A Question For Catholics only.. My mother is Catholic, and her priest Gave up the Priesthood.........?

Question

Because he fell in love with a woman and wants to marry her. How do you feel about this? P.S. She is baptist..lol. I don't have a problem with it, but I am no longer a Catholic, and my views have changed.

"Why are you no longer Catholic?" For about the same reasons as you. I felt differently than how I was raised.

He was very honest with the church, and told them how he was feeling upfront, the whole time before he decided to make this choice.

Answer 1

I was once catholic, my mom and all of my family to my knowlege are as well. I personally dont' have a problem with it. No one can say that love is wrong and leaving the priesthood because he fell in love doesn't make him wrong or make him mistakefull. He is a man, regardless of status or name, and a man will always fall in love, whether or not they persue this love is solely up to them, but no one can really turn their back on it.

Answer 2

--is Catholic--

Either this "ex-priest" (you cannot simply "give up" the priesthood...it is not a job but a state of being) should never have been a priest, he fell into deep temptation, or the bishop wasn't watching his priests close enough. The bishop is also responsible for insuring that his priests maintain their vows and if this "ex-priest" was wandering around he should have been helped by his bishop. A priest is literally married to the church (look at the rites for ordination...they are marriage rites...priests often wear wedding bands to signify this) so the whole situation is a form of spiritual adultery. I want to know how much the bishop was involved in helping the priest. The bishop should have had the priest take a sabbatical to get his head sorted out or had him re-assigned from the parish once he got wind of the priest wandering.

On to the priest: What was he doing that he got himself into a situation with another woman? Men who are married who find another woman and then run off are terribly scorned in our society. The priest was fooling around with another woman! The priest is married to the Church! What on earth was he doing and why didn't he seek help from his temptations?

Perhaps the priest never should have been in the priesthood in the first place. This happens. God picks people who need shaping some turn out to be Peters, some Judases. So I would ask how did the Church (including his own congregation) fail him, and how did he fail the Church?

All of it will turn out to be very complicated, and a man has put his own feelings before the will of God.

It is the story of the fall.

We all should pray for somebody as lost as this priest is. It is also a traumatic time for the congregation as they have been scandalized and have been shown a bad example by their former priest.

Answer 3

Why did he leave the Priesthood? The Latin Catholic rite (protestants call it the Roman Catholic rite) of the Church is the only one that doesn't allow its priests to marry.

The other rites within Catholicism allow priests to marry.

The Byzantine Catholic rite, Antioch Catholic rite, Maronite Catholic rite, the Coptic Catholic rite, etc. and many other rites allow the priests to marry.

Too bad this Catholic priest probably didn't know he could remain a priest and still get married.

So many Catholics today are either misinformed or lied to about what the Catholic Church REALLY teaches. People just seem to watch and make assumptions without asking.

Sad.

Answer 4

He won't be able to be a priest in the Roman rite, but he can still be a Catholic if he chooses to remain in the church. The Eastern rite of the Catholic Church which is partners with the Roman Catholics allows their priests to marry. Maybe he could change rites and join the Eastern rite. To each his own. Better that he leave the priesthood and be moral than remain and be sinful. He just can't be a priest in the Roman rite. It's simple. He is not wicked or mean or even wrong. He is following his conscience which I think is more moral than having sex and staying in the priesthood.

Answer 5

First of all, this man is not likely a true priest. In 1962, the antipope (just a claimant, not a real pope) Paul VI changed the Rite of Ordination rendering the sacrament of Holy Orders invalid. Because of this, all the "priests" that were "ordained" after 1962 (by this new rite) cannot be priests. Meanwhile true bishops ordained several real priests by means of the old rite. Unfortunately, many men that were "ordained" by the new rite call themselves priests and are not. They are commonly dubbed "the nickname priests" (example: Fr. Jim, Fr. Don, Fr. Bob) Real priests use the full Catholic names like Fr. Dominic, Fr. Francisco, Fr. Gerard and if they are not affiliated with an order, it Fr. (last name here).

The Catholic Church is just a remnant today. There are many of us, but not as many as the modern "Catholics" who have adopted Protestant heresies as their theology. Catholics attend the latin mass.

Honestly, it's sad that he thought he was a priest and left to marry her. A true priest cannot marry. He is a priest forever and can never marry validly. He would also be committing a mortal sin in the process. Please don't judge the Catholic Church by a sinful man such as this. He is no priest and can quite validly marry anyone he chooses.

Answer 6

Clerical celibacy is a Catholic innovation. It was not practiced for the first 1000 years of the church, and is not practiced by Orthodox Christians or Eastern Catholics to this day. You do understand this, right -- that Ukrainian Catholics, for example, in *full communion* with the Pope, have married priests. It is only the western Church that denies priests the right to marry. This is a disciplinary matter, not a dogmatic one. It was originally done to avoid the problem of priests wanting to will money to their children that would otherwise go to the church. It's tragic that a priest who wants to marry is not allowed to continue to serve as a priest. It's their right, according to the oldest tradition of the church, and it's pure stupid conservatism that keeps the Roman Church from allowing it.

Answer 7

Priests was once allowed to marry, and Eastern Rite clergymen nonetheless are. Someday, the Latin Rite clergymen could also be allowed to marry, too, however now not till the laity of the Church steps up and does plenty of the paintings. For now, being a clergyman is a 24/7/365 responsibility, and a clergyman can't adequately maintain a spouse and youngsters whilst he's devoting such a lot time to the Church. If the laity might do extra to support feed the hungry, safe haven the homeless, discuss with the in poor health, remedy the loss of life, train the ignorant, and so forth., and so forth., it might be one-of-a-kind. Also, there's a economic attention -- the change among assisting a clergyman vs. assisting a clergyman, his spouse and his children is ample. Priests are sexual beings, similar to the leisure folks. They quite simply present their sexuality to the Lord, as a sacrifice, and the Lord honors that sacrifice. Sexual pastime is NOT a need. Many individuals reside with out it. Many individuals SHOULD reside with out it, equivalent to those people who are simplest drawn to youth or youngsters, or folks that simplest have a style for brutal, violent intercourse. We all anticipate sexual deviants to manipulate their sexual appetites. It must be some distance less complicated for a mentally healthful man or woman to manipulate theirs.

Answer 8

I don't know a lot about this, but it sounds wrong to me. When you become a priest, it's kind of a life long decision and there are rules you must follow. Someone who is about to become a priest knows beforehand that they can't marry, so they shouldn't choose that profession if they're going to change their mind. They should just accept it or not join in the first place.

Answer 9

Why are you no longer Catholic? I'm 24 and dude for the record. I was a Catholic, too, but I started reading the Bible and saw things differently.

Answer 10

hmm personally i dont care. hes just a man. i hope hes happy. many will say that he has wronged god...but if god knows what we will all do before we do it why didnt he change it so he didnt wrong god? so in a way god let himself be wronged. most catholics only choose certain things to believe in when its convient for them. i think its better to have an idea and make your own opinions. i was baptisted a catholic. i was also born in england. dont mean i should agree with everything england agrees with.