i am depressed can anyone help me to deel with this i feel like there is nothing here for me?

Question

i used to be more outgoing not a shy person someone that everyone liked and got along with. now ive noticed all of this is gone. i used to have a girlfriend that was the love of my life i would have died for her. losing her has made me more deppressed and constant thoughts of her come up in my head and depress me more and has ben happening everyday. now i feel week un confident sad and i dont eat nearly as much as i used to. now i feel like where im at everything arround me is worthless like there is nothing here for me. i noticed that this started to happen around the same time i started to smoke weed do you think this has anything to do with it

Answer 1

Ryan you must start living. Many things happen to us in life that we think is just the end of the world. You have to go out and mingle with positive people. Stop thinking negative thoughts. If anyone sits and dwell on negative things in their life, you will be depressed. People in general do not want to be around someone who is always down. So if you have lost a few friends because of depression....go out and make some new friends...postive ones!!! Life is what you make it. Life is not always kind. This is all you've got so make the most of it. As for girlfriends....let her go....if you need to cry....cry. There is a real soulution to getting over your ex....start dating again!!! Your ex will become a distant blurr....Now smoking weed will not help you if you are already depressed. Drugs are not the answer. Ryan get back into this thing we call life...Get involved...there are so many things you can do...maybe you should try focusing on someone less fortunate than yourself. Then you will be able to see how blessed you are. I truly hope this helps.
God bless you on your new beginnings/peace & blessings

Answer 2

So many blues songs come out of failed romances. We don't always fall in love with who is really on the other end of a relationship. Finding out that the other person is not who you dreamed they were is called disillusionment. Losing an illusion is a good thing in the long run but can be unbearably painful for a while. Instead of clinging to what you've lost, you need to find new sources of inspiration and joy. This will come with time, but you can speed it up by accepting the unacceptable. It's called closure. Hanging on to what's gone hurts more than accepting that it's gone.

So far as weed is concerned, it enhances whatever you experience. If you eat food, it tastes better. If you listen to music, you hear it more. If you have sex, you feel it more. If you become paranoid, you reach greater heights of paranoia. If you are depressed, you go more deeply into depression. Be conscious about what you are enhancing!

Sounds like you are into being depressed about being depressed. This is a sure way to short circuit your recovery. Remember what you used to enjoy doing alone and go do some of that. We all go through pits of depression from time to time. But there comes a time when we need to head back toward the light.

Good luck, my friend. Welcome to the full shot of being human.

Answer 3

Ryan other people don't have the power to make you happy. You are the only one that can change that. Yes the pot has chnaged your mood, it is mood altering and it is illegal. So you lost your gal, there are so many gal and going to be so many more. Life is great and you will see that it is great soon again. What makes you happy? Do those things, find something you enjoy or that you are good at and then you will slowly release your sadness and move on to a new Ryan. We are like lobster Ryan we shed every now and then and it is not fun, but you are shedding and underneath all your pain and suffering is a new Ryan and you should make the best out of everything. Son't live through other people, see through your own eyes, you are built with greatness, go out and do great things. Tomorrow when you pass someone in the hall or on the street and see that they are feeling the same way you are, smile at them like you really care and really want them to have a good day and Pay it Forward it will come back to you. Hang in there, I use to be where you are, there is always something that will get you down, but you can fight it. Life is like a rollercoaster and we have our ups and downs, ride your life to the fullest Ryan. I pulled out and I am doing great things, you can to. It helped me to help others, it also helped me to keep a journal. Get ou there and make a difference, I know you can. Good Luck ryan, find out who you are, cause I know you are a great guy with a *** heart, and that heart is meant to do something, find out what that is.

Answer 4

I dont know how old you are but I have been in the same situation myself,once an outgoing happy family man where now I am so introverted I spend days locked inside my house alone, I felt like giving up, I started to smoke weed to knock my self out. I lived with a woman for 11 years and found out that she was doing all my friends, & now I'v got only 5 friends left. One of my friends told me to go to the philipines and take your pick it, as the women are fantastic, and totally loyal. It was the best thing I ever done, taking into account I had also tried to commit suicide but I'm glad now it failed, I am 46. go to filipinofriendfinder.com and change you life forever.

Answer 5

The weed isn't gonna help anything, it will make you feel better temporarily, but not in the long run. If you're depressed I suggest seeing either a counselor to talk things out, or a psychiatrist who may be able to give you meds. If you're only depressed over the breakup, it will eventually pass. It may take awhile, but you'll feel better. If it's more than that, you should definitely see someone. I don't think the weed is making you more depressed, no....you should be more happy if anything.

Answer 6

been there and done it ryan and its a miserable time and i found out the hard way that there is no answer at the back end of that joint and there is no answer in the bottom of a beer bottle. all i did was stay busy doing something all the time, anything,work on a car, mow the grass, build a garage... and when its time to go to bed i read the bible for as long as i could keep my eyes open. and as for the suffering i took i am glad it came because now that its gone i am much stronger i live my life like i want to with that behind me i moved forward and i'll have to say its all good because i can handle the bad with ease now. stand fast, show yourself what you can take. when it gets bad dig even harder...

Answer 7

Smoking weed will make you feel like everything around you is worthless and that there's no point in doing anything, but you can overcome it. Stop smoking weed and get over your breakup, everything happens for a reason. There's something better out there for you, get over this obstacle and many more doors will open for you. Things like this will stop us dead in our tracks, it's keeping us from the better things in life. Put the past behind you, weed will only make things worse for you and see things negatively!

Answer 8

dude i posted this for another depression question

and weed does make you depressed or give you anxiety...im an experienced smoker and once you smoke up and starting thinking negative thoughts, you will dwell on them and it will consume you

dont smoke weed for two weeks, that'll clear up some of the ****

as for a GOOD BOOK (from pevious posting):

YOU NEED THIS BOOK!!!

Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy Revised and Updated by David D. Burns

ISBN: 0380810336

Depression is treatable without drugs, seriously get this book as PART of your solution...I stress PART

You need someone to talk to as well.

I have been depressed for the majority of my life and things are starting to get on the ups

You will feel better in time, you have to realize and accept that first. Get this book to start!!! It was recommended to me by my psychiatrist, and I thank him for it.

Answer 9

Been there, done that. best wishes; i've been tryin to get over a guy i dated on and off for 8 yrs; been 10 yrs NOW. and he did not break up with me; he just forgot WHO i was! -- amnesia or Multiple Personalities, I think! o h well; hope u can somehow forget her or that u and she get back together. perhaps u might need couseling at Mental Health. ( Find some of your favorite Songs and listen to them; it always helped me a little bit!); just a thought. i wish you the Best! There is sometimes help for Depression. Most persons can be helped with Anti-depressants - I'm one who cannot be helped MUCH - with them, tho.

Answer 10

Go and talk to Your Minister, rabbi or whatever. There must be a # to call for help(First call For Help)
Do You have a close friend in which to talk to?
Don't be so absorbed in Yourself. Get out and do things!
Don't eat alot of sugar/ chocolate. It tends to make You anxious.
I hope You overcome this. Life is Good. Don't let this get You down. Good Luck and Take Care of Yourself.