as ve r married in the year 2005,,but plz help me how should i face people when they ask for a kid ..when will u have a kid and they r troubleing me a lot
2006-08-03 19:36:24 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
simply reply "when we're ready" and leave it at that. it's nobody else's business outside of you and your spouse.
2006-08-03 19:41:06 · answer #1 · answered by The Beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its your life darlin. not theirs and they aren't going to raise it and go through the pregnancy... When people ask, politley say that it is a personal choice, or it won't be anytime soon, we want to spend more time together and enjoy just the two of us... they don't have to know you don't ever want kids... just tell them your not ready and hopefully they will leave you alone for a bit. But honestly people bug me all the time and im only 23. we've only been married for 2 1/2 years and frankly my husband has some growing up to do. There are polite ways to tell them that your just not ready.
2006-08-03 19:44:23 · answer #2 · answered by doll face 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a backbone. Its your life and it will affect you for the rest of it. Just because your family wants children doesn't mean you are ready. people are having kids later and later in life. You are just following the trend. Your family will still love you and support you. Be firm and leave no wiggle room. Tell them that you will have kids when you want them, not before. If you tell them to lay off they probably will and if they don't be a little more aggressive about it.
2006-08-03 19:41:53 · answer #3 · answered by mildmanneredclarkkent64 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no one can force a couple to have a kid..they can ask..when and beg you to try to have one but never force....i know its hard to ignore people but if you both aren't ready for a baby then dont feel like you have to cause your family wants you to.....its your choice...they aren' t going to be the ones supporting the baby,,getting up at all hours of the night to feed or change the child...its your life and your an adult you have the choice to have a child now or later....just be up front with them when they ask you when your going to have one.....nothing is going to make them stop if they want your o have one that bad.all i can say is just ignore them...or stay away from them for a while maybe they will get the point....
2006-08-03 19:48:30 · answer #4 · answered by sgtrlopez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mostly they are just being polite. Come up with an answer and stick with it. Make it truthful but not too pointed.
For example, if you aren't sure when you are going to have a kid but maybe you might have one in the future, say that you are still planning it all out but that you have time.
2006-08-03 19:42:51 · answer #5 · answered by PermDude 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through that....don't because this was not planned by you. What happens when it will never feel right anyway you would do it for them. I had this experience unforunately my son never had the the pleasure to enjoy family they all died too soon. What has happened we are left the 3 of us. Husband, wife and son now 25 yrs. which I still give my love and attention too.
Enjoy life its a good beginning towards your journey.
Good-Luck!
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2016-12-14 19:08:38 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When and if you both are ready then you will decide. Tell your family that it is a private matter and when you decide you will let them know and until then ignore the pleas. After all nothing says you have to have any children and if you do you and your husband will be raising them not the family....so stay strong and stick to your joint decisions..
2006-08-03 19:42:44 · answer #8 · answered by Patty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ONLY you and your hubby can decide this and are NOT ready nor want a kid,at this time and if ever.Politely say,WE have decided to wait a while and strengthen our marriage,enjoy each other,and take it from there.We're just NOT ready and it wouldn't be fair to us nor a child.And that's people/family who you think YOU owe an explanation to.Others just say,were not ready.You shouldn't have to explain yourself to anyone who you don't want to.Good luck.
2006-08-03 19:51:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them you are planning to have one in two years. Make that your standard answer. Until you are ready to have kids. Then they will have an answer and leave you alone. You are not to negotiate for an earlier time. It works.
2006-08-03 19:43:13 · answer #10 · answered by Living the Alaskan life 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them to back off. Your not ready to discuss this with them. If and when your decied to have a kid it will be on your and your hsbnd time table not theirs. If you let them push you into having a baby you may resent that child later on. Remember you r the one who has to raise it.
2006-08-03 19:41:33 · answer #11 · answered by jagbeeton 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋