How do you tell your mom you masterbate?

Question

I dont like to jack-off, it may feel good when your doing it but overall it
it suck, I dont care if people say hey its ok for a teen to jack-off ever minute and blah blah blah.
I do care to what you guys say though, its just that I'v heard that,
"its ok to do, everyone does it or did it in their life!" speech....


This is the way I have thought it out
-After work and when shes watching t.v.
I'll bring out the puppy eyes and say something along the lines of,
"I jackoff...too much....and I sorry"

The NEGATIVE outcome would be
-NO COMPUTER
-NO T.V.
-NO GAMES
-NO TIME TO MYSELF
-NO PRIVACY

Plus she'll tell my sister and then my sister will tell the famly
(i.e.The entire Generation ) from across the U.S. and in Eruope/Asia/Canada. People I havent even met me!



!@%#$&!$#!!!!! <<
Have you ever told your mom/dad that you masterbate??

Have you ever wanted to tell em that you do it??

What do you think I should do, since I hate living in a lie?

15 Male<< if you need to

or my mom is kinda cool and she wouldnt tell my sister....im thinking she'll get emotional

kenhallonthenet,

A)Why do you feel guilty about it?

B)why do you have to tell anybody?

A)Well when you grow up in a Religions house doing something like this would be just,
against the religion too
I have read extensively about this

B)...I dont know...this has been bothering me ever since I found out. Im tired of this, im tired of doing it, im tired of ducking and hiding all the time, im tired of it all...I have to tell her I guess or..

I really apperciate the info/help that you guys gave
Sen,

"Did you really want advice or are just messing with all of us?"

No, I really needed advice, I just didnt know what or how to go by it. I didnt realize how much strain I'd put on my mom, the last thing I want to see is my mom cry, but yeah....im sure she knows.

I managed to not do it (jack-off) for almost 2 weeks now (whats that 17-18 sothin days) including 3 days the week I before. Im'a try to go "cold turcky" for some months hopefully, untill I at least stop permanently.

-Again I REALLY appreciate the advice

Answer 1

I've got three sons, ages 7,14 & 25. I'd be suprised if the oldest 2 hadn't done it. I've never had a conversation with them about it. Your personal sexual practices are not something you usually have conversations about with anyone else other than your lover , when the time comes, not your mother. Why do you feel the need to unburden yourself to her? If you feel it's wrong & you must confess- see a priest not your mom.

Answer 2

Masterbate Mom

Answer 3

How come people feel compelled to bother other people when They feel guilty about something?
Your mom seems like a good mom, so why do you want to play this game with her?
As for your religious household, surely by now someone somewhere has told you that what ever happens between you and any other person place thing or event, is between you and Creator, and no one else. I mean your mom isn’t your god is she? No, so she, along with every human alive on planet earth, can't damn or save you.
You need counseling from out side the home. Don’t blow off the valid points these people have given you here today. It is natural, it is ok, no one wants to make you to burn for it. Even if it were a sin, so what. Forgiveness doesn’t have a numerical value on it. Compassion is constant and never ending, so try giving your self some forgiveness, and show mom a little compassion by not dragging her through your personal hell. Someone here already told you the best person to talk about it if you Must tell a family member. It’s your dad. He understands you more than you know. Obviously. Did you really want advice or are just messing with all of us? It’s cool with me regardless, just another venue to rant at humans for having guilt over simple, non threatening human behaviour.

Answer 4

Dude, you don't have to tell her a thing. She already knows. She's an adult, you know, like, "been there, done that, and now my kid's old enough to be gettin' his." Don't even bring it up, or you'll both just end up all embarrassed, or worse.
You have nothing to be sorry for. Try not to let anyone make you feel guilty. Look it's yours, it's free, God gave it to you, and can't nobody take it away from you or tell you what to do with it - in private, of course. Loose the guilt and enjoy, dude. It's a natural part of life. Though it's hardly like the real thing.
You are not living a lie except the one that's been told to you about masturbation being bad. If it's any consolation, even dolphins masturbate and practice same-sex. Your developing hormonal system causes emotional and physical confusion and strong new drives that are hard to handle.
You are NORMAL! It happens(d) to all of us, and in time you will find relief from your heat. Meanwhile, it's no-body's business but your own! Keep it that way. Good luck.

Answer 5

Look here hunny, i wouldn't worry about telling your mother that you masturbate if i were you ok, i mean seriously do you any one of your mates that told there mother that they started masturbating? Well whats the answer i bet you that it is most probably NO, they did not tell there mother,and you know why? Not only is it like you said embarrassing, but also it really is none of there business also it is a part of nature and growing up We all do it even us girls masturbate too, but I'm telling you something we would have never have even thought about telling Ur mother that we had started masturbating, Don't take this the wrong way but why would anyone want to tell there mother that they are basically having sex with there hand/self!!!!! Can you think of any reasons????? No i didn't think so. So look hunny, as i said before you have absolutely no need to worry about telling your parents that you are masturbating ok love, know just carry on doing what you are doing and bloody enjoy it. SO DON'T WORRY BOUT YOUR MOTHER.

Answer 6

You really have no need to tell her.. She's your mother, so she knows. Moms just have a way of knowing these things..

Also, she would likely much rather have you masturbating than out sleeping around. Even if you did tell her, there would be no reason she would say anything to your sister about it, so that part of your worries is quite ridiculous. If it's really that big of an issue for you, maybe you should stop.

If you currently do it every hour, try going for two, then three, etc.. if it's every day, skip a day, then two, then three, a week, a month, etc.. Or perhaps consider talking to a counselor if you feel you have a problem. The bottom line is, your mother loves you, and if you are uncomfortable, thinking perhaps something is wrong with you, maybe you should talk to her, and see if she is willing to help you find professional help. If you don't feel right talking to her, maybe talk to your father?

Answer 7

Jake, i'm a grow up man and i know you are in really though position. i think the best way to do is by asking u'rself again, if it's(telling u'r mother) makes u comfort, do it! but...if it makes u uncomfort, u dont need to tell u'r mother,it's not a sin or jerk thing, it's normal. i think every mother must be understand what would happen when their son grow up! she was ever young like u're now. so what u'have done is what peoples do normally, but remember too much masterbate is'nt good for u'r health, hanging out with u'r friends maybe helpfull,do some action like sports,games,there's a lot of thing to do out there.thats all.

Answer 8

Young man, What you are doing is absolutely normal...You have raging hormones, and masturbation is actually a better thing than getting some girl pregnant before you're both ready for a baby... Mom doesn't have to know from you.....We mom's are in the know.....And, forget the religious thing...I've never read where god said don't masturbate...OK?

Answer 9

Your mom was touring a hospital.
While walking down the hall on the first floor she looked into a room and saw a man masturbating.
The nurse said it was OK he needs to do that or his balls will explode.
When walking down the hall on the sixth floor she looked into another room and saw a man receiving fellatio from a nurse.
She was very upset and asked what was going on in there,

The nurse explained it was the same problem as on the first floor he just had better health care coverage.

Answer 10

Seriously, there's no need to feel guilty about doing it and you most certainly don't have to tell your mother or anyone else in your family about it.

If you feel so strongly that you MUST say something maybe you could write about it in a spiral journal or something. You don't have to give it to anyone, you can hide it really well or whatever, but it might help you to deal with your feelings regarding the subject. It's just a thought...