Terrible two's?

Question

My daughter is 28 months and she doesn't listen to me for anything. I tell her to put something back and she looks at me with this coy grin, then takes off running, and when I tell her again to put it back she says "I don't have to put it back, mom" SHe listens to her dad, but not to me. And that is just one instance, there are other examples. I have tried timeouts, the whole count to three method, she used to be a really well mannered kid, is it just terrible two's or is there something I can do to overcome this aside from just waiting for her to get older?

Answer 1

Hunny, Never forget that you're the one in control of her life and her daddy. Decide on the values that are most important to you to teach her and live by them ALWAYS. Kids will push parents as much as they can, little by little. You need to be strong and consistent with her, also talk to your hubby about the problem and ask him to help you. You both need to be in the same page. When your daughter tells you NO! When you ask her to do something or anything, punish her in time out 1 minute per each year or at little bit longer. if she fights the time out, be persistent and put her back what she belongs, also take away her favorite toy; it will take you maybe days or weeks, but if you do this, she will know that you are serious and she realize that is not worth it fighting. She will cry and tell you maybe things to get your soft-inside feel guilty, so you can feel sorry for her and gave up. If you gave up, she will win. Never compromise those values or give them up for any person or situation, even when it seems as though that the only way to get what you want, (Not to be bother, or because you don't wanna hear her cry or scream) You may win in to the short term by doing this, but never in the long run. As human you have potential and ability. Use them wisely, and as best as you are able and everything you desire for her to be, if you are true to those highest ideals in everything you do and say and by how you response on her behavior, then success is guaranteed and that aspect of your life.

Good Luck!!!

Answer 2

You are the mother, she's the child. She needs to know you mean business when you ask her to do something. MAKE HER do it. Giving in is wrong, a 2 year old knows exactly what she/he is doing. A coy grin might be cute but if she gets away with things now, what will she be like as a teenager? What will it be when you're visiting people? Can they hardly wait for you to leave with a spoiled child? You are her boss, she needs structure and has to know how far she can go, don't be a wishy washy mother who won't follow through. No child of mine ran my house!
And all of them turned out just fine.

Answer 3

If it's just terrible two's,than it should be for everybody.For you and for the dad.She listens to her dad,that means dad has a different approach to her and it works.Talk to her dad.And also be a little firm with her.If you wait until she grows up,her attitude will grow with her.It will be really hard to change anything then sister.I have a two year old trying get smart with me.The second i start counting 1 2 by 3 she is moving.

Answer 4

this is all typical two year old behavior, just stay consistent with your time outs and take her favorite toy of the moment away and put it up high , when she behave the way you want return the toy (not immed., but after awhile. Just a heads up, 2 is the warm up, 3 is when they really act up. Terrible twos is a myth its the terrible threes that are hard. 3's are teenager practice
Hang in there, they grow out of it

Answer 5

it's the terrible 2's, im going through it with my daughter, she'll be 3 in september! I feel like a broke recorded half of the time, cuz im constantly telling her to get out of stuff, leave stuff alone, dont touch this/that! Recently in the past few months she has started talking more in sentences and sometimes she just wont shush for 5 minutes, when she wants something she wont give up til she gets what she wants! it's like she mutes my voice out or something! when she wants a popcicle, she freaks out on me if i wont give in and give her one! when it's naptime I fight with her for 4 hours most of the time to get her to take a nap! all i hear all day from her, from the time i get home from work til the time i put her to bed, is "mommy look, mommy this, mommy that" or i want want, want, want, want, want, want! So im always telling she to be quiet for 5 minutes or play with her toys, or sit on the couch and watch some tv or something! i do pay attention to her and play with her when she wants me too, but when i just want 10 minutes to myself, she never shushes up and it gets irritating sometimes! so i can't wait til the terrible 2's are over with, although ive hard the terrible 2's turn into the terrible 3's! god i hope she starts going to head start this yr, cuz i really need some time to myself b4 i go crazy!

Answer 6

Terrible two's- they test to see how far they can push you,

Horrendous Threes-- They KNOW how far they can push you, and push just over the limit.

Now you have something to look forward to. Good luck

Answer 7

Do not give her everything she demands, immediately. If you are given to satisfying all her needs at once, she may not then accept any commands from you at all. it's kind of like taking you for granted and not having to feel the need to respect you.

Answer 8

Just wait it on. At the same time try to let her know she cant always get her way and let her know what "NO" is.

Answer 9

i know its not pc but a slap to the hand will remind her you are the boss and she can not do whatever she wants.