I need help!!!?

Question

What do you do when you have a mom that you abseloutly ?I can not stand her and nither can she I recently moved back in with her. I was living with my aunt cause of problems I was having with my mom . Now every time we get into it I 'm always being threatened to be kicked out.All she cares about is her boyfriend and her two boys. I'm sick of talking to her and being around her! I can not even go out to get away from her!What can I do this is emotinonally tearing me apart!what can I do to make my relationship better with her if she dosn't even try to be close or open to me?

Answer 1

Ask her if she'll go to counseling with you. Maybe first, you should sit down with her and explain to her how you feel. Tell her it's tearing you a part and that you feel like she pays more attention to her boyfriend and two boys... Tell her that you just want to be closer to her and that you are also willing to change some things in order to get along with her. Both of you will have to do some compromising. If that doesn't work, then I would talk to her about getting counseling... Good luck!

Answer 2

You should write poetry to realize your emotions. Even if it doesn't make sense just starting writing. Or you can sing or listen to music. Unfortunatly some relationships likes these won't get better until you are married, and kids and sometimes these relationships never work themselves out...One thing you should know is the problem is not you. It's your mother. In her past she may have not got the opportunities you had and that maybe part of her resentment. However, I am pretty sure she does love you...its just that her emotional baggage is getting in the way.

Answer 3

I have been where you are. Believe me there is help out there. Talk to a school counselor or teacher. If that's not possible, then call a reletive that you are close to and see if maybe you can't stay with them for a few weeks untill you can patch things up with your mother. The most important thing is that you try to get along with her even if she is acting phyco. If you need more help, go to this web site www.help4teensnow.tripod.com My friend Morgon Cross runs it. Click on contact me and send her oranization an e-mail.

Best wishes,
Nikki

Answer 4

You can be the bigger person. Yeah, sounds stupid.
Try this, no matter what she says or does, don't act mad.
Be sweet and act appreciative. My mother used to say kill em with kindness and I had no freakin clue what she was talking about. Then I tried it on her when I figured it out and it worked.
I wore her mean ole butt down with just being the one that could never be blamed again, by being nice. She and I grew very close after that. Now, she's gone. Wish I had of caught on sooner.
Yall are probably just so much alike it freaks you both out and you don't even realize it. Be nice, generous and gracious. Be happy then.

Answer 5

Hey, just because she's your mom doesn't mean you have to like her. You obviously can't stand each other at the moment but maybe you will one day when you are older. The best thing for you to do is to move out as soon as you can. Give her plenty of space and plenty of time and see each other when and if you want to.

Answer 6

well sweety, i do know how you fel. My niece is going through the same thing. but my sis does drugs along with her boyfriends. she always sends her back to grandma when she needs to party, or don't want to stay home and take care of her kids like she needs to...which are, do as i say...and if you want ...do as i do. My niece went and took her to court to let her live with my Mom(her grandmother) and won. If you can find someone like your aunt to take you in ...do it... but be sure you are willing to live by her rules. I do feel sorry for you , and i know what you are going through. We have tried to talk to my sister but to no avail, her boyfriends...how ever many ...seems to be more important.
One question...when you say "go out to get away from her"...do you mean at night? Are you old enough to be hanging out. Are there things you have done to have it this way? If you are underage ...no matter what you will need to listen to her, unless you get the courts involved.Just stay out of her way...don't ask for nothing..if you can...and do your homework into finding a new place. I know your gonna hear "talk to her" and by all means do try ....but i have seen it all before...take care babygirl....be good...you'll soon be old enough to do want you want.

Answer 7

I understand.
I've got 2 options for you:
1. Grow an extra thick layer of skin and what ever she dishes out don't let it get to you. (Although, I've tried it and it didn't work, not even a little bit.)

2. Move away. I mean if you had a tumor, you'd cut it off right?
Places you can go:
-Military
-Peace corp
-Any job that offers a place to stay

Answer 8

first try to control your temp>second try to talk with her in a cool way>third try to get along with her two boys and see what happens maybe she will warm up to you too>if all thing"s fail phone a place that you can talk to,maybe a friend or someone that's open to your problem>there a lot of help out there if you look for IT

Answer 9

I guess the best advice is to avoid arguing and disagreeing no matter what the cost. The alternative causes chaos and nothing settles. And pray about it too.I hope things get better for you soon.

Answer 10

i fully understand where you are coming from. i go through the same thing with my grandma. you should remain positive and just get involved in different activities to stay to urself. you should also try talking to her and if she refuses to listen then write a letter. that should work out fine.