally tougher choice. Get to know them anyway, understand WHY they hate you (sometimes people just pull the race card when it's something else altogether) and grow on them. Grow on them like a wart that just won't go away so that they'll at least have to tolerate you if not accept you.
Also, lastly, if I may be a little crude, white women might be seen as trophies because they're highlighted as the epitome of beauty more than other races. As such, maybe the family's concern is that women of their own culture or ethnic group get neglected and mayhaps they think their son/brother etc. loves you partially BECAUSE you are white. Prove them wrong, sister.
All the best.
2006-08-04 05:27:09 · answer #2 · answered by Studier Alpha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would it mind as long as she loves me, in my case as a guy. It's time to teach the world that the different in color, religion, place of origin are not a problem for 2 people to love each other. Go on and I hope is love is big enough to go over his family wrong thinking and to places you in the stand you deserve.
2006-08-04 05:24:07 · answer #3 · answered by Javy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't upset about it.....I hope things are going better by time.....I think your man have already tried to fix the problem right? You are all right and you have no fault at all.......If I were you, I am trying to skip any family gathering ( if the problem is serious ) or I just speak nice and act nice if they aren't too meant
2006-08-04 05:26:11 · answer #4 · answered by chocolatierdream 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are with the man, not his family.
2006-08-05 12:17:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the man.
It is the man's job to deal with this. If he does not protect you, and your feelings, from his idiotic family, something is wrong.
It may be wrong with him, or it may be wrong with the relationship.
Explain to him how you feel and what you expect of him. If he doesn't respect this, I'd strongly consider ending the relationship.
2006-08-04 05:25:13 · answer #6 · answered by profdave99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I take it you are in love with a black man.
Assuming you are a woman then your fate is sealed.
"When you lay down with pigs you come up smelling like $hit."
No decent white man will have anything to do with you now so make the best of it.
You are what's commonly refered to as a "ho"!
2006-08-04 05:24:29 · answer #7 · answered by Norman Conquest 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you love him and he loves you, that should be good enough for his family. They need to except that you are together and look past the fact that you are white. They need to grow up. Good luck and don't let them ruin your relationship. If you love one another and they just can't except that fact, you should both stay away from them, until they can except it.
2006-08-04 05:30:04 · answer #8 · answered by lori 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't believe that their belief will not be changed. Do as many good deeds as possible. Give as much love and respect to all and eventually you will gain dignity and a lot more love in return.
2006-08-04 05:21:07 · answer #9 · answered by Kanda 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the man loved me, then nothing, I'm not with his family, I'm with him, and if they love him then they will come to accept you.
2006-08-04 05:22:23 · answer #10 · answered by jensarquist 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋