soul mates?

Question

i have been married twice ,the first marriage for 10 years and then found out my husband was having a affair and wanted a divorce, second was my first love who ended up trying to kill me, the third WAS the love of my life and my soul mate in every way.... he died very unexspectantly.... i not only was in love with him but i also liked him very much ! he cherished me every day we were together..i KNEW i was importent to him, i was his greatest treasure as he called me ... only after a few months after his death people would come up to me and say things like " your young " or you got your whole life in front of you ! they never even thought or relized that my life that i knew was over dead in the grave w/ his body! my question is this ? do you believe that there is only one soul mate for each person? i do.
please do not answer just for the two points i am seeking answers here to help me continue and find some closure.maybe.thank-you..............

oops sorry ! bill my sould mate was my third! i am glad you caught that so it could be clarified.....

Answer 1

Do you know the story of Ruth, from the Bible. She had two husbands. The first was the one of her youth, and died very young. When her mother-in-law, Naomi, lost both sons and husband, she returned back to her native land. Ruth followed, even though she was advice by Naomi to remain. As a result of her loyalty to Naomi, and to learn about her God, Ruth was blessed with another husband, one whom she fell in love with also.

I'm saying this to say, God only knows what your future holds. Does this mean you will ever be married again and in so much love as you were with the third man, I do not know. Just because you are young does not dictate that you will be married again, nor does it mean you will always be single. Instead, by waiting upon God, you will then find the truest joy of life.

I will be praying for you.

Answer 2

You never know how many soul mates you'll have. If you really thought that this was the only person in the world who could have this kind of relationship with you, you probably wouldn't have even asked the question. I believe that there are several people who could be a soul mate for most people -whether they will meet in such a way as to discover that this person is their soulmate is another question. There's a woman I work with who is a soulmate & a great friend, but we're married to other soulmates. There's a special connection that could have been "the one" if we hadn't already found someone else -she has told me that she wouldn't have had any problem being married to me (but that's never going to happen). No matter what, you have to continue with your life, because there are people who need you (even if they aren't your soulmate). Whether or not you find another soulmate you do have the rest of your life in front of you & you should never think of that as meaningless.

Answer 3

My partner also died of cancer 6 years ago. Like you, we had a great relationship and the grieving over his loss has been long and difficult.

However, after a period of time you will slowly develop a more open mind. The idea of a "soul mate" is mythical. It was a deep connection that you had with your husband, but there are other equally deep connections possible. You can have different kinds of love.

Go slowly and allow yourself to be glad you're alive. If you start looking for a replacement for your dead husband, you'll be disappointed. If, on the other hand, you are open to the positive qualities of the people you meet, you may find someone who meets your needs in a different way, and you his.

Answer 4

There is no such thing as soul mates, but in fact, we are all attracted to each other, some moreso then others. And sometimes we are so attracted and get along so well that it is not hard to think of yourselves as soul mates. But you shouldn't worry, if there is a such thing, it isn't just one person, but many. Just think, out of all the people in the world, to meet only one is a less then a 1 in 3 billion chance. I hope it helps, but these are only my views from experiance, so there's always a chance I could be wrong.

Answer 5

I do not believe that everyone only gets one soul mate. I also believe that the love you had for you soul mate will aid you in future dating adventures as you know what true real love should feel like and will know what will not do for you. I hope you heal and realize that life will eventually go on. But i also hope you give yourself the time to grieve and be mad because that is the only way you will ever be able to move on. Not forget, we never do, but learn to live your life again. Good luck!!!

Answer 6

It has been my life's experience that some of us are capable of loving more than one person and some are not. You've really had a streak of bad luck so at this point I'm almost willing to bet you consider yourself part of the last group.
I assure you that your life can be full and happy again. It's mostly up to you. You can play the martyr and close yourself off to others or you can choose to live your life to the fullest and just be open to the possibilities. It really couldn't hurt to just be open minded about it. I personally believe that we can only receive as much love as we're willing to give.

Answer 7

someone told me once that he believed everyone had several soulmates, and the one that most people considered to be THE soulmate was just the biggest piece. sort of like souls are something that have been dropped and shattered and we're all just trying to find the biggest piece we can to match up with, but that doesn't make the smaller pieces (friends, mentors, kind strangers) any less important. And it doesn't mean that you couldn't one day run into someone that feels like another big part of you. --- i don't know if that helps but just remember that there are alot of good people in the world and it's important to make as many connections (of any kind) as you can with those around you

Answer 8

Well, statistically, there are thousands of "the one" out there.
But, being the hopeless romantic that I am, it a nice thought that we all have a person we'll meet that makes all our dreams come true.
All things considered, if you were happy in your marraige, no doubt your hubby would want you to continue being happy. Don't let anyone push you into dating without properly mourning, that is until YOU feel ready. Sorry for your loss, take care.

Answer 9

i really don't know if there is more than one soulmate for each person, but i do know what it is to loose someone you love evry much and thing only thing that i have found that helps with the pain is to just take it one day at a time.
keep your eyes open and maybe when you least expect it someone will come into your life that will make you feel like you can love again.

Answer 10

There's no such thing as soul mates, dearie. There's nobody pulling the strings to make sure you meet up with someone and spend the rest of your life with him. Just move on. Live your life. If you keep living in the past, you'll wind up just like him.