Why are guys so hard to read? Guys why are you hard to read?

Question

I like a guy alot, we are both in our late 20's. I have known him for about 8 yrs, we were good friends then didn't see each other for about 4 yrs (at which time he got married then divorced) and when we caught up again, that's when our relationship changed. We've hit it off, dates, and have worked together; we have history together, however we are on great terms as friends. He is very hard to read, I won’t see or hear from him for months (even six months or more) at a time. There have been times when we have talked for hours and hours. Other times, like recently, I have called him and he doesn’t sound interest in talking to me, times like these I have wound up in other relationships to find him disappointed. I have told him that I like him, he has expressed at times that he likes me, and would like a relationship, but when I have told him that we should go out sometime, he says sure I’ll call you, then he never does or he forgets about the date and calls last minute to say he can’t

Answer 1

If you want to read a guy stop looking between the lines. Guys are less about subtext and more about text. While we are reserved and somewhat guarded as a whole, we rarely enact Machiavellian displays of signal/countersignal when we are interested in someone. If you call and he seems uninterested, it is not necessarily about you. He simply happens to be talking to you at a time of high distraction or possibly depression. If he doesn’t call you for months, he was simply doing other things for that month. I am sure that nothing he did was directed at you. You seem to be reading motivations where forgetfulness or a busy schedule is more likely.
If a man says “I’m hot.” It simply means that the temperature is greater than his comfort level. Don’t read between the lines and think he means, ‘could you open a window,’ or ‘I would like to leave now,’ or ‘what is wrong with you? Why don’t you meet my needs anymore,’ or anything else. He is simply stating a climatic fact. To read a guy, listen to his words, not your head.

Answer 2

read the book "hes just not into you" now what I can gather by reading your post is he likes you, but not the way you live. something in your life he totally disagrees with but has not shared this thought with you.
I see that time is short, there is someone else in the picture, you have no time to waste, you must sit down with him eye to eye and tell him exactly what you feel or he is gone.
He has a very deep secret he thinks will freak you out but it will not. and you can live with it. dont be alarmed but he might be a crossdresser but he is still a man and having a terrible time with it.
at some point you hurt him, he feels he did something wrong and is being very careful not to make the same mistake even though he knows not what the mistake was. so therefore any of his actions could be a mistake in his mind.
This is your split apart, and you have very little time left to complete your universal fate.

Answer 3

Life is too short. Tell him to piss or get off the pot. Be straight and upfront with him. Put it on the line you have nothing to lose. And why spend the rest of your life asking yourself what could have been. Find out where he stands. Get together and talk. Find out where you stand in his life and how important you are. Once you do you will feel a lot better about this situation.

Answer 4

for guys no means no, you might want to check on those girls who play hard to get for that question. Guys are pretty simple, the more you tell them no, the more they want you (if they are interested). Sometimes women dont think. Clear signs are clear signs. Women try to complicate things or twist signs that arent anything but a clear. If they like you, they like you. Plain and simple. There are some confused guys out there, but signs or signs.

Answer 5

i'm very surprised that this question even came up. usually its the guy thats asking for help trying to read a girl. the main reason guys are hard to read is cause were just different than u, so we wont give the same signs.

Answer 6

Why are the guys hard?

All because love their hardness & they too love it as a sure sign of their manliness & masculinity! They're proud of it too.

If men don't get hard, which women / gals would want them?

So, try to understand them & treat them with love till they lose their hardness!

Answer 7

Guy's learn to suppress their feelings from the time their are little boy's some men eventually let their guards down and others don't or maybe you just haven't learned how to read him.

Answer 8

He's either on drugs....or "he's just not that into you"....
Who wants to be with someone that treats you like that anyway?
The red Flags are up all over the place, don't give him your time of day anymore.

Answer 9

We know the babes love the mystery!
Bow Chicka Bow Wow.
We like suprises to show us the you care.
Do something totally un expected that you know he will like.

Answer 10

Thats the funniest thing I have ever heard, Why are guys so hard to read. Ummm, we learned it from women !!!!!!