My husband and I are getting ready to write thank you cards for our wedding presents. One of the gifts we recieved was a check from a relative. We deposited it into our account a month and a half after our wedding, due to certain circumstances. We recieved notice a week later from the bank stating that the check had bounced. I know that the relative is not wealthy, but had also wanted to give us a nice gift. We did not contact them to let them know it bounced, as we had presumed their bank would notify them. However, we have yet to hear back or recieve anything from them (it's been two months since). What would you suggest to do? and how would you write a thank you note for this one??
2006-08-03 16:49:22 · 16 answers · asked by victorygirl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
ke su: "However, we have yet to hear back or recieve anything from them..." just means that they did not send us any other gift to replace it, to thank them for. I was not saying that we are expecting anything from them.
2006-08-03 17:09:08 · update #1
the thanks for caring is a nice idea. they're probably horribly embarrassed by the situation. i know i would've been.
2006-08-03 16:56:53 · answer #1 · answered by white g 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
What a predicament! Now we had one realtive send us money a month after the wedding and another one sent money two months after the wedding, but no bounced checks, thank goodness. Since you said this relative is not wealthy and this is a very touchy subject, I would just thank them for the gift and not even mention that it bounced. If you do, the relative is going to feel obligated to send you another gift, which they might not be able to afford, and they're going to be embarrassed about the whole thing. If you know this realtive really well and know that they would be okay with the news, then you should give them a call and talk to them about it. Otherwise, just write them a thank you just like everyone elses. Good luck!
2006-08-04 03:27:46 · answer #2 · answered by SweetPea 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would write a thank you note as if the bounce never happened. Thank them for their generous gift and let them know it will be put to good use.
They must be mortified! Of course you didn't hear from them, nor was the gift replaced because I'm sure they are terribly embarrassed by the whole thing.
You said they were not wealthy, so ignore it. It is the gesture that means the most, not the material gain. Weddings are a celebration of love, not a gift giving contest.
Exhibit your class and compassion by not making an issue of this at all.
2006-08-03 22:30:14 · answer #3 · answered by coco 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't write your thank you note immediately after receiving the gift?! Did you let the check sit around, too, and let deposit it right away? That's probably what led to it bouncing, at least in part.
It's really inexcusable that you deposited the check before writing the thank you note, which should have been written and mailed within two weeks of receiving the gift, at the most.
Thank the giver for their generous gift and do not mention it bouncing. Act like nothing is wrong. You will just be embarrassing your relative, when it is YOU who should be embarrassed.
2006-08-04 10:42:53 · answer #4 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Wow! Now that is a good question! Presuming you did not have any problems with your own checks bouncing because you did not have the funds you thought you had in your account, I think I would just ignore the whole thing, and NOT write a thank you note at all.
2006-08-03 16:55:06 · answer #5 · answered by Jon 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WOW, how awkward. I'm sure if they know about it, they are terribly embarrassed. This happened to me with my hairdresser. My bank switched hands and for some reason the check bounced. I was notified, I called and apologized, and sent her the money in cash this time. Well, come to find out she cashed the check again too!! Anyways, I would call them and let them know what happened. If they choose to give you another check, than so be it, if not write them a thank you saying it was nice for them to attend--end of story. Good luck to you and your husband!
2006-08-03 17:26:08 · answer #6 · answered by Melissa R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thank them for attending your wedding if they did.
Yes a bank notifies if a check bounces and they are probably sooooo emberassed.
Dont say anything and be grateful for what you have.
I think its sad for them that the check bounced.and Its RUDE of you to even think that " you have yet to recieve a gift"
How about this. why dont you send them a check for the same amount they wanted to give you, on their next anniversary.
2006-08-03 17:03:13 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would just thank them for celebrating with you, thank them for such a beautiful card. I wouldn't mention the check at all. At least not in the thank you card at any rate. If you weren't charged a return check fee, I would just let the matter go. It would be just as embarassing for you as it would be for them. The gift was given with good intention. I would however, remember not to cash any checks from them in the future.
2006-08-04 01:57:20 · answer #8 · answered by Mary J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guessing you got lots of gifts - give these people a break - and just send a thank you card for their attendence at your wedding. They might have had an emergency situation, or really needed the money for something else.
2006-08-03 16:55:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would write them a thank you note for being part of one of the most memorable day in your life. Let me remind you that guests are not require to give a gift. It is optional.
2006-08-04 13:08:49 · answer #10 · answered by Yen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I like the thanks for caring to come to our wedding one too. I know I would've DIED if a check I had given as a gift bounced. I think I'd live and let live.
2006-08-03 17:07:13 · answer #11 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋