iv been with my bo\yfriend almosy 3 years, im ready for the next level, we have spoke about marriage b4, then all of a sudden he changed his mnd and wants to ait why can that be???
2006-08-03 16:21:59 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Someone's readiness to get married is NOT the right measurement of his love for you. If he's not ready, he's not ready, even if he loves you. We're not living in a fairy tale, in the real world there are lots of aspects to consider before you marry someone. Some people are quick to be ready for marriage, some aren't. It'd be selfish if you push him just because you're ready, not to mention it can drive him away. If you want an explanation 'why', it'd be best to ask him rather than us, as we know nothing about your relationship. Good luck.
2006-08-03 16:37:11 · answer #1 · answered by crystal iceberg 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
First, do you have in ideas what you think of is the "next point" of your relationship? do you like an engagement ring? to circulate in at the same time? A promise ring? to fulfill his kinfolk and do holidays at the same time? 2d, have you ever 2 talked some destiny at the same time in any respect? have you ever observed marriage or toddlers? those are frequently sturdy issues to talk approximately in a relationship, whether you do no longer think of they're going to take place for years. i'd propose going to him and telling him for sure which you're waiting to take your relationship to the subsequent point and be arranged to describe to him what you mean with the aid of that. See what his emotions are. sturdy success!
2016-09-28 21:29:51 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he doesn't think that you're "the one" for him. Men are more hesitant to settle down if they're not sure if you're right for them. It's much easier for them to stay together with you than to be honest and hurt you. It's up to you to decide whether you're willing to go along with this. Just keep in mind that he may be ready to be honest and up front after 5 years together. I don't believe in ultimatums, however, I'd rather know now than after 5 years invested with a man.
2006-08-03 17:23:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well taking it to another level can mean a lot of different thang but don't force da issue when he's ready to pop the question he will don't pressure him or he won't do da shitttt at all if it's meant to be it will happen jus be patient
2006-08-03 16:45:44 · answer #4 · answered by powderjusblazin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
simple. he is not ready. Don't push him to hard on getting married..because if you do, you'll just push him away. Give him some time to think. Maybe he thinks he's too young to get married or he has a career to pursue. Give him space about this idea but make sure you get your point across - that you do EVENTUALLY want to get married.
2006-08-03 16:28:46 · answer #5 · answered by kray_z_blu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should lay it on the line. You are worth it. If he feels he can just keep you hanging on he may not take you seriously. This doesn't mean he's an angel, but don't you think things can be worked out? Communicate!:-)
2006-08-03 16:28:19 · answer #6 · answered by Huguenot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Because guys are really confusing and a mess to try to understand.
2. He has cold feet
2006-08-03 16:26:31 · answer #7 · answered by Odge308 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my bo and i have been together for only 1 year and he loves me soo much, and i love him we have been talking about marriage for a while now, i don't know what happened to your bo, but if he really loves and understands your need to get married then he should be open minded
2006-08-03 16:26:14 · answer #8 · answered by babygurl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? 12? 13?
It depends on your age.
Usually in a mature relationship two people should discuss expectations about the future.
Your relationship probably means more to you than it does to him.
2006-08-03 16:33:57 · answer #9 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ashley, either you cant type or can't spell. How old are you?
I hate to say it, but i think your boyfriend, is thinking that you just aren't ready for marriage.
But better than asking us, ask him, he 's the one that knows better than all our guessing.
2006-08-03 16:26:15 · answer #10 · answered by johnb693 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋