2006-08-03 18:30:06 · 52 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It depends if you're married to them (so you've said the vow's - which is a promise to stay together, so you've given your word to this person), and if you have kids together... because if you do the best environment for them to grow up in is to know the security of mum and dad together...
Falling in or out of love is usually associated with 'feelings' and feelings can be fickle, unstable, superficial, based on false ideas or expectations (of who that other person actually is).
You get what you focus on, and feeling of love can return... you can read a book "Making love last forever" and it will give you many answers...
Loving someone is active, it takes time to get to know someones character and enjoy time spent together...
The only way I'd say is OK to leave someone you're in a committed relationship with is if that other person is verbally, emotionally or physically abusive and/or is not willing to look into ways of improving, communicating, listening to your point of view and needs etc...
You can leave someone, but until you get emotional maturity/intelligence, you'll be going in the loop with the same issues over and over again...
You can learn how to fall in love with this person again, just start asking them questions you never asked before, and do something with that person that you've never done before (like camping, or theatre, or sports...)
2006-08-03 18:35:12 · answer #1 · answered by Art 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
but love in the level of mere affection may easily change in the course of time. So if you what you call "love" is gone then probably it's not true love. But you have consider many certain aspects. Are you committed... Do you have obligations (like in a marriage). Then it's not so simple as that. You may want to consult a marriage expert for a pi
2014-09-24 09:57:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes - or find out why you fell out of love and see if there is any way to get that spark back - it is not fair to the other person and in the long run, while they might be hurt now, the sooner the better or you will end up resenting them as well - the longer it goes on without love, the more they will hurt when it happens if they still love you and the more you will start to show it.
2006-08-03 18:33:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand the concept of falling out of love. I guess that's because I've been married for more than 25 years to a woman I've never been in love with. After all this time, I have no idea of even knowing how to begin the process of leaving this woman. For one thing, circumstances would make it very difficult for me to do so. Also, she is such a fine woman that I can't even begin to fathom hurting her like that. I've been living a lie for a long time and fear that I'll never be in a position to find real love. How sad, huh?
2006-08-03 18:46:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe... but if you have such experience, only you should answer that.
Love for real, never fades away... but love in the level of mere affection may easily change in the course of time. So if you what you call "love" is gone then probably it's not true love. But you have consider many certain aspects. Are you committed... Do you have obligations (like in a marriage). Then it's not so simple as that. You may want to consult a marriage expert for a piece of advise.
2006-08-03 19:56:18 · answer #5 · answered by AgentFox 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should never stay with some one who you are not in love with. Firstly it is not fair on either you or him and secondly, it can really get you down. This does not mean that you can't talk about staying friends, i know alot of ppl say it doesn't work, but you have to want to make it work, for it to work.
Have you actually spoken to him about hw you feel? Maybe talking about it will help sort it out and bring certain problems to the surface that maybe you didn't realise were there!
I really hope that you figure out what to do, so you can enjoy the rest of your life, which ever way you go!
Good luck :)
2006-08-03 18:38:45 · answer #6 · answered by lz_baxter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
did you fall out of love because the person is lame? changed to become something different that you don't do well with? Or did the spark leave because you thought it would last forever without you working on it? if the latter, then you leaving will just confirm laziness. it will happen again in another relationship. if you just grew apart and you can't fix it and you have nothing in common anymore or you figured out that you changed... Time to go and figure yourself out.
2006-08-03 18:35:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, yes. Everybody has a soulmate and if you have fallen out of love, why waste your time or life being miserable.
2006-08-03 18:34:36 · answer #8 · answered by Vicki S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on your situation. If you are married w/children I believe you should at least exaust all measures first to see if you can find that spark, that fire again. But if not then you are definately not being fair to each other. Otherwise why waste each others time. You should both be w/someone who truly loves you.
2006-08-03 19:10:28 · answer #9 · answered by mmkakkbb8 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are in that situation you know the answer. Deep down in your heart you know the answer, but maybe you just hope that one day you will wake up and.......POOF!!! Everything is the way it should be.
In a perfect world....yes. You should leave the person if you don't love them anymore, but sometimes it is not that easy.
2006-08-03 18:35:34 · answer #10 · answered by Mystery Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋