How to tell my boyfriend that he is a bad kisser?

Question

We kiss, and he sucks half my face off. I tried to teach him and he fixes it for a bit and goes back to sucking my face. He also doesn't know how to touch me, or anything. I don't want to be a b-itch about this, but it's very bad.

Answer 1

Don't tell him he's a bad kisser. He doesn't want to be a bad kisser. No one does. In fact, if you ask anyone at all, "Are you a good kisser?", they'll say yes.

What's happening is that when he really gets into it, he gets carried away. So, just be gentle and tell him how you like it.

Next time you two are together, check out this website together and learn about kissing together. (I know you know how.)

Good Luck

Answer 2

Don't tell him he's a bad kisser. That's the kiss of death for the self-esteem and he'll stop making any attempts. Maybe you should try kissing him how you want to be kissed and tell him you just want him to be still and not do anything. Tell him you think it's sexier with more lip and less tongue. He's not going to want to be NOT sexy (i.e. repulsive). You need to treat him like you're a teacher and he's a student. Encourage him when he does something right and if he does something horrible, say "let's do it this way instead"or "this feels better". Gently direct him. If he tries to touch you a way you hate, you could just say that it tickles or doesn't feel as good as if he touched you somewhere else(try not to say he doesn't know how to touch you b/c he'll become paranoid about doing something wrong). My hubby took 2 years of trial and error before he suddenly clicked and did everything right. You just need to train your boyfriend consistenly. Just because he starts to do it right doesn't mean you can stop with giving him directions, keep encouraging him. If he still doesn't kiss right or listen, tell him you want to be kissed, not given a tonsilectomy and choking on a tongue is definitely not sexy.

Answer 3

What the others said is right you just have to be very careful how you say it. Don't tell him how bad he kisses instead tell him how you like to be kissed or touched. When he does do it right make sure he knows it . Do a little moaning or something like that to make him feel like 'yea I know I make her feel good'. Just remember to be constructive and even ask him if you can do something better. That way he knows you're trying to better the relationship.

Answer 4

Sweety man are just like dogs, really we are. You have to show us the trick you want us to learn over and over until we get it right. Start with the kissing, tell him he'll get a treat everytime he does it right, and every time he doesn't (I don't know he'll have to wash & vacuum for car or make you dinner you pick) then after his master the kissing now it the touching turn, If he touchs you right you'll touch him right etc...

Answer 5

sounds like it's just the way he is and the way he kisses..... I've had many girlfriends, but I only like the way half of them kiss.... It goes with the way the are.

Best thing to do though, is injoy it when he kisses you right, but stop or even turn away when he starts kissing you bad.....he'll get the hint. (reword and punishment)

Answer 6

ew, that sucks. just tell him it really turns you off and makes you not want to kiss him at all. maybe he'll try to be more concious of how he's doing it then.

Answer 7

tell him straight up you feel uncomfortable with him kissing you like that. show him how you like it again. and tell him thats how you want it. show him how to touch you.

sometimes you have to tell men more than 3 times to have it go in their head

Answer 8

You don't, you just teach him to kiss better

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Answer 9

keep trying to teach him.....take his hand and place it on where you want to be touched...I am sure he will improve with time...if not dump him

Answer 10

when he starts, just tell him to stop, and you just kiss him for a sec, or pinch him every time he does it, lol