Height is affecting my confidence, anyone help, tips, etc. please!?

Question

This is my situation, I'm short 5'5", 21 so pretty much done growing too. Atleast once everyday someone will be kind enough to remind me that I'm short. Example today I was talking to some co-workers and one told me of a girl that would like me but was probably to tall for me. Then another female employee added everyone is too tall for me. My only reply was I'm starting to think so. I've talk with people before and they always tell me that there are plenty of short girls out there, which I know but it seems that they like the bigger guys themselves. I'm not bad looking but instances like the one I stated above crush my self confidence. Which in return makes me shy because I hear it so much that I believe that my height is the only thing that people notice about me. Now goes beyond the whole guy-girl relationship but to all of my human interactions to almost I feel inferior. I guess what I'm asking of you is any advice, or if you have been through similiar how you coped with it

Answer 1

Yeah, being short does have a lot of down sides. But think of it this way: All the girls that don't want to go out with you because of your height are all shallow. Sooner or later, you're going to find someone who doesn't care.
By the way, short people live longer, are more energetic, and tend to be smarter. Keep that in mind ;)
Good luck!

Answer 2

I'm a short girl, and i will admit that anyone who's taller than me makes me feel protected, im 5'0 so i know what being short feels like. People always bring it up and it does getting annoying. But what can you do? i know it must be a lot harder for you because you're a guy, but i think the sexiest thing in a guy is confidence. Don't let it crush your self confidence, reevaluate the good things you have to offer to any girl out there. I've dated short guys before, and it hasn't affected our relationship. Im sure you have a lot of good qualities to offer so don't let your height crush you.

Answer 3

I can understand your concerns. For sure, most women date taller men. The good thing is that you are not TOO short. If you are 5'5 then I would say that there is a pretty good chance that you will meet someone who is just as tall or not as tall as yourself. Meeting a girl is difficult enough for any guy short or tall so don't get down on yourself just becuz you struck out on a few dates. Look at all the hot asian girls they're mostly short! Maybe you should try the asian persuasion!

Answer 4

I think the best think is to take aikido, judo, tae kwon do, or something like that, a martial art. to increase your confidence and so that you have some comebacks because you can take any guy who is 7 foot 2 or whatever. you don't need a girl shorter than you. girls date & marry guys shorter than them all the time. But YOU need to be open to that possibility. Start dating the tallest girls you can find. Even as a joke or with friends. Get used to it. Be confident. Your problem is your confidence. I'm not minimizing the discrimination you face as a short man. it's staggering. but that is the hand you were dealt so play it beautifully

Answer 5

Well, I can see where you are coming from, but the right person for you will look beyond height, to see you for who you really are.
I would not let that affect my self esteem if I were you, because women can sense that and it drives them away.
What matters most if how you see yourself, be confident, and dont
let others make you feel bad- We are surrounded by mean people or by those who dont think before they speak.
Look at all the movie stars who made it regardless of height, and let them be your inspiration. You will be just fine, if you believe in yourself and keep your chin up.

Answer 6

Say, "Being short has never kept me from dating. Has being stupid stopped you?"

I'm a tall girl, 5'9", and dated a couple of guys shorter than me They were some of the best experiences of my life. A confident and worthy girl won't let your height bother her.

Answer 7

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Answer 8

hi!!! growing up in school i never really realized that i was as short as i am...i always had friends that called me all of the nick names that went along with my height, but i thought it was cute to have ppl call me something different from everyone elses nicknames...i got out of school continued on with the same friends, we grew up so no nicknames really...i met my husband and he isn't the tallest person but in school i always had the tall jockey boyfriends....i had my children 3...and it never hit me that i was short until my daughter out grew me and i couldn't see over my son's head when pushing the shopping cart...i feel like one of the kids my children hang out with because they are all taller than me...it feels strange but i am who i am...i've never not had a friend, boyfriend ect....i have a great personality and i enjoy life...i've never picked ppl to hang out with that were in my height catagory ect....you need to be who you are, ppl need to except you for who you are...height is not important...you may marry a woman someday that has been looking for you all of your life, are you going to avoid her just because she's a few inches taller than you??? you may miss out on a lot in this life, and it will be a shame if you let your height be the reason you missed out on so much...as for the ppl your hanging around, i would let them know that you would like it if they would keep the comments about your height out of conversation and accept you for who you are and if they can't do that their going to miss out on a really wonderful person...by the way, i've been with my husband for 16 years and have 3 beautiful children...just think if i would have let all of the name calling and people looking down at me all of my life get to me....i wouldn't have all of the wonderful ppl i have in my life today....and by the way if you were wondering...i'm a very happy loveable 33 year old woman that is 4 feet 11... good luck, i hope this all helped, if it didn't help you, just writting felt great to me.....

Answer 9

just be confident and you will be fine. Don't overcompensate by being a tough guy either, it's pretty obvious when that is the case and a big turn-off

Answer 10

some girls like me like a short guy so if u get a girl that likes that then u will be good. sry for u i am taken lol