well...my family is going through a really tough time right now and this guy that i ahve been talking to wants to go out with me. but i dojnt think im emotionaly ready for a realtionship and he said he soesnt care as long as he can be wiht me.what should i do?!
2006-08-03 19:26:46 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
LET HIM WAIT-WHEN U'RE READY,IF HE'S STILL AVAILABLE THEN ITS ON.
2006-08-03 19:30:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm.. you can ask him to wait, cause if he does not wait, this prove one thing, he has no patience. He should understand you if he really wants to be with you. Right?
Of course you two can be the best of friends till you are ready to be in a relationship. And is only from there you decide if the bond should advance to the next level.
Well stress on understanding? Cause in a relationship if there is no understanding, chances of you two breaking up is very high. So why spend your time, effort in something which you know that will fail? Even if he ask you to give him another chance what are the chances of you two getting a success?
I don't mean to be mean or anything but I hope you understand. I will be praying for you hopefully that your family will have a breakthrough...
Cheers!
2006-08-04 02:49:14 · answer #2 · answered by THE ONE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not ready for a relationship, you shouldn't be in one. Trust me, it is just more stress that you don't need at this age. If he says that he doesn't care that you're not ready, but he only cares that he is with you, he is obviously very self-centered anyway. He shouldn't be putting his want of going out with you before your reasoning. If he REALLY cared about you, he would wait until you were ready and NEVER rush you into anything. Never let a guy, or anyone else for that matter, make you do something that you don't want to do. Good luck!
2006-08-04 02:32:40 · answer #3 · answered by tumblingtumblers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi Savannah h r u ? Let me ask you a question here :
who is the most important person in your life ? You might answer:
my mom,my dad,my sister,my brother,or maybe this guy you are talking about.....etc !!! well dear, you are wrong !!
The most important person in your life is YOU,and no one but you, why ? I tell you why : If you were lost some where with a friend,both hungry and thirsty like hell,would you think of feeding your friend first or yourself ?
which brings us to your question,if you are emotionally not ready,don't go into this relationship,because if anything goes wrong he will blame you for it,and YOU DON'T NEED THAT.
If he wants you he can wait until you are ready.
2006-08-04 02:49:49 · answer #4 · answered by Fadi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He really cares about you. Give it a go. Start from being friends and it's good to have someone around when you are being through a tough time. Don't take it as a relationship yet if that would make you feel guilty or bad in other ways.
2006-08-04 02:31:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should be really honest about where you are with your family and your life and tell him that you may not be ready for a serious relationship right now. If you would still like to get to know him and keep the option open then tell him what you are capable of right now and ask him what his expectations are. If he wants to be in your life he will be there for you and not pressure you. Set the boundaries you are comfortable with and make sure to communicate them with him or anyone else in your life. I hope things get better for you and your family.
2006-08-04 02:48:52 · answer #6 · answered by UCURGYPSY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, there is a guy out there that knows about your personal situation and says he doesnt care. But you feel like you arent ready. You probably need him more than you know and are thinking way to hard about getting serious with him.
Take a deep breath and go out with him for some coffe or something. But just tell him you arent ready to move TOO FAST.
2006-08-04 02:33:15 · answer #7 · answered by sincerely, see me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you're not ready for a relationship at this time, but if he's still interested when everything is worked out, maybe you can give it a try. Every good relationship starts out as a friendship, maybe he can be "with you" as a friend and help you with your struggles, but make it clear that it's a /friend/ship until the time is right.
2006-08-04 02:33:28 · answer #8 · answered by sweet_lil_cowgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your stressed out it might be good for you to go out and have a little fun. He should respect your wishes to not push anything serious right now. Just have a little fun with out being too serious. Im in the exact same situation right now. Im 24, dont know how old you are but they say laughter is the best medicine. Go have fun.
2006-08-04 02:32:18 · answer #9 · answered by UlickNme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are sure that right now you are not ready for a steady relationship. why worry, explain this to your friend and be his good friend. if he really cares for you he will understand the situation and wait till everything is sorted out. tough time pass away and good time will soon come. have patience till then and concentrate only on your job which is important at present condition. please give full support to your family and try to solve things.
2006-08-04 02:34:44 · answer #10 · answered by shankari n 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get pressured into anything you don't want to do. If you aren't ready he should respect that and if he really cares he will wait for you to be ready. You need to be ready so you can work on the relationship without distractions!
2006-08-04 02:31:15 · answer #11 · answered by sissyfyia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋