I am sending my kids to school for the first time as a mom. i am not a new mom but i gave custody to my ex hubby and now i have custody back. My kids are in 1 and 3 grade. ( don't give me **** i did this for all the men who never get there kids, no I feel men have just as many rights as a female when it comes to the best for the child, he had a damn good job and my kids had everyhting they could possible NEED not want NEED) is there any advice I need to know I feel I am jumping in blind. actually i am sacred out of my mind.
ps i am not a druggy, dope head or anything else i just feel men have rights just like women
please help a mother who wants to give her kids the best.
2006-08-03 19:12:47 · 8 answers · asked by Brandy 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I just wanted to say that I commend you for giving the father the children. I am a single father, have been for 13 wonderful years now and from what I have been told I have done an awesome job raising my daughter. You are right, sometimes the father can provide a good home for the child or children. Just because we are men don't mean we cannot raise a child.
I understand you are scared. Being responsible for a little one's life is scarry. You will be suprised how your instinct will take over. When you are trying to decide what is right you will most likely know deep inside. Most of parenting is common sense and using what our parents taught us because after all that is where we learn to be a parent.
Don't be afraid to make mistakes. None of us were born parents. We are all human and we are all capable of making mistakes. We learn from our mistakes and keep going.
Don't be afraid to ask other parents what they think about things. Yahoo Answers is not a bad place to start. You might also want to check with the county where you live, they might have parenting classes or support groups.
I wish you all the luck in the world. There is nothing in this world that is as wonderful as being a parent. You and your children will grow and learn together. Enjoy them while they are young.
2006-08-03 19:27:52 · answer #1 · answered by Mav 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well hats off to you!
Being scared shitless is normal. I have three daughters and the youngest is going off to kindergarten this Monday... I have been a stay at home dad for several years. (I work from home, my wife is in grad school) I have already done this two other times.... and I'm still scared! Go with the flow and ask lots of questions! If you can, do stuff like show up for lunch with them... They are still young enough that they will think it is cool!
Keep you head high, and demand respect!
Peace
2006-08-04 02:24:20 · answer #2 · answered by and,or,nand,nor 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are blessed to have your children with you, the time you spend with them teaching them good habits and morals will stick with them the rest of their life and give them a chance for a great life. "Material things" don't last but your LOVE and TIME with them will. So many young parents think they have to give their kids everything they desire to be a good parent...but kids need to learn they can't have everything that they will get some treats along the way.....not everything handed to them on a silver platter just because they see it on TV.....If you are kind and patient with them and enjoy taking care of their personal needs...they will love you and appreciate you as their MOM....being a MOM...is the most gratifying job if you go into it with love for them...as you are doing now....not like you are their maid or cook....but because you love them they are part of you..and your x......always speak well of their Dad even though you and him might not have the best relationship....they should look up to both parents...no matter who is raising them.....I'm old and retired and made my goofs along the way with my kids....I'm telling you these things to help you see that your kids are only young once...and what you do for them with love in your heart now will make the biggest difference in their lives later..it's like building a foundation for a house...you have to have a strong first floor..to support the rest of the house....let them know you are there for them always....like the first day at school how scared most kids are....tell them you are going to be there for them if they have any worries....they need to be reassured...you are there. Kids don't need much to be happy....I could keep writing...but I better close now with best wishes with your dear little ones....PS...i must say this before I go...have a routine with them..a bedtime, be organized, make the lunches for school the night before put in the fridg..so it's ready on time...no rushing...get them up in time to dress, so they can leave the house without being stressed out....when they come home from school have a treat waiting for them....let them play for awhile before doing homework......i'm sure there are more suggestions ....I can come up with...but you get the idea....hugs to you and best wishes
2006-08-04 02:32:08 · answer #3 · answered by Mama Jazzy Geri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure what your question is?
Call the school and find out what you need to register them. You'll need their vaccination records, doctor's info, past school info, and maybe proof of residence.
If they are going to a new school, try to take them there before school starts to look around and meet their teachers.
Be positive and excited about the school year!
Make sure they have a quiet space at home to do their homework. Set "homework time" each night and be available to help if needed. Be sure to sign off on homework logs and such before they return to school.
2006-08-04 08:20:11 · answer #4 · answered by momma2mingbu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its hard for you..even though your kids have attended school before while being with their father...it seems like its the first time cause it is the first time in your mind....dont feel bad or scared...parents go through this when kids are going to school for the fist time....just make sure they are prepared....usually school send them a list of things they will need for class...just make sure they have all they need and that they are ready...dont let them know or even sense that you are feeling this way it might make them feel weird as well.....our oldest is going to junior high and it still feels like the first time every time one of our kids starts a new grade..so dont feel like your the only one...just have fun with them and make school fun...and like im always saying have an open relationship with your kids let them know they can always come to you...i know that way off the subject but its never to early to start...take care and hope everything works out...
2006-08-04 02:26:49 · answer #5 · answered by sgtrlopez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know the mistakes you have made, and sound like you are trying to make things right! You go girl!!
Just keep trying to do the right things, give love, and you will get love, do not be afraid of asking for help. We are human, have choices, and have to learn to make the right choices. If you follow your heart, God will help you. Best wishes.
2006-08-04 02:32:15 · answer #6 · answered by Bear 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you need to enroll them they need past school records school physicals dental records shot records, ect ect. go to the school where they'll be going they can tell you more
2006-08-04 02:23:05 · answer #7 · answered by Lisa R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what's your question????
2006-08-04 02:22:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋