I studied a mile away from our home. So, I lived in a bording house with my friend as a room mate.
But then, my sister will work here.. so my mom asked me if she could live with me for a while. I am insisting to let her find some place to live. I don't want her to live with me in the same house because that means... no hang outs, nightime parties.. it's like i'll live with a guard and every move would be watched for.
Pls. help me on what I'll do and what will I tell to my mom and sister..
2006-08-03 20:01:20 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
it sounds like a familiar problem , and it rang something in my ear too , coz i have had that maybe a couple of times , where i wanted to be left alone and your famil just ask you to do them this favour where you think your life that you want for yourself is going just perfect and you dont need any intruders .....
but from some other point maybe she cant aford it and she needs your help , its good to have a siste and brother, coz they are at the end your bestfriends, your sister or brother are the people who would never let you "Really" down .... they wont ... they r the people who u will allways have and not these " young " friends u have right now ...
i lived too away from my parents with FRIENDS , and we had the best time ever ... you know .. we had parties , going outs , everything .... one day my brother came to live with me coz he has decided to study in the same uni ... one time i discoverd that i can make him one of my friends too and we started enjoying even more the going outs ... you try that ,,,,, and if u ever read my questions .. these so called firends HAVE LEFT ME , and no one came to congrats me on my new baby that i have just had 6months ago , like 2 years after finishing the uni with my so called friends ...
but my brother NEVER left me ... !!!!!
just something that you think abou t...
hope i have helpd...
bye and good luck .
2006-08-03 20:36:05 · answer #1 · answered by delayla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're living in a boarding house because your school is a mile from your house? I used to walk two miles to school every day.
Never mind. Talk to your sister first. Conspire. I'm sure she doesn't want to live with you. Help her make some other arrangement and then when she tells your mom where she wants to live you just be supportive and say things like, well if she's old enough to be away from home she ought to be allowed to decide for herself where she wants to live. And then add that even though you will be lonely it won't be too bad because she will be close enough that you can see each other often. And then you and your sister make a big show of assuring each other that you will call each other and see each other practically every day because you don't have to live in the same house to be family.
2006-08-04 03:17:36 · answer #2 · answered by Lleh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having a sister closeby might be a safety factor for you. How old are you? How mature are you? Are you older than your sister?
On the other side of the coin, if you are old enough to live on your own, then you want some prvacy. I think it's time to sit down and have a serious discussion with mom and sis. Good luck. Either way, be careful.
2006-08-04 03:09:30 · answer #3 · answered by reme_1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all if your parents are paying for your schooling and or board then they have a right to ask. If not you could say it would not be fair to your room mate to bring someone else into the home.
On the other hand this is your sister and you know if it would work out or not. If nothing else you could say the landlord will not allow more then __ tenants per unit.
Kathy
2006-08-04 03:10:06 · answer #4 · answered by c2god2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her honestly. Tell her you've grown up and that you have more parties and hang outs then before. And tell her she'll have to deal with it or she'll have to find a place to live. And also tell her if you weren't my sister you wouldn't still be in here so appreciate it and crack a smile to seem a bi nicer.
2006-08-04 03:13:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say NO.
You are growing into an adult now and you need to learn to be assertive otherwise you will be a doormat all your life.
First tell your Mum you dont want this to happen, then tell your sister and make it clear she is not welcome as a live in guest, only a visitor.
2006-08-04 03:23:07 · answer #6 · answered by vaivagabundo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could tell her the truth or find her a house and get her to move in there.
2006-08-04 03:14:30 · answer #7 · answered by nikki 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell your mom that you prefer your sister to stay somewhere else because you want your freedom.
2006-08-04 06:02:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest, if you're old enough to live away from home, you're old enough to have a sensible grown-up conversation with your family.
Chances are you're sis doesn't want to live with you anyway.
2006-08-04 03:05:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to tell your mom that you are boarding and can not have long term guests. tell her that your sis must find her own place, now that she is working.
2006-08-04 03:07:16 · answer #10 · answered by marilee w 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋