me and my friend jose are so close. we went to the movies the other day and he totally made a move on me. we ended up holding hands and all that. i had a crush on him forever so i was very happy. he decided to ignore my calls for about a week and now that we have talked he refuses to talk about what happened. i don't want to loose the friendship but i want to know what happened between us and what it meant for him. i feel used somehow. am i wrtong for feeling this way. i want advice from everyone. especially guys. i want to know what a guy is thinking in the situation. please!
2006-08-03 15:58:08 · 14 answers · asked by vicky 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hmm, that's very weird! Well if you were close friends, I doubt he'd do something so cruel as messing with your emotions like that.
Maybe he changed his mind about the both of you, or he may be scared about taking it to the next level in fear of it ruining your friendship, or maybe he's afraid he'll screw up?
This is a very tricky question, so no one can really tell you what's going on inside of his mind but him. The best you can do is ask him what's up and how he feels and all that. You may feel akward asking him how he feels, but it's important you find out before you get hurt. Just tell him you'd appreciate him talking about the events that night and how he feels. Tell him you feel toyed with so he'll know he needs to fess up on why he's leading you on and then pulling back. Good luck! :P
2006-08-03 16:08:49 · answer #1 · answered by Mizzy 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Okay, that is not a friendship. Friends don't do that to one another. This guy is not interested in a relationship with you and your best move would be to drop him asap.
I say this from experience. I wasted so much time worrying and crying over these boys who didn't even like me in the end and it was for the best anyway bc I found someone much much better.
Divert your attention to something else, anything, until you forget about him!!! Trust me!!
2006-08-03 16:02:15 · answer #2 · answered by Miro 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he doesn't want to ruin your friendship. Thats all. He doesn't mean anything harmful, but he thinks that if u two go out with eachother then breakup eventually, you guys won't be friends anymore. The same thing happened to me and my best friend. She is my current gf and we've been going out for 10 months.
Just give him time. Tempt him again. A fish can't ignore a worm forever.
2006-08-03 16:17:14 · answer #3 · answered by Beel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well guys are so hard to explain and i do not have any idea why he acted the way he did now he does not want to call or talk about what happened at the movies...just let it go for a while and see what he does...keep being friends with him but let him make the next move...
2006-08-03 16:03:35 · answer #4 · answered by sanangel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it could be alot of things maybe he is embarrassed about the whole thing because you and he are friends, in any case the boy doesnt want to talk about it so you should just leave him alone and not bring it up anymore . he will bring it up when he is ready.. maybe he doesnt want to loose your friendship and maybe that is most important to him right now. i wouldnt wait around for him if i were you however it may one of these days work out that you 2 end up togather, but boys really dont like to talk about the way they feel it makes them uncomfortable were girls like to talk about every thing all the time , we like to get a clear picture of every thing thats happening. i think you should take the evening for what it was worth . and chalk it up to experience.
2006-08-03 16:25:54 · answer #5 · answered by moe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he tried to take it to another level and wasn't comfortable with it. He took a week to think about it and decided you're better off as friends. Guys aren't good at talking things out, they would rather just let things be, so he hasn't brought it up again. Don't pressure him or act weird, just act like nothing happened and maybe someday you can try again...or maybe you'll just stay friends. Good luck :)
2006-08-03 16:03:40 · answer #6 · answered by CherBear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not wrong for feeling used...you were.
Guys are way to focused on physical things...I'm pretty sure there was nothing emotional behind it at all...he probably just wanted someone to make out with.
I'm sorry that had to happen to you. I hope I'm wrong, but past experiences tell me differently.
2006-08-03 16:04:00 · answer #7 · answered by Maxafrigginlutely 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him what u just said, u dont want to loose ur friendship and tell him that moment was special to you but if he is having second thoughts then thats fine but you still want to be friends. if he wont talk to you in person leave him a note or an email.
2006-08-03 16:03:45 · answer #8 · answered by Still Doll << 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that he feels weird about it and just wants to pretend that it never happened. If you want to save the friendship, don't talk about it until he's ready.
2006-08-03 16:02:25 · answer #9 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am not a guy but sounds like because you did not let him in your pants like maybe he planned he is all weird now but than again you should just ask him what is up
2006-08-03 16:03:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋