first time haveing sex. should u be with someone more prepared? i need pros and cons. thanks a bunch!
2006-08-03 16:32:04 · 39 answers · asked by HoTt♥ChIcK 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
is it okay to have it with someone whos a virgin?
2006-08-03 16:32:32 · update #1
For prepared -- you mean experience? No, not necessarily.
In my case, my first time was with my husband -- and it was amazing.
For others, especially those merely dating, it wasn't as great because insecurity, doubt, and awkwardness gets in the way and ruins one of the best things about being human -- having sex!
If you won't wait for your husband, at least be with someone whom you can picture being with for the rest of your life. If somehow the protection fails and you become pregnant -- that may become a reality!
And technically -- yes... your first time with another virgin won't be that great. Then again, who is to judge? Both of you may be exceptionally and naturally talented! XD
2006-08-03 16:34:20 · answer #1 · answered by Hatake Seraph 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's ever "bad," then you shouldn't have it at all. Sex isn't something that you should prepare for. I mean any two (or three or four or five...) people can have sex. If you want to understand why sex is a great thing for some people, you have to understand what it means to genuinely care for someone and truly want to be with them in a sexual way. If you have to gauge their experience, they shouldn't be with you.
It's really not just a social activity. With all the disease and unwanted pregnacies out there, you'd think that people would start to understand that. Don't go out to just try to have sex so that you can get it over with. You're probably very young and have no idea why you want to do it to begin with. Let the pressures of your friends go. Wait until it's something that you understand and want. It will be a million times better for you that way, and you won't have to worry about first timers. That just won't matter when you're ready...
2006-08-03 16:39:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think you are ready for sex, wait at least 2 years. This is the best advice you wil ever receive. Trust me. I know from experience.
But two years from now, definatly go for a non-virgin. It will be super hot for them to knwo that it's your "first time". Just remember, fourplay is essential for your first time. The reason some girls bleed or is painful for them is not because they are virgins, it is because they are not lubricated enough. Make sure you are plenty wet.
2006-08-03 16:38:07 · answer #3 · answered by nzwlmmz16 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sure is ok. That was you know that they have no STD's and that they are less likely to be judgemental over you, because they have nothing to compare to. But being with someone who has experience can be a blessing as well, cause they probably will know how to pleasure you well, and they could help you learn about pleasuring the opposite sex, or whatever you're into.
2006-08-03 16:41:10 · answer #4 · answered by angel_girl2248 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The worst part of being with another virgin, is the fact that neither of you really know what to do, or how to direct the other in the best technique for you.
The best part of being with another virgin, is nobody can tell you, you're doing it wrong. Plus you can learn together and create something which works for you.
2006-08-03 16:37:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't you think it would be a bit awkward with two people who don't know what they are doing? I think your first time would be better with someone who knows what they are doing. Just make sure that you are ready, take it slow and use PROTECTION. You can get pregnant the first time and you don't want to sleep with everyone he slept with. Better safe then sorry. Remember no condom, No sex. Good luck and be safe...
2006-08-03 16:40:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait til your husband
your first time will have special feelings for that one
what if the guy you eventually marry is not as good as stud?
jus take your time and use your imagination, there is more to the sex act than in, out, goodnight.
2006-08-03 16:37:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is not rocket science. the peepee goes into the poopoo. dont think that you have to be with someone with more experience the first time. some people who have had many sexual partners are still not good in bed. just have fun with the person you care about and dont sleep around with these young stud losers that will only use you
2006-08-03 16:37:19 · answer #8 · answered by m j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that depends on weather, the two people R in the heat of the moment" influienced by Hormones. Or it has been there under the skin < waiting to be shown. and the age is appropreate thats important L O L
2006-08-03 16:42:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
pros: he's learning too, so if you don't know what you're doing, chances are he doesn't either. learning together is fun!
cons: it might not be the greatest. it might be bad. if you have sex with someone experienced first, they could teach you what they know, and you'll gain more experience easily.
i think the pros outweigh the cons. learning together is what makes it fun and special!
2006-08-03 16:37:31 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋