How can I praise her without making this happen?
2006-08-03 16:56:00 · 10 answers · asked by midlandsharon 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Being good can be an attention-seeking activity and then being naughty is a kind of celebration of the activity having had the desired effect!
2006-08-03 17:45:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
She may just get embarrassed when you do this, and by being naughty she is taking the attention off of the complement. If she doesn't get complements all the time, this may be uncomfortable for her. Most kids need to be taught how to accept a complement. She is four, so I would ask her how she feels when someone says something nice about her. You might be surprised at what she says. I've seen lots of kids do this....it's just how they deal with the embarrassment.
2006-08-04 00:01:49 · answer #2 · answered by Lilah 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some kids just feel uncomfortable and self-conscientious when they receive approval. The misbehaving afterward is to get the praiser to stop praising. My oldest son was that way.
Try toning it down. Comment on good behavior but do it in a matter-of-fact. low-key kind of way. Just state in a normal voice "that was a good thing you did" or "thank you" but don't make a big deal about it.
2006-08-04 00:02:58 · answer #3 · answered by frugernity 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's probably because the compliment makes her uncomfortable. Try making the compliment just a normal part of talking to her....like....I sure had a lot of laundry to do today and with all your help folding the washclothes now I'm finished. Just a suggestion.
2006-08-04 01:00:49 · answer #4 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter is the same way. Positive reinforcement just doesn't work with her. I always just pay loads of attention to her when she is doing well, but I never mention what it is she is doing well. When she is being a snot I let her know that it isn't acceptable. Then move on.
Good luck!
2006-08-04 00:01:14 · answer #5 · answered by Luvmt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
geez she sounds more like she's in the 14 - 21 range....they just can't stand pleasing you as it makes it look like if they behave you are controlling them.....keep praising her just don't over do it and be honest with her about being naughty too.
2006-08-04 00:00:25 · answer #6 · answered by hell_in_a_handbasket 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably is picking up on something unspoken. Or she things you are mocking her, because she knows that adults don't praise each other for kid stuff.
Treat her like an adult.
2006-08-04 00:00:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when she is bad say something like - you were being so good why did you do that?
if you ask her why she did it - it will make her think about what she did -= and why she did it - at 4 years old - her answers might shock you and give you some insight!
2006-08-03 23:59:33 · answer #8 · answered by Shopaholic Chick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's in a phase - sounds like she is showing off
2006-08-04 00:00:12 · answer #9 · answered by elliecute2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think she doesn't like attention drawn to her , and try saying it differently like mommy likes it when ur a good girl or something
2006-08-04 00:08:42 · answer #10 · answered by jojo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋