HELP.HELP.HELP me .!?

Question

Im 14 and ever since i found out i was adopted ive cried my head off everynight. i dont know what to do anymore. my gaurdians are horrid. i cant even explain it. ever since i found out i was adopted and found in a mall i feel usless and i started eating my feelings.hoping it would go away. im overwieght now and ppl callme chunky at my school. i feel like crap, and useless. like im not even suppose to be alive. i feel like a mistake.help me.

Answer 1

What do you feel bad about? Not even supposed to be alive? Don't you know that someone went through great pain (physical and emotional) to give you your life? Then, to give the chance at a better life, they allowed someone else to take you, love you, and raise you? And now you have a family that brought you in and made you their own. And this is bad...why?

Family is who loves you and raises you, my friend. And as for your genes, just know that a woman out there had enough character and strength to give you a life. You are supposed to be alive. Don't disgrace what others have done for you by saying that you're not.

And the mistake thing is just as ridiculous. You've been given a gift and you are trying make it curse. Don't waste your time with that nonsense.

Instead, you should take some time and consider all that you have and the amazing people who made it happen. Your parents are still your parents, their not ""horrid gaurdians."

And there is no reason to "eat your feelings." Talk to someone if you feel the need to do that, but stop sitting around feeling sorry for yourself.

Answer 2

You are not a mistake. The mere fact that you are here means that you were meant to be here.

You should learn to judge all information that you hear by it's source. Think of the type of person that would say hurtful, damaging things to an emotionally defenseless 14 yr old girl. Is that the type of person that you think you want to listen to? Sounds like exactly the kind of person that you should ignore.

You're looking outside yourself for what can only be found inside, no wonder you can't find it. Food is not the answer, your guardians approval or disapproval is not the answer, the other kids at school are not the answer.

Look inside yourself and find the person you were before you had any idea you were adopted. Are they really any different then you? The only difference is one piece of information. Information cannot change who you are. Take that info and say "yes, this is also some small part of who I am, but it is not all that I am, nor will it define who I am".

"You are a child of the universe,
no less than the trees and the stars;
you have a right to be here."
-Deciderata

Answer 3

You are here for a reason. Someone, somewhere needs you. Don't ever think that you are worthless, a mistake. Focus on what is good about you. There are a lot of people in this world who have started in worse circumstances than your own and have gone on to make a difference in the lives of many. It's not where you start or how you start in life but rather the direction in which you are headed. Why don't you set happiness as your major direction and learn how to be happy as well as how to make others happy. Check out Worry Busters at http://www.wayneburke.com for additional resources on how to feel better about yourself. Good Luck.

Answer 4

Being human can REALLY suck sometimes. I know it does for me right now. I don't have friends that visit me and the most that I get is a phone call from my cousin who is always working. This has got to be my worst summer ever but once I go back to school things should start to look up. I guess I'm trying to say that you shouldn't give up. Try exercising to get rid of the extra pounds and once you're sixteen you can move out of the house and on your own if that's what you must do. Good luck, buddy. If you want to email me go ahead.

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Answer 5

It's must be hard, but you now know the truth. This is going to bother you for a long time. When it does remember that your gaurdians are your parents no matter what. I have no doubt they love you just as much as any mother or father would, and ignore the kids at school. They do not know what you are going threw. They do not have the right to judge you.
May God be with you.

Answer 6

Child, I wish I could hold you and comfort you. You were born! You matter! as much as any jackass that was born to a great family and acted stupid! You precious child you belong here as all of us do because you were born! How you must be hurting, I can not imagine, but you ARE! You are here and this life sucks for many of us! I have had a really "tragic" life, but it is still LIFE! We do not know what happens next but what we have is this. Do you like the sunrise or sunset? Do you like to eat chocolate or whatever. You are Alive and you can feel pain and you can also enjoy sights and sounds and smells and most of all touch. I have so much more to say to you, please contact me! You can get through this!

Answer 7

darlin ur not a mistake .
and its ok to feel what u r feeling and you ahve every right to feel whatever it is u need to . if the wieght is an issue then u do for u what u need to be it diet or seek a nutritionist . but believe me ur meant to be here, or else u wouldnt be here. as for adotpion there are ways to go about finding outur birth parents but u know ur gaurdians got u for a reason . if they are "horrid" u cna always call social services or a childs help line.
i wish u the best!

Answer 8

You need to talk to someone you trust and that can help you. Maybe a school counselor or someone at church or an older relative. You are not a mistake or useless. Reach out and let people help you, they are out there, just ask and don't give up. Things will get better when you find someone to help you through this difficult time. God bless and watch over you.

Answer 9

I was adopted.And often ive felt that way.More so when i had my first kid and couldnt understand for yrs why they would do that to me.But then i realized that it was better.My gaurdians used to beat me and make me buy them drugs, and even tried to talk me into having a baby for them at 17 yrs old.Call a church, or social services.call cps on yourself, they dont have to know it was you who called.there are ways to try to get out of there.I left when i was 18 and have never talked to them again.you are special, and its a shame your parents/gaurdians cant/couldnt see that.I am grateful though, for what ive gone through because it has made me so strong, and in time you will also see that.you are NOT a mistake.You are here for a reason and you will do great things.

Answer 10

Hi,
You really need help! This help comes from God. let me assure you one thing and that is this God knows you he cares for you he holds your future, father , mother, guardian none of them can tell god what to do with you or for you. You are overweight. you have rightly identified why you are over weight. then STOP eating your way off It is not Good and it does not help it makes matters worse. you are a normal person you need to come off the feeling that you are useless and that you feel like dying..A man wanted to hang himself because things are very hard for him such that he cannot buy gas and put in his tractor to cultivate the farm so he took his rope and went to the forest to hang himself on a tree when he got to the tree, he climbed up the tree attached the rope and when he looked out he saw a man using his spade(shovel) to dig the ground and he was whistling a song too. so he came down and asked him don't you feel you are worse than anyone else? so the man replied It could be worse since there is life there is hope so the man aborted his idea of hanging himself and returned home> It is a soul food for you! after you read this reply, Do just this: Kneel down in your room and pray to God of heaven say to him FATHER IN HEAVEN, YOU MADE ME, I AM YOURS, CHANGE MY DESTINY INTO A GLORIOUS HERITAGE. GIVE ME STRENGHT TO GO ON AND EDURANCE TO HOLD ON RESTORE YOUR PEACE WITHIN ME AND TAKE ALL GLORY IN JESUS' NAME -AMEN