ive been dateing and liveing with an awesome man for little over a year. weve been freinds for over three years. weve been talking about getting engaged. we have yet to introduce our parents to one another.
when would be a good time to do that? or isnt it really that important?
2006-08-03 18:49:48 · 15 answers · asked by lusciousevil 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
im 23 he's 24.
2006-08-03 18:50:36 · update #1
um... ive met his parents and he's met mine more then i can count. we just never gotten both sets of parents in one room togther to met. his parents know of mine and mine know of his but they never met.
ive been to family funtions, met grandparents, uncles what have you and vise versia.
there isnt any problems or hiding in our relationship.
sorry for the misunderstanding there Carol O...
2006-08-03 19:10:49 · update #2
I'm 28 and my hubby is 29 and we've been together for 11 years today and married 3 years in 2 weeks and our parents have NEVER met. At first it was b/c his dad was a hard core alcoholic (not anymore, but he is abrasive) and my mother is hard core judgemental (it is her way), but as time goes on, it just doesn't seem like there's a need for it. It would just be awkward for all those involved b/c while both families are dysfunctional, they do it in very different ways. Our families are never going to get together for holidays and our parents are never going to be friends, so we just opted to skip that painful, awkward moment. We eloped, but if you plan on having a wedding, maybe get them together for a group dinner to make that announcement then?
2006-08-03 18:56:56 · answer #1 · answered by mytreacheryiseternal 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's important. Like it or not, they are where you came from. If you find out that his father is domineering and his mother a wimp, that's the basis of a marriage that he understands. While he may seem awesome now, it could be that once you are married he will expect you to be like his mother. You'd better find out what type of relationship his parents have. If it's a problem for you, you may want to get couple counseling to work out your differences in expectations.
It's also possible that his parents are wonderful and have a marriage you've dreamed of all your life. In that case, drag him to a church/justice of the peace/Las Vegas immediately.
My only real concern is why you've never met the other partner's parents. Are you trying to hide something from the other? And why haven't your parents tried to meet you two? You've been living together for a year. Aren't they the least bit curious? Haven't you visited them or they visited you in all this time? Sounds strange to me, but my family is obviously different than either of yours. Just meet them. The experience could be an eye-opener.
2006-08-03 19:04:26 · answer #2 · answered by CarolO 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your gonna introduce them do it in a casual way. That way there is no pressure or expectations. You could schedule a dinner and "accidentally" bump into each others family, or just have a family BBQ. Something casual will be the best route. When isn't important. It sounds like you guys are serious together so do it.
2006-08-03 18:54:56 · answer #3 · answered by UlickNme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you get engaged is a good idea. There are two things I would think: you could go to a resturant or invite them over to you and your boyfriends house. I believe that would be better so you can talk and really get to know each other. My husbands parents and my parents are really good friends. We all go to church together and we get together during holidays. It is nice to have such a great family. Good luck!
2006-08-04 02:20:14 · answer #4 · answered by glitter3317 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tomorrow
2006-08-03 20:00:39 · answer #5 · answered by ambitiousd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Today evening at 7-00 pm.
or
Tomorrow morning at 7-00 am
or
Tomorrow evening at 7-00 pm
or
whenevr you want.
Sooner the better.
2006-08-03 18:53:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
introducing him or her to ones parent is not important when the two of you are still not sure of where the relationship is heading. But when their is a definition of the relationship and it has been onfirmed that it is for better for worse, then the uestion of introduction to parents can come in.
2006-08-03 19:02:27 · answer #7 · answered by olujawolusi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Isay after the engagement is official meaning each of you have rings .Then you go tell your parents and he goes and tells his cuz it is better you tell your parents alone and he tells his alone just in case they might not like it .Then each of you invite your parents the following weekend to dinner to met.
2006-08-04 12:53:03 · answer #8 · answered by movin12006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either right after or just before you become engaged would be a good time.
2006-08-04 10:34:57 · answer #9 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it isn't that important, but u guys want to.... now would be a good time as u have been together for a year...
2006-08-03 18:53:49 · answer #10 · answered by Tezza 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋