i engaged before 4 years ago...i make sex relation with my future husband...?

Question

i start sex relation wid my future husband..but he died in road accident.now my parents want that i married..i dont hv courige 2 tell them all what happen..bcoz they never bear this.is there any way that after married my husband didnt came 2 knw that i m already fucked...is there anyway plzz help me..otherwise a attept susite...plzzz help me

Answer 1

tell ur parents, they definitely will understand and help u. of course they will b shattered but they will eventually help u out of this.

learn from this that u should always save urself 4 the right moment.

ur parents will help u by taking u 2 a gynae n get somthing done so that u could b a virgin again.

but dont make it a practise.

Answer 2

I think I understand, is your religion or background making it impossible for you to marry unless you are a virgin? If that is the case, then you need to be talking with God and getting that worked out personally. Not everyone needs to know, that should be between you and your future husband. If he is a virgin, don't worry, he won't know anyway. Take it easy on yourself, you aren't that bad even if you think right now that this is the end of the world, it isn't. I guarantee that in a few years you will laugh about this.
I'm thinking that your parents are arranging this marriage. If that is the case, tell the man and see what happens.
I don't think your parents need to know. Just play this out and see what happens. I don't think there is that much that can be done now anyway, what is done is done, just move forward from here. Pray for forgiveness and love your future husband like no one else could...Your going to be fine, don't be silly, killing yourself will only hurt the other people around you more than telling them the truth, at least then you give them the satisfaction of forgiving you. Oh, by the way, you are forgiven for all your mistakes if you are truly sorry for them.

Answer 3

Your parents don't need to know and you don't have to marry until you want to. Your future husband may well suspect you're not a virgin, but there's no way he can know for sure - the hymen can break through strenuous exercise and in some women it apparently never exists - it disappears in the womb. You should find yourself a husband who's not misogynistic enough to think this matters - if you can't do that, lie. In other societies, it's none of anyone's business if a woman chooses to lose her virginity to another before marriage - and it's not anyone's business now. It's your business. If it really matters to those around you, start using tampons for when you're on your period. That's probably what broke my hymen. You're still a virgin if your hymen is broken, though (even though you're not) and so as yours is broken, just claim it must have broken other than by sex. But don't even commit suicide - move to another country and get away from these people before that happens. You'll be accepted there.

I wish you the very best in life.

Answer 4

If you don't tell anyone, they'll never know. Some women are born without a hymen. Some women don't bleed the first time they have intercourse. There are a variety of ways that your hymen may have been torn, for example, by using tampons, horseback riding, ballet and even gynecological exams. If you happen to live in a culture that requires a bloody sheet, make a tiny cut somewhere (leg, arm, finger) and smear just a drop or two of blood if you must.

Answer 5

Firstly I sort of understand where you are coming from my friend had to have an arranged marriage, it must be really hard for you girls. Secondly do not tell anyone about what happened in the past, no one will find out.
When you lose your virginty not everyone bleeds you must have found this out for yourself, just pretend you don't know what your doing on your first night with your future husband, let him take the lead!

Thirdly don't ever sacrafice your own life
and last but not least you need to delete all of this information from your computer quickly before anyone sees it.
Good luck with your marriage I'm sure you will be very happy

Answer 6

Well we all make mistakes in life. I amrried my first husband becasue he forced me and I was afraid to tell my parents. Living a lie is a hard thing to do. I suggest you be honest. You will be surprised at how understanding people can be. Now there is a very decieveing thing that you can do but I hope you are honest instead. I have an aunt who convinced men she was a virgin by having sex with them for the first time while she was on her period. It worked for her but she is a dishonest woman. Be honest okay. Trust me it is a big deal but not as big as you feel it is. pray about it. Good luck.

Answer 7

Its sad to note this unfortuante incident has occured to u. You must learn to let go of the past and move forward. You need not let your next partner know about your past. Always remember, never tell your future about your intimate encounter. Man are generally selfish and will never accept the fact. So the best is to keep it in u and live a happy future

Answer 8

I don't really understand your question but I'll try. If you are asking is there any way for your husband to know if you are a virgin or not, nah! Not unless he is an OB/GYN. And on another note don't kill yourself. You weren't the first person to have sex before marriage and you won't be the last. Parents don't always understand but they usually love you through anything.

Answer 9

what's the big deal ?

first, I'm sorry to hear about the death of your future husband, it must be very hard for you.

but if you got a new boyfriend, and if you love him and want to marry him, you past live is ownly yours. it's not a shame not to be a virgin. you loved that man, and made love with him. that's a natural thing.
if your next bf don't understand that, he's a jerk. and if he knows that you were engaged 4 years ago, he won't expect you to be a virgin.

you don't have to tell your parents, it's your life, not theirs.

Answer 10

Get some fake blood to put on the sheets for your wedding night and scream like hell when you make love for the first time with your new husband. He'll never know any better!!