Ok, he had my friend talk to me and go back and tell him things i would say about him and stuff. well i told her one day that my ex got in touch with me .... we just talked thats it..... so as soon as she told him i talked to my ex he cheated on me with her.... all together at least three times he admitted to. he didnt admitt to it for months and months finally yesterday he came clean. after months of emotional abuse and them just teaming up on me i was still with him .... and now he admits it.... i mean they were together while i was at work almost every other day. he said he is never ever gonna do it again and i believe him but i cant stop thinking about him and her together. what do you think i should do?
2006-08-03 17:11:01 · 44 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
get with someone else with your "going out w/ him" and make out or somethin. then when he talks to you, tell him either he has to prove to you that he really wants you more than anyone else or your moving on.
2006-08-03 17:17:13 · answer #1 · answered by pearlandcc 2 · 4⤊ 4⤋
I mean nor harm when I say this but, girl get a life & move on! There is not that much love in this world! Don't allow yourself to become one of many. If he sexed your friend while you were at work, he may be doing someone else as well. If you want to be a glutton for punishment then by all means stay there. But if you care anything about yourself, do the next best thing: leave! And then emotional abuse on top of it all? Don't be desperate, be smart! Leave his sorry insecure behind. You can always do better because there are just too many out there to try and hang on to one that's not doing you any good anyway. Your self esteem will hit rock bottom (if it hasn't already) & you can't go down any further than that so, pick your butt up, dust it off & step off. Be strong (even if you're not. You will be when you leave) and get someone that will treat you as you deserve.
2006-08-03 17:23:46 · answer #2 · answered by ms_purple_pooh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Generally once a cheater always a cheater. Ofcourse nothing is absolute. If I were you I'd have left him. I hope you do leave him. I'm assuming that since you havn't left him though you won't. You just want to think on it for a while. But when you come back here to ask the same question again in a few months only about a different girl, my answer will still be the same. Leave him.
2006-08-03 17:14:05 · answer #3 · answered by Olivia B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you lack self respect
you believe you cannot get another guy
so you belive what you want to belive but you inner self is telling you the right thing.. he is not for you...
but as a fool that you are you will not do the right thing and leave him
you simply will not accept what has happened and learn from it
if you had listened to Tom Leykas you would have found out that a man NEVEr has GF and nor a women has BF.. as the SEX always gets in the way...
that being said he will repeat the offense whne he feels you feel everything is ok...
that's when he'll do it
you have been warned
if he cheats ( as he will ) on you because you were stupid enough to take him back... you only have yourself to blame for any outcome..
2006-08-03 17:17:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you need to get out NOW!! Dont build on a relationship that has deceived you like that. It will happen again, I promise you. Maybe not the same way but it will happen. You lower your standards and esteem by staying in this relationship. It is hard to move on, but no one said life and love was easy, you will be a better person for moving on. Your friend needs to be slapped too. But shell get hers, and if you leave him he will learn that cheating on a girl is not acceptable and maybe he will think twice before cheating on a great girl, knowing he will lose her if he does. What ever you do, be strong and firm in your decision. If you stay you will always remember this and it will haunt you and his relationship.
2006-08-03 17:18:36 · answer #5 · answered by C T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drop them both!!
Or, wait around for it to happen again.. The choice is yours...
I hardly think they "waited" for you to mess up... Even though if you just talked, then that's not really "messing up",, They probably were doing it long before you talked to your ex.. Of course they would deny it.. Who wouldn't? If it really happened after you talked to your ex, that's a pitiful excuse, (2 wrongs don't make a right) and it was just convenient how they just did it like that... Yup... I'd say drop them both..
By the way, why wouldn't you question your relationship with your friend the way you question the relationship with your boyfriend?? Just wondering, because they are both wrong....
2006-08-03 17:15:08 · answer #6 · answered by B. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He says that to keep you, but that doesn't mean he won't stray. He obviously didn't feel guilty enough to stop and cheated repeatedly - supposedly because you had just talked with your ex... And if you were in a serious relationship you would be able to share information with him without it being relayed through a friend. If you are keeping secrets and he is cheating this relationship won't work.
Move on!
2006-08-03 17:25:13 · answer #7 · answered by TMH 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow... well first I will say HELL NO! Your friend is an a** for treating you like that, going behind your back and hooking up with YOUR boyfriend. She never considered your feelings, and OBVIIOUSLY doesn't care about your guy's friendship. As for your boyfriend he didn't care if he ruined your friendship with her, and he didn't care about you either. ALMOST EVERYDAY! Dump him, even though you like him. Do you really want to continue on thinking about how he cheated on you with your friend everyday, I would be thinking everyday while I'am at work "I wonder what's he doing", guys will be guys and they won't ever stop cheating. Once a cheater, always a cheater.
2006-08-03 17:22:34 · answer #8 · answered by Summerbaby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your so call friend would like to have him for herself.SO WHAT if your ex got in touch with you what's wroung with that! he called you right? if he did this for months he will do it again and again because he know's he can have the both of you. DROP him and her, you can always find someone who will be true to you. boys come and go, dont let him use up your good years this is the time you should be happy not sad. go out and buy this book ( the best kind of loving by dr. Gwendolyn, Goldsby Grant.) and dont belive him or trust him again it said in god we trust not in man. and love yourself you are # 1.
2006-08-03 17:51:19 · answer #9 · answered by Kas-O 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you like being second????? well i don't... and that is far beyond what i would accept from someone i cared about. If you had a serious commitment to one another then i would end the relationship because she has violated your trust..... And you woll not trust her again.... And it is only going to put more strain on your relationship... My advice is , let her go and start looking for someone who wants a faithful relationship.... And as far as your friend, he isn't a friend. And he would do it again.... be serious and you will find a serious relationship.... Be childish and you will have a childish relationship...You are holding the cards at this point...Play them right my friend......
2006-08-03 17:19:27 · answer #10 · answered by wva_butterfly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm seems to be a consensus-- Dump him... and her.
You said that he's abusive.. that's reason enough alone to dump him....
You said that he cheated on you... that would be enough by itself for me to be ditching him...
She stole (or at least tried to steal) your man... I'd ditch her.
She was a sIut with your man... again, not the kind of friend anyone needs.
They're both sluts- yeah, I'm applying that word to a guy... same diff- neither is worth your time. Find another friend, find another man.
2006-08-03 17:22:59 · answer #11 · answered by Yoda's Duck 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋