Why can't I love this cat?

Question

Ok, I rescued some stray kitten, because its momma wouldn't feed it..this stray cat was going to starve to death in my back yard, so I did not have a choice. It was skinny as heck, and sick with infections. I took the darn thing to the vet and got it taken care of. My husband wants to keep it and my baby has so much fun with it. It is very good to my baby, and has never pooped or peed anywhere it shouldn't. Yet, I can not stand this cat. I didn't want to keep it. I am a doggie person. But, it looks like we are going to keep it, since my loved ones have grown so fond of it. I can't even invent reasons not to keep it. This is a very good kitten. What the heck do I do about this?! Why can't I love this cat, so I could be happy to keep it? Everything it does bugs the heck out of me (except when it makes my baby giggle), even though it never does anything wrong.

Ok. Let me clarify a couple of things. I am not jealous of the cat. The only reason I am keeping it is BECAUSE it brings my family joy. Also, I am not now, nor would I ever be mean to any of god's creatures (no matter how annoying ha ha). I take very good care of it. I did not rescue it to be mean to it for goodness sake.

Answer 1

you do not have to have "ooey-gooey.gushy" love for a being to show "love"...........the fact that you do this animal no harm, feed it and allow it to be petted and and loved by your family says that you actually do love this cat as another living creature.....that is enuf.........just enjoy the JOY it brings to your little loves and quit picking on yourself............you are a good soul !

Answer 2

It is hard to be a dog person and own a cat. Sounds like you are stuck, unless of course you take the cat to the pound and get a puppy instead. Then you will have all the issues until you get it trained.
I don't think it's a matter of not caring for the animal, I think it's because you don't like cats, there is nothing wrong with that, but come this fall, you will love the idea that there are no mice around and this cat will be more independent than it is now. As long as it doesn't walk on the counters and etc. give it a chance. You don't have to be madly in love with an animal in order to keep it around.
My suggestion, keep it around, even if it's outside and in the garage. They are really nice to have to keep the mice down...you will learn to accept the kitten...

Answer 3

Maybe the problem isn't with the kitten, but rather with you. It seems you are a bit jealous of the animal and the effect the cat has on your family.

This is coming from someone who has never owned a cat (I'm too a "doggie" person) but I've never had a problem with cats.

Don't think about it in terms of yourself so much. The rest of your family seems to love the kitten, so perhaps eventually you will too. Give it a chance. Understand that its important to the rest of your family - maybe that will help you get over your reticence towards the cat.

Answer 4

If you don't think a kitten is cute, that is weird. Most people like kittens, even people who are not cat people. How long have you had? It might grow on you. You are lucky you have a good kitten. I got a kitten a year ago that was so annoying. It cried all the time and wouldn't use the litter box. But I loved the darn thing anyway because it was so cute. (My ex took it). Maybe I am just nicer than you. Haha...j/k. Good luck. Even if you don't like it, still be nice to it.

Answer 5

There could be a couple of thing that could be wrong. Number one you may have had a bad exsperience with a cat when you were younger and now you dont like cats. Number two you may just not like cats some people dont. It wouldnt be your fault or kittys fault. I have some Ideas to help you out on this though. Try spending some quality time with kitty (if you have extra time) get to know her (him) as best as possible. Oh another not so far fetched idea about why you may not like kitty is because possibly you are jelouse of all of the attention that your hubby and child are giving this new found friend and that is taking time from you. Its just some ideas and I hope it helps.

Answer 6

It's simple why do you think your baby likes the cat? Cause it's fun to play with it. It has got good reflexes, is fast... That's why most people love cats, else cats are not faithful as dogs...

Also, it is because of this that children love cats more than the elderly do. Now, you have to keep the cat for your baby even though you don't like it. Now, in order for you to start liking it, join your baby playing with the cat. I bet if you sincerely try this.. you will start liking it.
I used to love cats when i was a child, i had a pet.
There are some benefits of having a cat at home... mouse, cockroaches, insects keep away.

Answer 7

You almost sound jealous of your kitten. You need to look inside yourself as to why this is. The kitten sounds adorable. Perhaps you feel like you don't have enough time to care for one more person?

The only thing you can really do is to grin and bear it. The cat has made everyone fall in love with it, and it will do the same to you, given time. Whatever you do, please don't hurt the poor thing. It's not the kitten's fault that you're a dog person.

Answer 8

You need to remind yourself, that animals, like your beautiful baby, are INNOCENT CREATURES. The cat obviously brings joy to your loved ones, so that should make you happy, but if it really bothers you this much maybe you should give it away to a family that will love it and take good care of it. Maybe you have some deeper issues within yourself that are manifesting themselves through your annoyance and anger with this cat. I don't know WHY you are hateful of it, but I think it is sad, so hopefully it will grow on you! It sounds like maybe you aren't even giving the poor thing a chance. Good luck to you.

Answer 9

You sound like you don't like cats at all...why not try and become friends with this cat...it loves your baby and your husband likes having it around...so the problem is you...you really need to change your feeling about this cat and be fair with the way your family has taken up with this sweet cat...it sounds like the cat is very well behave and is a loving cat...i know you are a dog lover and i think this is one of the problems...bite your teeth down and try to love this cat...at lease for your baby...you might just fall in love with the cat...please give it a try...the cat deserves a caring home...

Clowmy

Answer 10

You feel pitty for it because of how it was when you rescued it. This is a normal human reaction, like if you let some street bum stay in your house to give him a home, you would likely hate him the whole time because of the bum he was when you found him. You hate feeling sorry for things, and you feel sorry for the cat, thus you hate the cat. The best answer, give it time. The cat will eventually become the most loveable thing in your house. It will get healthy and fat and just lay around all day cuddling up to you begging for you to scratch it's head and pet it.

Answer 11

actually you did have a choice..you are a great person to help the kitten rather than let it be in misery.

as far as "liking it"..i feel that way about dogs. Ive always had cats, i appreciate their independance (they wont need to go outside to potty in the rain)
they dont need to be walked, and they dont bark.

to each his own I say =)...you may not ever be a *cat* person...but that kitten will remember your kindness and unselfishness. Maybe you could have a place of your own that is off limits to it,then co-habitating with it may not be so difficult.

hope all works out for you!