In the past week Ive had two girls start to ignore me delete me from myspace and ignore me on AIM. I dont know what I did. The two dont know each other at all. They both admitted feelings to me and I didnt know how to respond to it. I guess I just get shy. Do you think it was taken as being mean. I dont know what to do. I think i may have hurt both of their feelings and now mine are being hurt. I'm just shy and not mean! How should I approach this?
2006-08-03 19:47:33 · 20 answers · asked by sTRIKER 81 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sometimes ignoring things that happen can and will make matters worse. Learn from this, women don't like to be ignored nor do they like procrastination.
Now, to fix the mess, talk to each of them and ask them to forgive you that you were not meaning to be mean or anything of that nature and explain that your personality leans towards the shy part and you are trying to work on it and with a little understanding you will achieve that goal.
Then don't keep dwelling on this, just work at being a little more responsive to others.
You will do fine, don't let hurt feelings keep compounding, makes things really bad if you do.
2006-08-03 19:53:57 · answer #1 · answered by teddybearloverus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well there's not much you can do for the girls that are ignoring you. If you know them in person then you should try to fix things. You should ask them why they deleted you from myspace? If they say they got hurt or something similar, then you should explain the shy thing. For future reference though. They probably thought you were telling them to get lost and stop hitting on you because you weren't interested. Some girls can be very sensitive. Especially if they thought that you were better than them and they were afraid that's what you thought all along. So just try flirting back next time. Compliment her on personality, being fun, cool, smart, funny, nice to talk to, pretty. Anything as long as you really think it. If you don't really think what you say to them, then they might find out and possibly think you are just a guy that compliments every girl he sees to have one handy at all times.
2006-08-04 02:58:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm.. I think you should not be discourage about the situation and just continue with life. If you know them in person, try to know what is happening and from there. Understand how to solve the problem. You may never know that both girls just happen to be neighbours right?
Of course always try to look on the bright side of the situation, I am like you shy and will not seem to get the girl I always like. But always be good to the people around you, be a gentleman. And the girl of your dreams may come knocking on your door just like what happened to me..
Cheers!
2006-08-04 02:57:03 · answer #3 · answered by THE ONE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look you may never find out what the problem is. DO NOT try to contact them if they are ignoring you. If they were really into you they would of told you WHY they didn't want to talk to you. YOU know that you are not mean, that is what matters. Try to just relax there are a lot of people out there that will be your friend that is what is cool about the net. Good luck hon.
2006-08-04 02:53:03 · answer #4 · answered by trouble comes a knockin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well with people on the internet you dont want to try to start a realtionship with people unless you really know them. You might get hurt but id try to find them and if you are unlucky then move on. I mean there are plenty of people on yahoo answers. I think that you should at least try to find out what happened.
2006-08-04 02:54:34 · answer #5 · answered by adam L's gurl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to em. get over the shy thing. i know its hard, but u just gotta go up and talk to em and see whats up. being shy is one of the worst things u can be when ur tryin to get with a girl. i know ive experienced it firsthand and i feel for ya. u just have to force urself to talk to em and ignore the little voice tellin u to turn back cuz that little voice is a ******* devil.
2006-08-04 02:54:39 · answer #6 · answered by Cole 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just so this won't happen again try to give a team effort in saying how you feel. No one likes to feel rejected and I'm sure that's how these ladies felt. U seem like a nice guy, just try to be more in touch with your feelings
2006-08-04 02:53:33 · answer #7 · answered by Ms. Educated 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
boy you sound young but its just a place to make friends dont take it hard but you say your shy .how can you be shy over the computer?if you dont feel the same way they feel about you just keep bringing up friend they'll get the point
2006-08-04 02:53:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have their phone number, wh ynot give them a call? Maybe you can talk to them personally and tell them what's going on. You're being a friend. You want to fix things between you and them. I wish you the best. Good Luck!
2006-08-04 02:53:28 · answer #9 · answered by Drivliam 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why should you be shy be guy and communicate your feelings openly. come out with your emotions diplomatically after checking the opposite reaction. always act, dont react. nothing should hurt anybody. be clear what you would like to express, your shyness will vanish.
2006-08-04 02:54:24 · answer #10 · answered by shankari n 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋