Tips to forget somebody whom we love?

Question

I am in love with my Ex Boyfreind and trying hard to come out of his spell but still unsuccedded.It's been 5 months I have stopped contacting him.This love is so strong that now I have started having pain in my heart.But i want to come out of this Love.I need some useful tips.

Answer 1

First is acceptance. You have to learn to accept that it is over now. Sour-graping may help but at the end it is still there and you are just faking it. Second, be socially active. Go out with friends, meet new people, have fun. Enjoy the things you used to do. Then, if possible avoid anything that discusses love, relationship (like movies, book) this is for you to get over it first. 4th, be open to new suitors. get to know new guys . Remember that, past is past..we can never bring them back. If your past relationship did not work,learn from it and just be thankful that it brings good memories too. Later on, you and your exbf can be friends. But for now, take care of yourself. Don't waste your time dwelling on the past and your ex-bf because if he really loves you as much as you do, he will find ways to reconcile. But if not, then it is his lost because he let a girl like you passed by his life. And most importantly..PRAY. God loves you. I'm certain that He is preparing that special person for you. Hope this helps. God bless! ;0

Answer 2

They say that some of the illnesses we have, we bring onto our self. i.e if you think your head is aching and it is not then slowing your mind get's it into your system that you have an ache in your head etc.

As for your love for your ex contrary to what others are saying, you go ahead continue loving him. Remember all the good times you had with him the reasons why you still love him i guess. But do not at one moment forget that he is human and that you broke up coz of such and such a reason. You will probably never ever forget him but if you are willing to live with the fact that you once really loved him and he reciprocated you will be safe to move on.

Explore something new to keep you busy eg hang out with your girls more, takes classes to learn new things or languages you will not only make new friends but also keep your self occupied.

Answer 3

I think part of the healing process is knowing that once you've opened your heart to someone, it never really closes to them. Other emotoins such as anger or fear may take their place for some time but it's natural to still feel that way from time to time.

The best way to stop bad memories is to make new happy ones. I know that is easier said that done, but it's true. Try to find something to do that keeps you busy, explore some new activities, or go out with your friends and just have some fun.

And you never know, you just might meet someone friendly and cute while your doing it. That's some good therapy right there.

Believe me though, I DO know where you are coming from. There is no "time limit" in how long it should or shouldn't take to get over someone. It's part of life just like they were part of your life at one time.

Answer 4

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Tips to forget somebody whom we love?
I am in love with my Ex Boyfreind and trying hard to come out of his spell but still unsuccedded.It's been 5 months I have stopped contacting him.This love is so strong that now I have started having pain in my heart.But i want to come out of this Love.I need some useful tips.

Answer 5

U will never stop loving him-accept that and go on. Maybe in some time u will realize that he was the best, maybe that he lacked something very important that u needed, maybe that u were just in pain and he eased it for u.... however u go with this - don't stagnate, ur soul has everything to loose. Go out with friends, laugh as much as u can, explore urself ... Good luck!

Answer 6

We don't ever forget the ones we loved, but the pain of the loss doesn't last forever. I know that seems impossible to believe right now, but it's true. Just take each day and live. Soon, you will be actually living again. Sorry for your pain. I know that feeling, and it really does hurt. Again, not something you can believe right now but, you Will be alright.

Answer 7

there is no immediate remedy to take out the pain from losing someone u love.nor is there a time frame for one to forget the lost love.wat u should do is to be thankful for the days u had with him & learned that watever u had can be attained even better with the next relationship.pain is a lifetime process.everyone goes thru it - mentally, physically & emotionally.u'll feel better if u share this with ur gd frens or family members.

Answer 8

It is very difficult to forget the past , still life has to go on , fact is that your past will continue will come in front of you . You should immediately find another person to be your friend and start taking more interest in lots of meditation and try to find out time to go out with your new one , slowly memory will start fading , yes it will take some more time .

Answer 9

been there and done that,it is so hard like the only thing that will take the pain away is to be with him again,but remember u split for a reason,and also remember that everything in life happens for a reason.get yourself out there with your friends and enjoy yourself,even if it does take time,u will wake up one day and suddenly realise that he is not the first thing you thought about when u woke up,u will get over this i know its hard,but dont 4get what doesnt kill you makes you stronger!! good luck.x

Answer 10

No tips time is the only thing that will make you feel better. Took me nearly 2 years to get over mine, even though I was with somebody else by then. I know it physically hurts but keep yourself busy and one day it won't hurt so much. Time....